ok to make a long story short, my wife and i have been arguing for almost a month now and finally i just decided to stop talking about it. she was threatning to leave and finally i just said what the heck i cant do anything about it so if she wants to go then so be it! she refusing to have any intimate contact with me even though we sleep in the same bed. we do talk, but that is about it! i mentioned the sex thing and she says she doenst care. so how long would you all put up with this situation. my son is 14 and i hate to lose him. she thinks that she is going to get full custody even thought my son wants to live with me!! what do you all think??????????
2007-05-02 14:50:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It takes two to make a marriage work, so if she isn't willing to work on fixing what is wrong, your playing a losing game with her. I would try and find out what is going on with her and if she refuses to talk or work on this, then what other choice do you have? You could stick it out until she leaves or you could decide to make the first move, either way something has to give her because it sounds as if both of you are unhappy. She shouldn't be so sure about getting full custody of your son since he does want to live with you.
2007-05-02 15:52:09 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like y'all want to split up anyway. How long we would deal with the situation doesn't really matter. I think that if you want to split, and you both feel that way, then you should. Why live unhappily? As for your son, your wife should be kind enough to agree to joint custody. That is not right for her to take your son away from you.
Before ANYTHING is done though I would suggest counseling. I have suggested that to so many people here and like them, I will tell you the same thing. People might say it is just a load of crap, but it can not hurt to try. If you want help, it is a great help. Talk about the marriage, talk about yourself and your concerns. With a third party there, one who does not know you and can not have an opinion (at least not right off) is a great idea. They are there to listen to your concerns, of course. Your wife will need to be silent and listen to you speak. (As do you when she speaks)
Good luck and have a great night.
2007-05-02 22:16:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you loosing your heart so early. Have a re look and try to figure out why your wife is so adamant about it or what is it that is restricting you to go for it. After this introspection try to readdress the issue with some understanding of the other. I am sure you both will find out an amicable solution. Your wife has threatened but not walked out as yet, it means she is just trying to put some pressure on you. You need not overreact at this point. Your wife can't be sure of your sons custody as he wants to live with you. Give your marriage a second chance you will love it.
2007-05-03 10:03:31 · answer #3 · answered by Prem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is at the age that in most states, he could decide who he wants to be with. You'd have to be a danger to him for her to take sold custody of him. I have stayed in a challenging relationship for almost 8 years, and it ain't no better! Take it from me...if you're not happy, and she's not meeting your needs, and talking gets you nowhere, get out before you waste 8 years of your life and wonder where the time went!
2007-05-02 22:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look -- reading over some of your other questions, you just started dealing with your anger issues, and just started some therapy.
You're expecting 20 or so years of conditioning to sort of disappear in just a month or so -- unfortunately, it takes longer than that.
I have no idea what to say, really, except try to be patient with her while you work on yourself. It also looks like there may be other things in your marriage counselling could help.
I hope things work out for you.
2007-05-02 22:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by joe b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go. You aint going to loose anything. Your son is 14 when you go to court he can decide were to go if he wants. It sounds to me that she might be cheating any ways. So its best just to get out, and start over.
2007-05-02 22:23:08 · answer #6 · answered by Chris F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult a family attorney on what your options are concerning your son.
It certainly sounds like a rotten relationship to be in.
2007-05-02 22:12:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack your **** get your son to pack his and walk out the door. What is she gunna do?????
Enough is enough and if your son wants to be with you what is the problem? He is old enough to decide that for himself.
Good luck
2007-05-02 21:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by karena k 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋