Would you be pissed off if your husband hugged his ex gf that he hasn't seen for years right in front of you? My wife is mad because I seen my ex who I haven't seen in years approached me and Iwe hugged, it was more or less like old freinds who havent seen each other in a long time. Was I wrong in hugging her in front of my wife?
2007-05-02 14:05:59 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Shes an ex for a reason and it wasn't like you were kissing her. Some woman are able to say "he picked me over her, so it doesn't bother me." It wouldn't really bother me, but as a woman, i do COMPLETELY understand why your wife is upset. Any form of affection toward an ex anything in front of your wife isn't a smart move. We're women, we get jealous, it's just how it works. :) Would you feel a little jealous if it was the other way around?
Talk it over with her, apologize for hurting her feelings and pick up some flowers.
Best wishes and good luck! =]
2007-05-02 14:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by Sam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how your relationships stands. Is your wife insecure? Then, no you do not want to hug your ex. Did you and your wife recently have a fight? No, you do not want to hug your ex. Are you in a currently fulfilling exciting relationship and or comfortable. Then maybe you can hug your ex. But, if you are married and has done the dirty with the ex then hell no you can't hug her.
2007-05-02 14:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I wouldn't be mad. Hell, I'd hug her too. She and I aren't friends but we are on friendly terms. They had a good relationship (which ended because he went off to college and she didn't want a long distance relationship) and they are friends. We have picked out Christmas gifts for her in past years.
I am secure in my position as my husband's wife. I'm also not a jealous person by nature.
2007-05-02 14:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it was just a social hug. As long as you are then embracing your wife and showing you love her, then that's all you need to do. If you ex was coming onto you in more than a social way, then you should back off.
2007-05-02 14:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wrong! She's over and done with. Your wife is the only intimate lady and your life, along w/ lady relatives of course. A hug is a way of expressing love, care & affection. When you approach a friend, especially female, it is an inappropriate behavior against your wife. You just have to distingush the two women and keep it that way....You're married now!!!!...End of hugs & kisses w/ ex girls!!!!
2007-05-02 14:52:05 · answer #5 · answered by Ignorant? R-U? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nope....
My husband and I recently saw his ex-fiancee (she was in town visiting family) when we saw her at the grocery store I hugged her my husband hugged her and we spent some time catching up...
I have never felt threatened by any of my husbands ex's...
You should know your wife well enough to know where her boundary is... She obviously felt threatened by your ex.. Apologize to your wife, tell her you are sorry her feelings were hurt, and reassure her she is the one for you....
What I would feel is irrelevant, what your wife felt and validating her right to feel it, is what you need to worry about...
2007-05-02 14:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! First, he is MY husband for a reason, not hers. Second, if it's happening right in front of me, fine. As long as he's not coping a feel, or she is trying, so what. I have many male friends and I hug them too. You have to be secure in your relationship and the fact that your mate picked you for a reason.
2007-05-02 14:13:43 · answer #7 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you were not.
Your wife is jealous and insecure.
Assure her that if you had wanted your ex as anything other then a friend, she wouldn't be an ex.
She needs to understand that you cannot spend a long period of time with someone and not show some type of emotion when coming across them.
She should feel blessed that you are not a person to hold a grudge.......................................
2007-05-02 14:43:09 · answer #8 · answered by mrsmommaid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am possessive! my husband was jealous when my ex husband gave me a friendly hug. I asked my husband what would he do if his ex wife kissed him. he answered...she wouldn't. I said.... she better not...I would smack the crap out of her. He is mine and she has no right to him now.
2007-05-05 14:59:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS A BOUNDARY THAT COUPLES HAVE.
AND IF UR WIFE WAS UNCOMFORTABLE WITH
THAT THEN THAT IS UR ANSWER TO UR
QUESTION. I CAN UNDERSTAND HOW IT WAS
JUST A FRIENDLY HUG, BUT SHE MAY NOT SEE
IT THAT WAY. U SHOULD SIT AND TALK WITH
HER ON THIS SUBJECT. U DO NOT WANT IT
TO TURN INTO SOMETHING THAT CAN BE
AVOIDED LATER IN THE FUTURE. NEXT TIME
A FRIENDLY HAND SHAKE WOULD DO. RESPECT
HER FEELINGS............... SHE IS UR WIFE................
2007-05-02 14:25:33 · answer #10 · answered by Rosemary M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋