you deserve to be hurt, everyone hates you, and wherever you go you will eventually be hurt by someone. Again, the question is: how would you combat the negative effects of this on you?
2007-05-02 19:16:28 · 9 answers · asked by cad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Wow!! I definitely believe that heath has slammed the nail on the head. I really do not have an answer for you but I send forth words of comfort. Please do not deal with this on your own. Keep searching for the help that will give you peace.
best wishes.
2007-05-02 19:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ecala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling. I had to do so to deal with my mother.
I had to tell myself that it is HER that has a problem. And that in a way she is like a child. I have to accept the fact that she will never be the mother I wanted her to be.
I have learned that there are certian things that I can't talk to her about. Becasue there are triggers for her behavior and I need to avoid them. Also, I am rarely alone with her or verbally she gets going and I want to scream.
You tell your brain that what your mother says is not truth and that she has a problem. Just program your brain to not buy in to her negative behavoir and words.
You can't change her, but you can change how you react to her. That is the only thing that you can do. You also might have to set up some boundries with her. When my mom gets passive-agressive I just smile and say I need to go mom. Love ya bye And she doesn't have the chance to verbally beat me up.
I wish you well. Don't let your mom ruin your life
2007-05-02 21:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, these are hurtful words. Try not to pay any attention to them though cause she's obviously speaking from her own experience and I think she's only trying to manipulate you and put you down. Perhaps she was treated like this from her own mother so she does this to you now. Maybe she doesn't know any better. Whatever the reason she's very wrong; no one deserves to be hurt and I'm sure there are people who love and respect you. Rise above her hurtful comments and don't let them get you.
2007-05-02 19:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by Smelly Cat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You combat it all with the truth. What she says isn't true; what's true is what's in your heart. Yes, she's your mother and will naturally have an impact on your life, but you create that impact. You control your feelings and decide how everything will affect you. Beyond everything else, a mother is defined by the relationship she has with you and not by the mere title she holds. If you want to talk about this, send me an e-mail at eckm0032@umn.edu. If you're having a difficult time dealing with things, there's no reason to deal with it by yourself; I can help you with it. We could also talk over an instant messenger, if you'd like.
Heath
2007-05-02 19:22:37 · answer #4 · answered by heath e 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 07:35:03 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mothers are people too, some are less perfect than others...my current gf still suffers from just what you have described and she is in her thirties...one must understand why mom might talk the way she does...she obviously has had issues herself, unfortunately she may never share what they may be...but she doesn't seem to hesitate to act them out with her comments....we all know right from wrong...moms wrong...be a better person than that and you will not repeat what she has learned herself and passed down to you...good luck.
2007-05-02 19:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
WELLL YOU NEED TO KNOW GOD DOESNT MAKE US TO BE HURT YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY AND HEALTHEY SO JUST RISE ABOVE ALL THAT I GREW UP IWITH A NEGATIVE MO M WHO I COULD NEVER PLEASE BUT I FINALLY REALIZE THAT I WOULD NEVER BE SMAT ENOUGH OR THIN ENOUGH I MARRIED BENETH ME AND I COULD HAVE BEEN ANT THING I WANTED NOW THAT IM 48 AND NOT 18 I REALIZE I AM HAPPY WITH THIS WONDERFUL MAN I MARRIED AND VERY PROUD OF MY SONS AND IF I NEVER WEAR AA SIZE 10 SO WHAT AND IF I DONT GO TO COLEGE SO WHAT IM HAPPY JUST BEING ME YOU NEED TO REALIZE WHAT U WANT AND SET YOUR GOALS TO GET IT AND IF SHES NEGATIVE AVOUT IT THAT RIGHT SO WHAT!!!!
2007-05-02 19:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong, I'm included in everyone. It does not work that way. You better understand that things do get better, don't help the negative along.........Shane
2007-05-02 19:28:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just ignore my mom and tell myself it isn't true
you know it isn't true
but I have this habit of fighting back
which probably isn't good
tell her to shut up, and that you aren't those things, and what kind of mother is she to say those things to you!
2007-05-02 19:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋