My mom was a stay at home mom and I would lovge to do the same, don't get me wrong I'm becoming a nurse and then maybe even go for nurse practitioner or nurse anethetist BUT once I have kids I want to stay home and take care of them, so I want whoever my husband is to be able to financially take care of myself and our children. I feel like sometimes I may sound like a gold digger but that's not tha case I want to have my own career BUT I want to marry someone that can provide me with a well off life enough for me to be able to stay home. Is this a bad way to think??
2007-05-02 18:31:50 · 18 answers · asked by Danny82 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course not! I too agree that's practical. And it's a good thing you have your standards, know what you want. You're on the thinking track!
2007-05-02 18:38:57 · answer #1 · answered by rayne81 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should not feel guilty about want to be a stay at home mom. Just make sure that your significant other is okay with that and is able to financially support that. Most cases show that kids do better in school and social life when there is a parent who is in the home. Not that there is anything wrong with both parents working either. My husband and I both work and we have 2 kids. We are though planning on in 5 years making it possible for me to go part time and work just while the kids are in school like 2 or 3 days a week. That way I can become more active in their school as well
2007-05-03 01:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by cyncyn_21 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey, I hear ya. I wish I was that lucky! I got to spend 5 years at home and I loved every minute of it. Now I'm back in school trying to get a career started due to a financial shift in our household. Dream your dream, annd if it works out, AWESOME. If not though, not let the "stay at home" bunch bully you over it. Daycare is NOT the worst thing that could happen to a child. When I went back to school, some of the moms in my boy's playgroup were very critical, and a few stopped speaking to me, saying I was everything wrong with parenting today, and I'm why kids are so screwed up. But anyways, I hope you are able to stay home, go to work or anything else you choose to do because its the right choice no matter what.
2007-05-03 02:27:38 · answer #3 · answered by binglejells2003 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have your values - just make sure that when you find "Mr. Right' that you discuss your values with him and the things you want our of your relationship. Hopefully, Mr. Right will share your values and will want the same things. You might have to do some looking around for him, and I'm sure that he's out there, but it may take some time. I don't think you're a gold digger - I stayed a home for a little while my children were small and started going back to work part-time when my youngest started school. It was not easy being a stay at home mom - but I felt that it was the best thing for my kids and had to make sacrifices in order to do so and learned to make do with what I had in order to stay at home as long as I could. You don't say where you live, but in certain parts of the country, due to the economy, it's extremely hard to survive on one income - especially when raising a family. Thinking about what compromises you make need to make in order to uphold your values is important.
2007-05-03 01:50:31 · answer #4 · answered by kokopeli706 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No it is not a bad thing. You are a very logical, and smart person. You know your priorities. I wish more parents would think like you. There would be less emotionally disturbed children.
It is also terrific that you do have a profession. No one knows what life brings, and you will always have something to fall back on if it ever becomes necessary.
Your mother did a great job. My hat is off to her.
By the way my daughter in law is also a nurse, and her children are all grown up now. She started putting her degree in nursing to good use.
2007-05-03 02:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a very good thing that you're sure of this before you even know who you'll marry so you'll have it on the table from the beginning. You do run a little risk of marrying someone just to fill in the husband part of your plan, and if things spun out of control because he could feel that your heart wasn't for him, you could end up bitter at having to work to raise kids as a single Mom. I tell you as a friend, falling in love is your next step.
2007-05-03 01:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by createdorjustcrap? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I don't think that is a bad way to think at all. Being a stay at home mom is a huge job! I know because I have been one. I would definitely let the ones you date know about what you are wanting before you get in too deep,but sure...why not? Your children will love you for it! Nothing at all against any of you mom's who choose to work or have to work...I just think that being a stay at home mom is an awesome thing!
2007-05-03 01:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are thinking ahead and that is good,we all start out with good intentions but life gets in the way.We met we fall in love
we have kids the husband get neglected or so he thinks.After time he has an affair and leaves the wife.Most wives have nothing to fall back on .But what your doing by becoming a nurses just in case you need something to fall back on is good .
2007-05-03 02:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think is a question of what comes first?
1) Financially able husband?
OR
2) Love
You need to decide... in av=ny case what ever the decision maybe in future rested on both in agreement. Sometimes by being trifty, you can do the same as well...
take care..
2007-05-03 04:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by trymejames 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't care whether it is right or wrong to think this way, but i am living your dream - i have master degree, 3 kids and i am a stay at home mom. i can't even imagine how it is to go somewhere every day and come in the evening and my kids would be all the time alone at home , abandoned and doing who knows what. my true believe- once a woman has kids she has bigger responsibilities than some stupid career.
2007-05-03 01:40:30 · answer #10 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have to contribute too. When you become a nurse, save up so you'll be able to help your husband while you stay at home with the kids. It's nice to want to but not many women have that luxury.
2007-05-03 01:41:51 · answer #11 · answered by mamabear 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋