I am 17 and my best friend is 18. We've been friends for a very long time but in the last 2years we've become a lot closer. We both love each other as more than friends.
The problem is, we live atleast a 2hour plane trip away from each other. The next I will see him will be in August. Next year, however, I plan to move up there for University.
We've talked about sex and etc (we are both virgins by choice) and we really want to be together.
Losing my virginity is a big deal for me, him too.
I told him I want to be in a relationship with him and I want to be able to wake up to him the next morning. I also don't want to feel rushed into it and we should take things slowly, and not have sex when I come up to visit in August.
I am on the pill and we will be careful and use more than 1 kind of protection.
Is this sensible?
(I'm not religious and I don't believe you have to wait for marriage btw)
Thank you.
2007-05-02 19:53:29 · 12 answers · asked by ★☆✿❀ 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I do trust my own and I have made up my mind. I'm just curious as to what you would do if you were in my position.
2007-05-02 20:06:16 · update #1
Sounds like to me you have thought this through all the way, I would say just be careful b/c sometimes plans change you know? I mean for you planning on going to college there, but other then that you both sound very sensible, just be careful in august, because sex is VERY tempting, trust me! But good luck you sound reasonable to me
2007-05-03 03:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do appreciate, why you ask this question. We all want to see how we measure up, or fit in, with the rest of the world. Ultimately, we embrace our standing, or reject it; we do what we want. If we fit in, it is easier to reject the guilt that may be imposed by the super-ego. This would be particularly true, had you had a religious upbringing, that made premarital sex, wrong or sinful. Even though you haven't, those judgments are all about us; they have their impact.
In regard to sexual activity, my casual observation has been, girls who engage in sex early in college, rather than early in high school, are generally healthier, happier, more successful, and emotionally stable. However, I make no cause and effect judgments by this statement.
It is important to have a plan, a heading; it is a sign of responsibility. However, life can often be like taking a canoe trip down a river, fraught with rapids. Things may not go as planned; all you can do is embrace your experience, be it negative or positive, make corrections to your heading, and continue your journey. Most importantly, don't judge yourself.
2007-05-04 01:05:24 · answer #2 · answered by Larry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you've done a lot of thinking about it and you've planned it out. you've known him for a long time, so it doesn't sound bad at all.
i think i might wait until you move up there for university to have sex only because you will have a better idea of how your romantic relationship will evolve once you spend more time together. right now absence may be making the heart grow fonder, since you aren't able to see each other as often.
2007-05-02 20:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by georgiegirl422 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say losing ur virginity is a big issue for you and him, well that`s the point of why you shouldn`t lose it before you are sure that u gonna loose it with the right person u don`t wanna waste it after all that time, are u sure he`s the one.
how can u be sure that ur personalities fit togther if you let sex get into it.and don`t tell me that u`ve been friends cz friend ship is totally diff than living togther and getting married or having kids.
That`s why church learns us to control ourselves,i`m not judging u ,it`s your life u could do what ever u want i just admire u and ur friend for keeping ur virginity,and i want u to loose it in the right time with the right person,it`s a totally different feeling.
Good luck and god bless
2007-05-03 00:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by Gery 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think by August 2008 you will find that your "Best Friend" turned love interest has found someone at his University who has caught his interest. It is also likely that you will run across (hopefully not with your car) some guy who you are compatible with. Long distance romances rarely work out even for "long time friends". "Absence makes the heart go wander." As for the sex, you seem to have given this a lot of thought but a few words of advice, while it is nice that you have made it to 17 without having sexual intercourse, don't make it such a big deal just in case the first few times are not the "ideal love" you seem to have set it up to be. Good luck young one.
2007-05-02 20:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by Snake 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
ur mind seems made up. if u want 2 wait then do that sum folks dont hav the same view on it as u. only u kno the right decision to make.
2007-05-03 03:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by Princess K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's how you feel, then uh... yeah. Thats whats beautiful about human will, you have the ablity to choose what you want in your life... I wish more people were that way, so I guess my question is, why are you asking? Do you not feel the way you say you do?
2007-05-02 19:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by Ashlie H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you have already decided!... I think that is a sensible idea!
2007-05-03 04:40:03 · answer #8 · answered by neiko07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya go ahead. . . . .i don't see how much can go wrong. . . . but be careful. . . .this is a very big step you're taking. . . .but i'd say that you seem to have it all planned out so go ahead
2007-05-03 07:15:36 · answer #9 · answered by Stellar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, why do you need to ask? it sounds like you've already decided.
2007-05-02 19:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by fnqbigboy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋