I have been a stay at home mother for the last 4 years of my life. I did this for my 3 wonderfull daughters...(5,3,and almost 2)..My husband is abusive towards me (God, I hate the way that sounds, but I guess it's the truth that's always hardest to swallow)...anyhow I don't currently have a job, which means that if I did leave...I have $0 to my name. Do you think it would be wrong of my to hang around here for a while longer. One of my friends informed me that she would be able to baby sit for me free of charge...Then another friend informed me that he could get me a job at the resterant he is the Manager at. Anyhow my main question is....do you think it would be wrong of me to pretend that everything is A.O.K. just long enough to get a place of my own and some money in the bank???. My friend who is getting me the job is going to have me work while my husband is at work...so he wouldn't even know!
2007-05-02 17:25:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When the time does come....I'll be leaving in one night....while he's at work. With 5 of my best friend with Trucks helping out!....Then I'm calling his best friend on the way out the door....just because I don't want him to come home to an empty house.....I don't think I could handle him doing something horrible to himself! I do still love him you know.
2007-05-02 17:36:54 · update #1
And also....I'm will not take my kids to a shelter to live....Sorry but I can't do that.
2007-05-02 17:38:11 · update #2
No I think you are very honourable for doing that for youre children my only concern is.....If he's abussive what will he do if somehow he finds out??? What city do you live in maybe I can help Im extremely high up in an international real estate investment company and if you live near any of the properties Ill give you three months free rent and seriously reduced rent for a couple years afterwards along with making sure your family has what it needs so let me know where you live and if you would accept some anonymous help? I would be more than glad to help a lady like you
2007-05-02 19:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word "abusive" is an overused word. You have to decide is the guy is physically dangerous or just verbally abusive. If you take money from the (joint) account, what will he do? Do you need police involved?
These kids are pretty small. You may need some form of government help to keep you afloat. He is the father so he has visitation rights and you can't deny him that. It will be tough.
2007-05-03 00:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the same one who just told the story of her abusive husband? If you are there is not a lot of time. The violence escalates. Domestic Violence will help you get out safely and quickly. Then sort it out. There are safe houses, and he would not know where you are. They will help you learn the ropes to deal legally with your situation. Help you build on your strengths. Then you have made life safe for your little ones and yourself. That is what you need to do before you are hurt or one of the girls. Look in the phonebook. Domestic Violence.
2007-05-03 00:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I say " Whats Good Fot The Goose is Good For The Gander" If thats what it takes for you to get out of your situation and be happy then go for it. Thumbs Up to you.
2007-05-03 00:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by kessin72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say do what you have to do. Just make sure you have a plan when you do go. You have three kids relying on you..Oh and if you do go...File divorce papers first..it will give you the upper hand in the situation
2007-05-03 00:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
abusive. is not good in a marrage and when children are involved it hurts them as well you might whant to get a restraing order for him to many a woman has been hurt badley in a marrage like this and some has been killed as well in a marrage like this . i truley hope you and the children all the best after all you can do better that that in my opion?
2007-05-03 02:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful...... very careful. But by all means... save some cash and get the HECK OUT. Don't wait forever.... it's scary going out there on your own... but do it for you and your girls. Kudos to your true friends for lending a hand!
2007-05-03 00:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by angel82672 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it wrong of him to abuse you?
then your not telling him is a good turn around.
by all means get the job, save up some money and then blow that pop stand!!!
good luck
2007-05-03 00:29:44 · answer #8 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! just be very careful when the time comes to get out!
2007-05-03 00:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we do what we have to. make your own way whatever way you can
2007-05-03 00:29:17 · answer #10 · answered by llsnwtsn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋