I've never fought with my husband?

Question

Not once, we sometimes disagree or lose our tempers for a second, but actually fight? Never. Is it a personality thing or what?

We've lived together for over 2 years...

Oh, sorry, we usually lose our tempers with eachother, it's just because both of us get irritable with anything, everyone or whatever not through disagreement. It's a mood.

Answer 1

LOL @ BK

Contrary to "popular" belief, there is really no need for a husband and wife to fight.

Selfless adults are able to communicate their concerns, issues, or grievances respectfully and effectively.

It is a normal thing for two people to disagree, and it is also a normal thing for two people to get angry.. but it is how those disagreements and anger are managed that determine the kind of relationship they can and will have.

My wife and I have a relationship similar to what you've described. We never fight. We do disagree.. and those disagreements can get heated at times. But there is no need to ever shout one another down, call names, curse, or slam doors. We also make sure that if there is anger, then that anger is never directed toward one another.

We can be completely free and comfortable with one another, without making a fool of ourselves for the sake of making sure that our respective points are understood.

In my opinion.. you are not abnormal. Keep up the good work!

Answer 2

My husband and I have had one disagreement...when we were building our first house someone else suggested we finish only a portion of it and then complete it while we lived in it...at the time we were considering a two story but then ended up building a large bungalow.

We've been married 30 years ;) and that was our single disagreement. We always discuss things rationally and without any 'heated' arguments...because of that our 5 children tend to be the same way. The only draw back has been that our children tend to become uncomfortable in situations where people are arguing.

I do think it is a personality trait and also if one has been raised within an environment where arguing isn't present. Both my husband and I had parents that did not argue...discussions on a rational level where the norm in both our upbringings.

Continue on this way and you'll have a very strong marriage.

Good luck

Answer 3

If you r married you will have disagreements. This is normal . How you handel them will make or break the respect. Communication in a civil manner , No name callin ...is a must. Its important to learn your partner .and do not take the relationship to the breaking point..{ This is a very important phase in dateing} Making good decisions for the better of both is how you come to terms w/ solutions. Remember you r one and although you may not have things go your way all the time you need to learn to respect & compromise.w/ each other. When there is very little fighting.... you are a example of a couple who hold value to thier relationship!!!!

Answer 4

my husband and i have been married for 7 years and we have had 2 "fights", it you call raising your voice a fight. We had both been in bad relationships before meeting each other and there was a lot of fighting in those. We decided that nothing gets accomplished with fighting. You really need to sit and talk things over. We also never want our kids to see us fighting or angry at each other. There really is no point to fighting, it is best to calm down, sort out the issue and approach it calmly

Answer 5

Personality and morals have a lot to do with it. My husband and I agreed before getting married that we wouldn't call each other out of our names no matter how upset we were. We have managed to keep this promise because of respect for each other as a life partner. If a relationship gets to the point that names are being call and God forbid any physical abuse occurs, the relationship was not meant to be. Fighting only tears apart relationships.Real and true relationships are supposed to combine the two people to make one intity of love. And it sound like you found yours!!!!

Answer 6

I never fight with my boyfriend.

While some would say that we have an unhealthy relationship, I believe quite the opposite. We never let things escalate to "fighting" because we have open and effective communication, are honest, and genuinely care about the other's feelings.

Most relationships and marriages suffer in the first two areas.

I think you have a strong relationship and I wouldn't worry about not fighting :)

Have a great day...

Answer 7

It is sometimes a good thing to not fight--but sometimes it can mean that there is no passion in your relationship. You can't have love without hatred--not saying that you should hate your husband or anything --just sometimes when you fight with someone it's because yolu care about them so much that you want them to agree with you or you want them to be right and you feel like they are not. If you are worried about it then maybe you should talk to your husband--or start a fight with him..lol

Answer 8

I think that losing your temper while disagreeing is fighting. I assume you don't mean physical. I actually agree that some personalities, or astrological signs like Libra, are passive and avoid fighting.

Answer 9

Keep up the good work. You dont have to fight to solve problems. But with my husband and myself we are both extremely passionate about our beliefs, we fight each other with passion and love with the same strength, so im not sure if there is a right or wrong way.

Answer 10

That is wonderful and I understand you completly cause I am also the same in my relationship and i feel everyone have to express themselves here and there. Just know that it is all temporary and we go right back to holding each other when it is over. Nothing is wrong with your relationship. Good for you continue to love each other.