Considering you're trained to be thinkers/highly logical, i wonder if you can apply it to matters concerning the heart...
2007-05-02 19:03:56 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I was a philosophy major. I believed I shouldn't be dependent on anyone, not even my love, my wife. I shouldn't NEED her. So I kept her at a distance, and when times got really hard, we split.
You want all your philosophy in a nutshell, try James Carse: "Finite and Infinte Games." Try Hugh Prather: "There Is a Place Where You Are not Alone" and "Spiritual Notes to Myself." Not to mention Stephen Mitchell's translation of the Tao Te Ching.
But relationships are beyond philosophy. Relationships are real, the real her, the real him, no elephant sh!t. Marriage Encounter will tell you "love is a daily decision." That's still kind of cotton candy. You drop all that KRahP (just avoiding the censor) and just get real about accepting the other as she/he is. If you love her, you don't need a rationalization; the adventure of sharing a life with her is more than enough.
And if you don't feel that way about it, it isn't anywhere close to love. I have 2 X's. I've learned the hard way.
2007-05-02 19:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by Philo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a major but I have done papers on it. If anything, I think Schopenhauer's dark writings that suggest life is nothing but a pendulem that swings between striving (pain) and boredom is inspiration to keep things interesting in a relationship. Do new things together to stay out of ruts. Your partner might not be with you forever but you might as well make the most of it while you enjoy each others company.
2007-05-02 19:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by sticky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Didn't Jefferson write some letter or essay about a fight between the head and the heart? The heart trumps in all cases.
Logic falls at its knees before love. There was a poem about this.....about the strength and power of love. I wish I remembered. I think for me its not so much the logic as it is talking myself out of pursuing love for fear of rejection and subsequent pain.
2007-05-02 19:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by lawofconstantcomposition 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋