2007-05-02 21:51:37 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't know. It must be very hard to do it. I would imagine because they've been hurt so much in the past that they can't take the emotional attachments anymore. They are probably afraid of rejection and commitment.
2007-05-02 21:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by gone 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most commonly it's because they have been hurt by friends in the past. After that they live in trauma and it will unfold in any one or more ways: They live defensively; not getting too close to people relationship wise; they do not trust people/ don't open up easily; they don't forgive/ they are bitter against they idea of having to trust other people because of their past; they makes friends and then they will purposely make a problem to get out of the friendship when they feel they are getting too close to the person; they avoid the opportunity to make/have friends all together; they make a lot of acquaintances at a superficial level so that they always have an excuse not to spend too much time or get to personal with any; they use people who they don't realize are genuinely interested in being their friend; they think they are the perfect friend that know one is worth having; they are critical of the human race especially anyone who is in any way similar to who ever hurt them.
It is very sad that people are this way but if you know any one that does these things they need a lot of love.
These people need love and acceptance. It doesn't mean they will change but there is always hope.
2007-05-03 05:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by efren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are terribly selfish.
They dont even want to give an ounce of time for anybody.
Some profiles of the most super wealthy
are all the same, they do not trust.
Leaving them without friends in thier lives.
Only business associates or the employed.
Another type of person would be the
insane, which do not trust because they
are incapable to be trusted.
Severe trauma cases like rape, war, or
very life threatening circumstances over a long period of time that would cause a person not only to lose trust but the pain
of losing friends.
2007-05-03 05:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by PENMAN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people go through life with no friends because they do not want them. They're blocking other people out and preventing them from coming close. The question is why? I'm sure there are all sorts of psychological reasons. Human beings are by nature social animals - when we choose to isolate ourselves we always have some reason whether or not we are aware of it.
2007-05-03 05:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by reeaita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch!!! That should NEVER happen to anybody! Perhaps they were shy and fell into the rut of being by themselves over a long period of time. But it seems almost impossible to do. If they go into a store or a coffee shop or a bar, they're just bound to talk to somebody! Hopefully, at the very least, they found "friends" in reading good books.
2007-05-03 04:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by Constant Reader 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people like privacy, I do. I don't like people just dropping in whenever they have time to kill on their hands, because I have a full schedule and am usually busy.
The people I know will call beforehand and ask if it's O.K. to stop in. They usually get a warm welcome.
If your a coffee clutcher, with nothing to do but pester others, stay away from me.
P.S. I do have lot's of friends. And, Oh! I also love my private time.
2007-05-03 05:00:40 · answer #6 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that friends I have had in the past, do not live up to my expectations - meaning that they have hurt me - betrayed me - not been as loyal as myself - they have done things that I would NEVER dream of doing to them - so I find it now easier to have acquaintances rather then what you would class as friends - maybe other people think the same as me. And please I am not asking for sympathy - I am really happy with the way I am.
2007-05-03 05:00:10 · answer #7 · answered by Redhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because some people are independent and often time very introverted. Sometimes people don't always need the safety of "friendship" or may feel restricted by it. Other times they may feel like everyone is beneath them, and well...some people are just loners by nature.
2007-05-03 04:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is maybe coz they've had a bad experience in frendship in the past and thats y their trying to cautious in the future(sumtimes overly cautious)
2007-05-03 04:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by gud girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They might have bad experiences that is why they are not open to new friends and maybe they have come to a stage where they don't need friends at all?
2007-05-03 04:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋