my very best friend is thinking about moving back to where her family is, halfway across the country, but i, of course want her to stay here. i ALSO don't want her to feel even more torn between her family and her friends...like i won't love her if she goes back or they won't love her if she stays here. would it be a good idea to make a pro/con list for her? i'd get together with her and do it but there's no way we can get together before she has to make her decision at the end of this weeks. would a pro/con list be too pushy?
2007-05-02 17:38:29 · 11 answers · asked by smileyfaces 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
last time i was deciding whether or not to move in with my mom or dad or stay in my current living situation she suggested a pro con list
2007-05-02 17:45:32 · update #1
i should clarify that {{again}} she suggested we make a pro con list together.
2007-05-02 17:47:06 · update #2
If she is not set on completely moving I do not see why a Pro/Con list would be pushy. It may help her out more, but at the end of the list before you give it to her, i would write that you will love her and always be there for her no matter what her decision is.
2007-05-02 17:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by Subigan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, that's almost as dumb of an idea as just having a Pro Bowl to begin with. No players even try, in fact the only time I remember anything about the Pro Bowl was when Sean Taylor leveled that punter, I think it was Brian Moorman. College Football has one thing right, and the first team All Americans, and second and third and so on, that's what the NFL should do. First team All Pro, second team All Pro, and third team All Pro. The game should be scrapped. Although it is something to look forward to for the players; a trip to Hawaii, hanging out with all the superstars and their families. So in reality, there's no way they scrap it, but at least just NEVER put it before the Super Bowl.
2016-05-19 04:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a pro/con list would just make her feel guilty about leaving you AND staying away from her family. My family is on the East Coast while I am on the west. Really I live with this choice daily. I think you should talk to her about how you feel about it. Just don't be mean or breakdown in front of her or you will stick her in that position of friend or family. Though you should somehow mention the fact that when people are old enough to move out and go to college, they go wherever they want despite of how far they are from family. Really families just about only reunite at family reunions or on special holidays like Christmas and Easter, and they only go to special holiday meetings while they are young. Also ask her how she feels and what she wants and remember, no matter the outcome, support her, because she will always be your friend.
2007-05-02 17:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya that would be too pushy, this is her decision. Of course you should tell her when talking about this "just make a pro/con list to help you!" and if she says something about not knowing what to put on it, offer to help her. But if you do help her, be sincere about it, and actually think of pro's of her moving back to where her family is.
Of course a pro of her moving is, somewhere for you to go on vacation and visit her lol. You can still be close if she moves!
2007-05-02 17:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not as long as you suggest that SHE make her own pro/con list. There's no sense in you making a pro/con list for her. She's the only one that can do that. But sure you can suggest it.
2007-05-02 17:41:00 · answer #5 · answered by misleep1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a decision that she is going to have to make on her own. Making her a list, I think is to pushy. Talk to her and see how SHE feels about it.
2007-05-02 17:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by master_escrimador 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you're friend has already made her decision. I dont think there is much you can say now and hopefully her move is for the better.
One of my friends is also moving back to her home state. I don't want her to leave but I know I can't change her mind. Maybe I'll stow away inher suitcase :)
2007-05-02 17:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by silly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it would. a pro/con list??? Cmon dude. Is she your girlfriend or a statistical analysis? It has to be her decision and you will have to deal with it. You ask her to stay and she will resent you no matter what she says.....
2007-05-02 17:42:41 · answer #8 · answered by Aaron S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her and tel her to make a pro and con list and then have her decide what she wants to do
2007-05-02 17:41:56 · answer #9 · answered by dede 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey let her go. You guys can keep in touch and visit each other.
2007-05-02 17:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by J~Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋