My husband of 10 months has asked for a divorce & packed his stuff. We have two YOUNG children.?

Question

We have a 22 month old & a 6 month old. He cheated a month before the wedding & i forgave him. I dont want a divorce but his mind is made up. I was out of town with family for the weekend & packed his stuff but hasn't moved yet. Anyway I can change his mind?

Answer 1

Consider yourself lucky!!

Answer 2

My, my, he is the drama queen, your husband.
He's packed his stuff and it's just sitting around the house now, as a reminder that he can leave when he wants to?
If he asked for a divorce, what was your answer?
Whatever your answer, I hope you realize that fighting a divorce request from your husband would be extremely difficult. A divorce basically frees him up to marry again (this may be the reasoning behind his request. He may have gotten a woman pregnant...) However, if he wants to go, he is gone!
So get yourself to a lawyer this very minute. Get ready for the ordeal of dissolving your marriage legally. Consider your lawyer your firepower because your husband is most likely not going to be generous. He may have a new family to support in the near-future, remember!
I'm so sorry. You have written about forgiving him for an infidelity, and I suppose that means you would forgive him again. Infidelity usually is just cheating, plain and simple, but with the right mixture of infidelity, unplanned pregnancy, or even a strong-willed vindictive 'other woman', his hand is forced and you should just give him what he wants.
Take care of those babies and face a new life! Think about how absolutely shocked and devastated you would be if he HADN'T cheated on you before.
No, you can't change his mind. His new girlfriend could - she could give him his walking papers and he'd be at your door. But despite the babies, despite the marriage certificate, a cheater cheats and that's what he's doing.

Answer 3

Let the Little boy go.

Sounds like he was too immature to get married in the first place anyway, - and so were you. When will you people figure out that the ability to drive a car while talking on a cell phone, making some money on their own, smoking cigarrettes and drinking beer, and jumping in the sack with whom every they want does not make them adults, and the ability to have taken part in producing a child does not automatically make them a parent. Why in the world do you suppose there is a 50% divorce ratre in this Country? It's because spoiled children who are used to having everything, and waiting for absolutely NOTHING,

So when reality shows up one morning with dirty diapers, and you're tired because you were up with here from 3:00 AM until 4:00 AM, while DO HO there was out whith his Buddies all night - and he can change her this time, ( but he's got a massive han g ove rand does not / will not get out og bed.

And The Left front tire on the trans am is flat again, and yes shedid pout in anothe can as this stuffwhich your bout ma case of a year a go, - whih was a little past it's sale by date then" "Well hells bells Julies Its for fixing flats - it aani't fruit cocktail"!

And so on it goes, - it always the little things, his family invite her husbund and the girls up to the lake and specifically do not ask for her to come too.

They live in a doulbe wide trailer, and they have a $ 3,000.00 hutch with 12 china place settings in it that her mother in law picked out, the place settings cost $ 185.00 a setting - not including silver. The Refigerator keeps breaking down, and Donny went out with his Daddy last weekend and bought a new $ 500.00 shotgun for Pheasant HUnting season which is about to open up..

And you want to know if there is anyway you can change his mind? I suppose he could turn you out to trick for him. No? OK - Here's an old standby favorite - Make another baby together! So there will be 4 of you on public assistance next year and not just three.

Answer 4

Think about this for a few minutes... This man cheated before you started a life together and now after only ten months of marriage he wants out? It doesn't sound like he is really the man of your dreams that I am sure you deserve! Yeh it may be hard at first but I assure you, if you sit and wait this out not letting your open wound get in the way. You will be alot happier with out this scum bag in no time! Best of luck and stand strong, your children will thank you some day!

Answer 5

If he's cheating again and has found someone else be glad that you haven't invested any more time or energy or stress into him than you have at this point. You should consider yourself lucky that it is happening now and not 5-10 years down the road. As for the kids.....at least you'll probably get some good child support and the chance to find a real man who is worthy of your love.

Answer 6

No, there's no way to change his mind, and why would you? Just let him go.

You aren't blameless in this either, why would you marry someone who cheated on you, are you an idiot? I'd say that cheating is a major red flag, wouldn't you? When he cheated you, you should have cancelled the wedding and you wouldn't have to go through a divorce now. I definitely wouldn't have had another child with someone that cheated on me.

It's under a year, so you may be able to get an annullment, and you'll be able to get child support from him, based on how custody is arranged. Just do this and move on, and try to learn from your mistakes.

Answer 7

Let him go! It may be hard at first, but eventually you'll see it was for the best. He has already cheated on you once, trust me you don't want him to stay. Never beg to a man. If he thinks that he can do whatever and still come home to you he'll never change. The more s#!t you take from a man the more he is going to throw at you. Be strong and find someone that is going to treat you like you deserve to be. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Sweetie, you don't need this in your life. He probably is cheating on you again and realized he just cant' live a lie with you and do that again, so he is just leaving instead of facing his messed up head. The thing about this is that you NEED to get what you need from him (money, housing support etc). He can not legally disengage himself from your life without providing from his family whether he choses to be a part of it himself or not.
About what you can do to change his mind; usually there is nothign you can do about a man making up his mind. I don't know everythign that has happened between you but no woman needs a cheating man in her life tearing her heart apart every 10 months or so.

Answer 9

I'm going through something similar, although we only have 1 child. But yeah, I haven't found anything that works yet. I think the best thing you can do, and what's worked best for me so far, is just move on. Work with him to allow him to see your children, get your child support money and do what you can to keep it together. I know it's hard and I completely relate, but there's nothing you can do to make him change his mind.

(Remember: The best revenge is living well.)

Answer 10

It doesn't sound to me like this man deserves to stay with a faithful wife such as yourself and your two precious babies. He's already cheated on you before you were even married, and now after 10 months he is calling it quits. I hate to sound judgmental, but it doesn't sound like your husband has the emotional maturity level to handle a commitment to anyone. Trust me, it is not a failure on your part. Be glad he wants out. Think of the life you would have with someone who would cheat on you or desert you after such a short time. You deserve someone who can commit to you like you deserve.

I would go ahead and let him move out, and I'd probably seek a divorce myself on the grounds of his cheating. You should get an order for child support from him while being free to find someone who will give you the commitment and love you AND your children deserve. Remember, your babies don't need a role model of someone who cheats on Mama and deserts her.

Good luck sweetie and my heart really goes out to you.

Answer 11

You don't want the threat of the father of your children moving out every day. That's no way to live. Let him go, or better yet, set his stuff outside and tell him to come get it. Move on and find someone you can trust to be a life partner.