why does my husband sleep every nite with his back to me and not 1 time does he touch me if i just barely touch his feet sometimes he tell me uhhh or a few times he looks at me as if hes not sure who i am or were hes at? now im not completly stupid but just need someone just to say it to me can you help? we also had past cheating and im having hard time dealing with it and for him its like now its out deal with it ur self he has no bad feelings of him hurting me not 1 but what i no of 3times please help?
2007-05-03 00:48:58 · 13 answers · asked by lonely 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You problems are way bigger than anything we can address here. Please consider a therapist or an attorney. Or both...
2007-05-03 00:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know all the details, but why are you trying so hard? He isn't, a loving husband would feel remorse for what he has done and be willing to work on it. Sounds like hes uninvolved in the marriage-mentally, physically, emotionally. Maybe it is time for you to stop trying so hard and let him go. It might break your heart for awhile, but so is the life you are living now. And with out him there, you will have the opportunity to work on yourself and become a strong woman again, meet some one new and maybe find the man that you need, not the one you are stuck with. Good Luck
2007-05-03 08:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I love each other very much, but we sleep back to back. I don't think that necessarily means anything. However, the prior cheating IS a problem. And if he's not wanting sex from you, it seems to me that there is a high probability that he might be getting it somewhere else. Respect yourself, Miss. Also, realize that life is much too short to be sad and to be treated badly. It sounds like you have been patient and forgiving for long enough. Do yourself a favor and start living life for YOU. BE HAPPY.
2007-05-03 08:07:23 · answer #3 · answered by Adam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a fool to stay with this man who sounds like is cheating again. What are you getting out of torturing yourself. Whats it going to take to get it through your head? He doesnt respect or love you enough to honor vows and I think he is just going through the motions of being in a marriage that he does NOT want to be in. I know I'm being harsh but I stand behind what I'm saying and perhaps my harshness will get it through your head because you havent been able to read his clues up to now. G'luck!
2007-05-03 07:54:05 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you guys have kids together? Consider counseling. Consider leaving. Did you cheat or did he cheat or both? if he has cheated on you three times it might be good that you are not having sex, he might have an STD from one of them. You could hire a private investigator to see if he is currently cheating on you.
2007-05-03 07:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by Summer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt have the guts to leave u but obviously he is not attracted to u and he cheats on u
tell him your feelings and how he has mistreated u and see how he responds sit him down and talk it all when he is fresh and awake to pay attention
give him a last warning then leave him if he disappoints u agian
2007-05-03 16:04:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the same position. He was cheating on me. I'm now a single women and could not be any happier. I'm would rather be alone then with someone and alone.
2007-05-03 08:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is the only solution. After you divorce him if you want you can start talking to me. Go ahead and click on my name and see my 360 page with my profile and tell me what you think. Hopefully you dont have any kids...I dont care personally...but a divorce is hard on them.
2007-05-03 07:53:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is very self-centered and egotistical to have such a non-caring attitude about cheating on you, and your self esteem has been worn down to nothing to hang in there with him when he is very obvious about not caring for or about you.
i would move out. i would ask him if he wants to go to counseling to save the marriage, and even if he agreed, i wouldnt be quick to move back in with him, because i would be going to my own counseling session without him to rebuild my own self esteem and learn from my learned behavior patterns that got me into that mess, get involved in church/and or social groups that would be new territories for me to develop healthy friendships..and time would tell from there...either we would eventually get back together through counseling or end up divorced...but i would learn how to not ever get caught up in another co-dependent relationship with a new jerk ...
2007-05-03 08:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by D.... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first is to check your wholeday activities, if its always stressfull well, according to my experienced men really are like that if they are tired... but in the back of my mind i really don't have a clear answer for that my friend because in my situation, i still experience that problem... i do hope also that we have a males who can answer give insight on this matter...
2007-05-03 07:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by Leciram 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he may be in the midst of affair #4. If you want to continue to put up with his running around that is up to you.
2007-05-03 07:55:31 · answer #11 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋