20 years olds at work giving me a hassle no respect . rude so on?

Question

i am an az driver thats a tractor trailer driver . anyway . i have to work with a few others kids really its a moving company .
anyway the 2 kids in question have threatened me with vilonce the boss told to not to . but when there are 2 of them together and no boss around they do this. they wont do this when they are one on one with me .
should i wait for my day off and go to there homes or just one home of them and beat the crap out of him . i am not really into this but they are beyond coprehesion. . i cant discribe how rude they are . so should i go to one of them off work and beat the crap out of him . i am a former corrections officer/police officer defence trainer . not a former cop i just trained the trainers. so beating the crap out of them would not be hard for me . i am 44 m ,. what do you think i should do .

i know that one kid has a conduct disorder. been in lots of fights so on has a new born baby just found out about .
the other one admitts he is adictted to pot. and both of them are terrible they do speak to others like me . new people . i have been there almost a year. they have been there a year and 2 months kind of thing . they talk about the other workers like they are idiots. and never stop talking about the other workers when they not there.

Answer 1

There have been some good answers already so I'll try not to repeat too much what other people have already said.

However, I would like to repeat that violence is not the answer and I think even you already know that.

Regardless of the moral implications, you could seriously compromise your own situation and end up with costly legal problems.

Another approach not mentioned is to try and figure out the source of the threats and the reasons behind them.

First of all, is it possible to know whether or not there have been other complaints with these kids, or has it just been against yourself?

If it's just been against you, then you need to ask why? Perhaps you already know the answer.

It sounds like you have no patience or respect for these kids. Was that always the case? Perhaps they are immature and are just reflecting your own attitude against them.

It sounds like your situation is beyond talking and immediate steps need to be taken. Since you are a driver and the other kids are loaders it sounds like you are a more valuable employee than they are, so your boss will most likely take your side since hiring strong backs is a heck of a lot easier than hiring a new driver. If they can't be transferred to a new driver, then it sounds like they need to be replaced. They've threatened you and have placed you in an intolerable work situation. You don't want to work in those conditions so change it.

If that's not possible, try to come up with an 'agreement' with the others to just work and stop the comments and you will do likewise. Try and give them respect with then deserve it. Praise them when they do well and try and ignore whatever they do badly. It sounds like they are rebellious with authority so try not to order them about. If work needs to be done and they aren't doing it you need to make it seem like it's their idea to work rather than just order them. That takes a lot of work on your part, but it might be worth it in the long run.

No one likes an authoritarian but on the other hand a 'wishy washy' person will get zero respect as well. You really need to find the middle ground, be fair and consistent.

For example, it won't work to make a 'threat' if they're aren't doing something if you don't follow through. If you threaten violence on them, that won't work at all since they know it's an empty threat. If you follow through on your threat then they will have ammunition against you.

Also, if you're tried the 'stick' without results, try the carrot. It sounds like you're probably in charge of them. What works best is the attitude that YOU will support them, rather than the other way around.

If they work really hard one day, and aren't doing their usual back talk, etc...buy them a coffee to show your appreciation. Smile and say "good work". You don't have to go overboard or anything and never say something you don't really mean. Try not to make it like a big deal.

Hope some of these ideas will help!

Answer 2

You're 44 years old so you should know better than to do that.

The right action is to write a compaint so they can perform a thorough investigation before the company can take action. You said you were a corrections officer so you know how to write a log. Write down specific times they've tried to do this and write them up. Call your boss that same day if it gets abusive.

It's the manager's responsibilities to make sure that everyone in the company gets equal rights. Threatening someone is a form of harassment. Harassment should not be allowed in a workplace and in most cases illegal.

Answer 3

I don't think that's the answer. You would be stooping down to their level. I would still try to keep working with your boss about this and ask your boss if he really thinks you should put yourself in danger with these punks. You shouldn't have to put up this crap at work. Explain to him that you are just trying to do your job and this harrassment is making it impossible. Good Luck

Answer 4

Call the police and make a report. Then file a restraining order.