Giving my boyfriend $10,000 (half my life savings) to help him sort out his debt? I just need some support cos no one else knows I've done this. My boyfriend promises that he will pay me back and spend the rest of his life looking after me. I trust him and he is my future husband - don't worry he isn't a user.
2007-05-02 14:02:08 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I'm surprised people are so negative. We are in love. When you truly love someone you put them first and you want to do everything that you can to look after them. He was in real trouble with debt and I helped him out because I could. I feel amazing that I have helped me and he is in awe absolute awe at my generosity. I guess it's hard for people to comment given they don't know my boyfriend. He has helped me in so many other ways, money is nothing, love and happiness is rare and the best thing in the world.
2007-05-02 14:09:02 · update #1
Thanks everyone for your concern. I really am not worried about my boyfriend deserting me. He loves me so much and every day he talks about us getting married one day and having a family. I know it's risky what I've done and believe me I never lend people money, apart from this. He was really in trouble and would have lost his house if I didn't help him. He was so stressed and sad. I offered and offered and offered he never asked and didn't want to take the money but he really needed it.
2007-05-02 14:16:55 · update #2
Hey, give your boyfriend a message for me:
Marry that girl now, you big dummy. She's awesome.
2007-05-02 14:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by B SIDE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had some life experience. I would say get married before you give him a cent. I don't mean to sound crass. You seem like a very loving and trusting person. You deserve to keep your money. Hardly anyone ever gets paid back. Hold on to it, be supportive of his debt. Don't expect him to spend a lot of money right now but expain to this guy that you are just not ready to part with half your savings. If he does not understand, lose him, keep the money. Good Luck anyway!
2007-05-02 21:10:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he were your husband I'd say no problem. But, he's just your boyfriend. You obviously think very highly of him, seeing that you gave him $10,000. But I bet he would have said just about anything that you wanted to hear, to insure that he got that money from you, whether he's a user or not. I don't think it was the smartest decision. But, you do have a chance to get it right. Get proof, a written statement with the date on it and everything, and the both of you sign it. My question to you is, why did you make it so easy for him to get rid of that debt? He's a grown man, me could go to work everyday, work overtime, like a lot of people do, and made payments to get rid of his debt. Now he's gonna come to you every time he needs money.
2007-05-02 21:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by Stink Muffin's Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u really do trust him and he really doesnt run out of u and he really did need that money for his debt then i guess u did the good thing b/c i dont think anyone would want a husband thats in debt lol besides if he does become ur husband u would have helped him with his debt anyway
2007-05-02 21:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are WAY WAY WAY more trusting then I could ever be, that is ALOT of money. I have my b/f phone in my name and that is about as far as it goes. I really really hope that yall work out and get married and live happily ever after and that he isn't using you and going to dump you in a week or so.
I think you are WAY to nice, just have proof that you loaned him the money, that way if he dumps you then you can take his a** to court and get your money back.
I really hope everything works out for the best, good luck to ya.
2007-05-02 21:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mama Garrison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wish you would have asked us this question before you gave up half your savings.
Yes, it was kind, but unless you have something in writing, it was quite a leap of faith.
Unless you are wearing a diamond on your left hand, I don't think it was a very good decision. I would even get it in writing from a relative.
Sorry, just my opinion.
2007-05-02 21:11:52 · answer #6 · answered by Sr. Mary Holywater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very kind and generous at the same time. Wow there aren't many women who would do something like that. He's a very lucky man and would be a fool to mistreat or disrepect or even take you for granted.
2007-05-02 21:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kind, AND sorry to tell ya, kind of crazy unless you have a written contract on this money. Things could change and stuff happens, half your life savings? Please say there was a written contract!!. Good luck and God Bless, hope it works out just like you plan. really, may all go well for you.
2007-05-02 21:07:53 · answer #8 · answered by mspriveye 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that if you really love him and you KNOW he loves you, then it was a very kind thing. But I'm sure most women know that you can't always rely on a man's words...so as long as you know in your heart that you can trust him, you go girl. Besides, you know him better than any of us do!
2007-05-02 21:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by Mae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ring Dr PHIL and watch Judge JUDY then get a big alcoholic drink and give yaself a big uppur cut....kind..its the most stupid thing ive ever read here on the net........are you sure you aint a Jerry Springer stooge????????.
2007-05-02 21:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋