so Ive read others questions similar to this and everyone says just speak your mind and let people know the real you. However when I am with anyone outside of my good friends, my mind wont let me speak it. Im constantly thinking of conversation that would work. My basic question is how do you overcome a mild social anxienty? I dont want any answers such practice leaving your comfort zone like joining theatre or public speaking because Ive tried that and it works when Im in theatre or public speaking but as soon as Im in a social situation that im not comfortable with I clam up and use the usual "so whatre you doing these days" or "how is life treatin ya" I want to learn to be one of those outgoing pompous jackasses that still seem to be the centre of attention. If you dont understand my question, then please dont answer.
2007-05-02 21:03:44 · 10 answers · asked by yo 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I get over bieng shy by just playin' dumb
2007-05-02 21:09:19 · answer #1 · answered by Adrian G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, I would say, take situations that make you uncomfortable, and just respond in abusrd ways, that are out of character for you. See how people respond, and itll never be as bad as you think. You can use that to build your own self confidence and show people who you truly are. Perhaps, that is a shy person though. Dont feel bad for being shy. It has its merits...
2007-05-03 04:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by eldeeder 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that for one, if you are comfortable with yourself then you can be comfortable around others. don't try so hard. relax and take it easy.
now, some people can and will make you feel uncomfortable and that's when you have to learn to "tune" them out.
have confidence in yourself and you will be just fine.
i know it's easier said than done, but just give it a try.
2007-05-03 04:11:22 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Charmed One♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just find ways to build up your confidence..Like joining a band, accomplishing great things in career..Sometimes compliments from others would boost up your confindence and shyness would just soon fade.
2007-05-03 04:29:57 · answer #4 · answered by chucky a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u like it start it:i am so shy too and i looked for any kinda cure but there were not any in any book or advice I 've got it by watchin different people in their daily lives!
step by step :try to do each day even one thing that u always wanted to do but ur shy personality did not let ya and see its results,in a week u'll find lots of thing that u have cus u do not act shy any more.u can not overcome it in one day ,
START TO BREAK UR SHY PERSONALITY STEP BY STEP ,BY DOIN' EACH DAY A THING U HAVE ALWAYS THOUGHT U CAN NOT DO CUS U'RE A SHY PERSON!
2007-05-03 07:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by TARA_K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't "get over" being shy. you learn to control it. Don't be afraid to open your mouth. Know you and what you think and believe have worth. The biggest part is to develop confidence in yourself. Yeah I know, that's the hard part, just keep working at it.
2007-05-03 04:10:33 · answer #6 · answered by Gonealot R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way you do in social settings. I am looking into Hypnotherapy.
2007-05-03 04:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by Sancho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
attend public gathering try to speak when ever you get the chance,above all recognize that human is error.
2007-05-03 04:16:15 · answer #8 · answered by mahider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got over it by forget what other people thinks.
But one thing i cant get over it, when everytime i meet a beautiful girl in school. Maybe you can help me too. hahah
2007-05-03 04:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by myvampiredrak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to public place and run around naked
2007-05-03 04:11:10 · answer #10 · answered by John K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋