My boyfriend is 23, has a great career in the music industry and I'm ready to be married... but a lot of my friends say I'm too young.
2007-05-02 17:57:07 · 32 answers · asked by loque 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i guess so. cuz u know, when u get married, u gonna take alot responsibilities.
2007-05-02 18:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by minty choco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are. What you like at 20 may not be the same at 25.
Words from my mom:
1. If you are right for each other, give it a few years, finish your education-- the most important decision you will ever make is who you marry... choose with your head as well as your heart.
2. don't have any babies until your bond is strong, Kids can destroy anything, and have no more than you yourself can raise and educate... you may have to, and you may have to alone.
3. Always have a stash of cash no one ever knows about.... But don't get married yet, hon, and do finish school.. ...
4. Even if he's great, marriage is not a life long meal ticket.... you will have to work sometime during your live.... maybe for decades. Get paid for it. Education is the key to stay out of poverty...
2007-05-02 18:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on the situation.
My best friend was 20 when she got married to a guy she was with for 5 years. A year after they got married they are getting a divorce. When I was 20 I could never picture getting married, ofcourse I am 23 right now and I am getting married. People are still saying I am too young.
Don't listen to people, you do what you think is right, its your life if you listened to people all the time and based your decisions on what they said where would you be right now? Probably not very far.
2007-05-03 00:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by Vada83 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so difficult to answer without knowing you personally. Some women at 20 are mature enough for marriage, others aren't. Some women want a few years of freedom to have their own careers, to travel, to find out who they are. Others just want to settle down and be wives and mothers as soon as possible. What do your parents say about it? Do they think you are ready for marriage? Are you going to find yourself feeling 'trapped' ten years from now because you never had a chance to follow your dreams? These are serious questions, and something you should think about.
2007-05-02 18:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you really know whether at 23 he has a "great" career in the music industry. That sounds a bit wishful thinking in an extremely competitve and drug-filled line of work.
And what skills do you have to survive in this world?
2007-05-02 18:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are too young, but there are some girls out there in this world who are the marring type. Like there lives finally start as soon as they are married. Some of my friends got married at a young age and they are still happily married. It depends on the person and the person they are marrying.
2007-05-02 18:02:56 · answer #6 · answered by cherry16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 19 and im engaged and it is the greatest feeling in the world to know that your going to marry the love of your life. when you're ready, you're ready and your heart can tell. we have been together for a wonderful 2 years but have been friends for a year prior to us hooking up. i know im ready and if you need to be asking if 20 is too young thn you may not be ready... friends should never get in the way o any relationship. if you love him, hold on to him =]
talking to him is always good too
2007-05-03 12:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by o0smil30o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get to know him more so you know what you are doing. I would for after college because one of the hardest things to do is pay for the baby's food and health care while paying your college tuition. So I do believe 20 and even 23 is too young to bear a gift to this world and be happy and enough money to not suffer poverty. Finish college THEN get married.
2007-05-02 18:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what your friends think. It only matters what you and your boyfriend think. You two are the ones who will be in the relationship. I am 24 years old and i got married when i was 19 and my husband was 20. I am not going to say that everything has been perfect because it hasn't but both of us are committed to making it work. That is what it comes down to. If you are both committed then y'all need to make the decision.
2007-05-02 18:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by danielle2010 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't too young, but you should be very sure that this is what you want. You can't just change your mind in a couple of years. Marriage is a serious commitment. Wait a little longer and see if you still feel the same way. There's no hurry.
2007-05-02 18:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can answer this question for you. The fact that you are asking complete strangers says to me that you're not ready. If you're concerned about what others say then you're just not ready. It may work or it may not. My mom got married when she was 16 and she's been married for 39 years...it worked for her, but it doesn't work for everyone. Sit down and ask yourself what do you really want, and why is it bothering you what others say. You'll figure it out. Good luck.
2007-05-02 18:04:40 · answer #11 · answered by Behind Green Eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋