He & I have been dating for a while and we are both bisexual. We are in love and have decided after marriage to have an open relationship once in while to spice things up. However, we are both supposed to be present while a 3rd person is around. Sunday I went out with a new female friend and he was with us initally, then went to work. She and I went dancing, had too much to drink & ended up kissing a couple times. I was open and honest with him yet he says it hurt him and he feels like I cheated!! So should he be upset with me?
2007-05-03 02:20:23 · 15 answers · asked by * SouR GirL * 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Since you made the rule that the other person should be there when something happens with a third party, I'd say yes, he has every right to be upset with you!
These "free relationship"-things are very dangerous...especially when you don't follow the rules...
2007-05-03 02:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you said you went against what you agreed i.e. he wasn't present. So I think he is right to be upset. Still, you were honest, so he should get over it, and I imagine it's also testing your relationship before you marry which is a good thing.
2007-05-03 02:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by cub222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you and your boyfriend have a different definition of bisexuality. However, you kissed this girl "before" you and he married, and that is against the "rules". I can see no future for either of you with each other. And dahlink, please, why is it that over imbibing is the reason given for most 'Unacceptable" behavior. If you are attracted to a person, OK, but keep it private if you want to maintain peace in the "village"
2007-05-03 02:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you weren't bi and you kissed her i would think nothing of it. but since you do like girls i would be pretty upset. if you guys agreed that you are both supposed to be present if a 3rd person is involved than he should have been there. you agreed on something but didn't keep your end up. he has every right to be upset.
2007-05-03 02:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No emotional response is ever unwarranted when it comes to matters of the heart. Regardless of right and wrong, it sounds to me like you both had better reevaluate the idea of open relationships between the two of you.
2007-05-03 02:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by randyken 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you betrayed his trust - and what is worse you don't even understand. How would you feel if he was slobbering all over some guy in your absence?
If I were him I would dump you - you are a cheater and will always be a cheater. I cannot think of anything bad enough to say about you!!!
2007-05-03 02:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he knows your bi, and knew that you would want to do something with other ppl once in a while, he should've seen this coming. but if u both agreed that both of u wanted to be there when this was going on, then i would say it was cheating, or at least betraying their trust a little.
2007-05-03 02:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by nevrknwsbst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not so sure that your relationship is at the stage where you and he can actually consider bringing in an outsider if he is exhibiting jealousy over a kiss.....
2007-05-03 02:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
Think of your agreement as a contract. You broke said contract. The consequence is his being upset.
It's justified.
So get to making amends for breaking the contract.
2007-05-03 04:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, I wonder why. Sounds like a completely normal, healthy relationship to me. NOT
2007-05-03 03:24:05 · answer #10 · answered by Aquaria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋