its something we want to try just once,do you think this would be wrong??
2007-05-03 01:32:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I wouldnt suggest it. I've been there and its been a few months since, it still hurts. There has to be rules, you and your husband have to talk about everything. I am assuming that your husband and you love each other very much, its going to hurt when he has sex with this other woman. It hurt me to see it. There will always be that thought in the back of your mind that you cant satisfy your husband and that someone else did. I would highly suggest you dont. Its not that its wrong, there is just too much after affect. I regret that night, and it almost ended my relationship. Try role playing, or dressing up different, or buying toys and you and your husband try something new, just the two of you.
2007-05-03 01:46:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you and your husband want to try a 3some. I would like to know if you or your husband was first to bring up the subject? Another question is, are you bi or do you think you might be? Also do you have a third party that is willing or are you looking? Sorry to ask so many questions. But ask your self this and the answers will lead to a fun time or the end of you relationship. Would you be interested in a MFM threesome?
I would suggest if you are Bi-curious and know someone you would like to be with, leave the husband out and have a woman to woman first to see what you are comfy with! Then if she and you like it, try bringing the husband in for fun.
2007-05-03 09:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by solow321 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He'll really enjoy it. A lot. Just imagine watching him be with this other woman. Sharing his most private emotions with this woman that he promised only to share with you. The smile on his face.
I'm sure you won't feel left out. I'm sure the threesome won't cause you to questions anything about the relationship. Or him. I'm sure he'll never think about this woman again in that way. Certainly not when it's just the two of you in bed. I'm sure he won't eventually leave you to be with this woman again and again and again.Or am I? Are you?
You'll enjoy it, right? This is a couples thing. This will somehow strengthen your marriage. You've always thought about being with another woman, right?
Never mind the fundamental violation of your vows.
Just once. Right.
2007-05-03 08:50:05 · answer #3 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have done threesomes before. She is bi and is as active in the events as I am. We have always approached this issue as a couple not two individuals. We started our slow only with her and the other woman being active with one another only. We then let things cool off for a few months to see if any problems came up. We continued to move further along this path until we found our limits and set some rules in stone. This has not been a detriment to our marriage but I can certainly see how it could. To eliminate any fears on her part she is in control and dictates time, place etc.
From the male perspective I can tell you it is the COOLEST THING IN THE WORLD!!! I LOVE MY WIFE SOOOOO MUCH!!!!
2007-05-03 09:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have a very close friend who wanted to make her husbands fantasy come true, so they had a threesome. He ended up having sex with the girl multiple times afterwards, which was at first okay with my friend, but then she decided she didn't want that to happen. Then she had a nervous breakdown about the whole thing because she thought he was always going to be trying to hook up with other women, and SHE ended up leaving HIM to be with women! They have two young children that are going through this to, its such a mess. If you want to kink it up in the bedroom, get toys or something - another person may be okay at first but it will screw you up in the long run,
2007-05-03 08:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... So far what I have read with all the responses is alot of closed minds. If your relationship is secure and a good one, then all the "Fundamental Restraints" shouldnt hold you back. Marriage is a partnership, and if you do, it needs to be a "together experience" not just because one wants to. BUT... if there is any doubt whatsoever in your mind then its not suggested. The experience can either be an amazing one or a traumatic one. Good luck on whatever decision you make.
2007-05-06 11:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by L & I J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what the heck yeah that is wrong. why choose a woman choose another guy unless youre bi. but if youre married you shouldnt try having threesomes so wrong on so many levels.
2007-05-03 08:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call me old fashion, BUT isn't marriage suppose to be between two people who love each other? If you do this i think you will regret it, and i agree with the other answerer, it is his excuse to do the dirty with another woman. And maybe you both should lay off the porn watching, that is fantasy not reality.
2007-05-03 08:42:58 · answer #8 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would not try it cus you never know if latter on that you or your husband will think it is right to sleep with another person and not have any consequences...
2007-05-03 09:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by kidi_69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your relationship is sagging and your not getting what you want out of it... this isn't going to be a long term fix. If its just for the experience and an extension of your sexual life and for you to explore you bi side, then go for it and do it like no one is watching.
2007-05-03 08:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋