what should i do?

Question

i just dont get this...me and my husband have been trying for so long to have a baby. i have not been on bc for over 7 months, and we have sex all the time. expecially when i am ovulating, and each time i think for sure it has happened than i start my period. and the test is negative......i have thought about going and getting us checked to make sure we can conceive but i am afraid of the outcome...what should i do

Answer 1

First, let me say I feel your pain. All of us trying to conceive have had those feelings at one point or another.

Now on to business.... do you know for sure you are ovulating every month? Are you checking for symptoms or using an ovulation predictor kit? If so, I'm wondering if you're having sex on the right days... remember, the best time is to have sex RIGHT BEFORE ovulation. The day after is even less a chance, especially if his boys are slow swimmers (because the egg only lives for 12-24 hours and that's it!) For example, if you were to ovulate on May 20... you should be having sex May 17, 18, 19, 20, and 21. Is this what you're doing?

Also, you said that you have sex "all the time". This might be too much...men who ejaculate too much have low sperm count. Here's a tip I found online... 3 days before your fertile phase begins, totally abstain from sex. That is...again, if your fertile phase begins May 17, then you wouldn't have sex May 14, 15, 16 AT ALL. This way, he'll be nice and full when your fertile phase begins. And then, only do it ONCE a day. He needs that 24-hour replenish time. Even every other day is okay.

I would say if you haven't been doing it this way, try it for a few more months. I think the biggest obstacle for couples TTC is the whole "when am I really ovulating, when do we have sex and how often" thing. You guys may simply need to tighten up your efforts a bit.

If you feel you've already given it 7 months of earnest trying and already done all the suggestions I've made I think you should both go in for some fertility tests. Him, to have his sperm count tested...and you to confirm you are ovulating and rule out any blockages or other conditions that would prevent you from conceiving.

Good luck... I hope some of this helps.

Answer 2

It is a good idea to get check for fertility. Me and my man tired for eight months before I got pregnant. I got checked out first. We decided that if we were unsuccessful after 1 year, he would get checked (I think it was more for his ego to wait that long).
Also, a man need anywhere from 24-36 hours to replenish his sperm count after ejaculation. When you are around ovulation time. Have sex every other day rather than non stop for 3 or 4 days. Good luck!

Answer 3

Hi. Me and my husband had sex every single day last month and still didn't concieve!!!!! Crazy huh!!!! But I talked to my doctor and he said "Hey, it happens!" So he prescribed me a low dosage of Clomid to start and my husband is getting a sperm analysis done. Can't hurt right? Even if the outcome isn't great wouldn't you rather know then try and try and try with no luck?

Answer 4

First relax and go get checked out its probably nothing Im keeping my fingers crossed and sending lots of baby dust your way.

Answer 5

its hard to deal with..i got checked up..i have pcos..my boyfriend on the other hand i dont want him to get checked up..he isnt going to handle it well..stop thinking and start breeding. if you find out you cant by a doctor then thats it..its in stone...if you let nature take its course then chock it up to mother nature allowing you more sleep

Answer 6

get checked it might give you some grief to knoe however it also might relief some grief and open up new avenues for you remember if it was meant to be it will happen relax!!!!!!

Answer 7

i think that you should go check yourself after all you need to make sure your ok---other wise - your only going to stressing out about. better safe than sorry.
good luck.....wishe you the best--think possitive.

Answer 8

quit trying be patient relax