what do i do ?

Question

well me and my husband was on bad term and we separated for about a week i was hurting so bad my girlfriends took me out to a party i did so drugs and lots of drink i met up with an old friend there at the ttime he seem as if he could take the problem away and make me feel better well he did not i got pregnant and had the baby but we me and my husband go back together we had sex and does not know abou the sex with the old friend i am scared of telling him his only child my not be his i feel so bad i just knew tthe fight we had had end us forever i never thought he would still love me now it is kill me i want to tell him but i do not want him to leave again now we are doing good in our marriage what do i do

the guy is asking me to be in childs life how do i tell him how i feel about my husband and the whole thing was mistake that i wish would just go away

Answer 1

You said yourself you are in a good marriage. Why should you want to hurt your husband and your chances for a successful relationship with him? The other guy has got to go. If you tell your husband, you will be hurting the only innocent person in this threesome. Let this secret remain within your heart and be glad you have a good man.

Answer 2

tell your husband immediately. if you wait it isn't fair for all people involved. you and your husband will probably end up fighting again and you'll have your doubts about him and you'll eventually want him out the picture and tell him the baby is not his. believe me, this isn't the right way to go, but happens. the other father has the right to be in the baby's life whether you like him or not. find out, by you not doing it your cheating everyone while you keep it a secret because your scared. forget about your feelings for once and think about your child and the father he/or she deserves to bond with. you never know, your current husband may be mad at first but realize he can still be in the baby's life of step dad and your one night stand, the dad can be dad, you will still be mom and the 3 of you can love her or him. if the baby's dad was smart he would take your butt to court and he may get the baby full custody and have the time he lost with the child if proven he is the dad. no one wins from this, do it before he loses time with the baby that he will not get back and that he deserves. your a mother now, you need to make the right choices and quit thinking about just yourself.

Answer 3

Although you want to be on good terms with your husband, in order for him to trust you ever again you have to tell him the truth, because sooner or later he will find out, and if he finds out from a different person that is not you it will just make the situation worse. I think first you need to find out who's the father of your child though. This guy you had a thing with has to understand you wanna go back to you r husband but you also have to understand also that he might also be the father of your baby so he must feel really frustrated, you just gotta tell it to him like it is, what you want to do, but you do have to tell your husband about this as soon as possible or you might risk loosing him, and he will loose his trust in you, you have to face the situation responsibly, not to your convenience.

Answer 4

I think its only fair for everyone involved (yourself, the child's father and the child itself) to find out who's the father by a simple DNA test. Then you can decide what to do. Worrying and guessing won't help you. I know that's easier said than done but you owe it to all of you to know. As for your husband he shouldn't be angry with you since you met this guy after you had split up. What I'm trying to say is put things into perspective and see the bigger picture here.

Answer 5

You have to tell your husband what happened. He has a right to know that this child may not be his........He deserves to know the truth!
You should also tell the "old friend" that there is a possibility that he is the father.

You should also make plans to have a DNA test after the baby is born.

Answer 6

Well who's baby is it? You have to tell your husband and the other guy the truth, you owe it to them and the baby. Fuss up and get a DNA test and find out who fathered your baby and then go from there. If your husband really loves you he will forgive you and move on with this.

Answer 7

Time to come clean. It isn't fair to anyone involved that you are keeping this secret. I know you regret it, but you have to tell the truth. People have to learn that there are some things that you cannot take back. I hope your husband will forgive you and that the child is his. I wish you well.

Answer 8

This will test the strength of your marriage. But for the sake of your child, get a DNA test comparison of your child and his biological father. Show the test results to you husband and explain what happened. Keep the test results for the future health issues of your child. If the test results shows your boyfriend is the father of your child, then you have no choice but to allow him to bond with the child for the sake of the child.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

This is getting too complicated in your life...
If there is time... get it aborted... naturally... (like miscarriage) this will solve both problem that you have...

The next time don't do stupid things aagain... treasure your relationship.. not easy for two people to live together.. quarrels occassional tiffs in a marriage is common take it at its stride..

take care..