2007-05-02 13:47:20 · 31 answers · asked by cemout 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Grarndpa, is that you? Jeez, are you off your meds again?
2007-05-02 20:49:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hahaha ,
You can't go anywhere, can you ....????
You've been married for 58 years, means you are at least 73 if you were married when you're 15, which I doubt.
Your wife is around 60 and 73 I guess, unless she is older.
I dont think she has another lover, but maybe at that age she start to think about heaven and hell.
That is most of the times make women cold .
Why dont you, instead of discussing about sex, talk to her about her interest , "hear" her feelings , give her your empathy, have a nice walk after dinner - hand on hand -.
Who knows ......she ....one day will give a try ......
Or.......why don't you say to her like this :........
Sweet heart ..... how would you feel if I suddenly die while you know that for years you leave me alone in cold , bla ..bla..bla. ...
Who knows, she would be so nice to you and give you her warmth ....if she can't give sex to you ......maybe there will be a touchy2 .
Well , don't get disappointed, if I am wrong !!
2007-05-02 21:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by bill s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk to her, find out what's bothering her, really listen to her answer. It won't help right away. Serve her as you would a close friend. GOOD WILL. will eventually pay off. Don't force her to do what you want. Give her love in spite of her imperfections. Learn to cook her something. Ask about a hobby without giving advice. Bring her a drink. Smile and give her a hug when she comes home (she may be surprised at first, but just be patient). Buy her something inexpensive but sweet (try a card expressing how you can't believe how long you've been married and sincerely want to reconnect). Light candles without the expectation of sex at first. Romance her. Give her some motivation!
2007-05-02 21:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you've been married for so long you should know all her likes and dislikes.
So maybe you can try to recreate date you 2 had years ago..and make super nice.
But also researchers have found out that the longer a woman is in a relationship the less she wants sex....so it's not all her fault
its nature taking its flow
But there is always the terrible alternative
buy a hooker.
2007-05-02 20:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by mikahiwatari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that one of the answers told you to stop being an ***hole. Everybody needs affection no matter how old you are.
I will pray for you in the meantime. I don't have much time but I do know that prayer to God is the first step and then communication in getting down to the bottom of why she would be so cold?
I will try to write more later. God Bless You!
2007-05-03 13:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by cheery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long has it been since you have told her you love her?
She might need to hear that! Talk to her, maybe bring some old photos and remember how much you use to like her, and tell if you still do (am assuming you still do).
Talk to her, dance with her, cook something nice for her, take her out for a nice romantic walk. And listen to what she has to say in the matter, she might surprise you!
Hope it works!
Guasabara
2007-05-02 23:48:30 · answer #6 · answered by guasabara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry, I feel I have to apologize for so many very rude
and mean and uncalled for remarks about your age. Isn't it funny how the young never thinks their going to get old.Well unless someone comes up with a pill that keeps you young then they too are going to age.If I 'm not mistaken all of them were one year older then last year. About your question I'm sorry to say this but why should she change when you let her get away with it for so long.You no what they say about spots and all.
2007-05-02 21:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I pray that my marriage never gets that way. My inlaws are just that way no loving and if he tries she thinks something is wrong with him or like he is her brother but really she shows more love to her brothers than her own husband that is just wrong.and its not fair and that isn't a good excuse to why she should be cold but it happens i guess when your old and could be in the genes too. try a healthy approach to your problems too.and Kamasutra.
2007-05-02 20:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your communication skills are on par with hers, you both should be interacting frequently. Do you keep yourself abreast of news, current events and learn new hobbies to share with her? Are you keeping fit? Are you happy to see her and ask her about her day and feelings? All that would lead toward improved relations. Does she seem happy and content or miserable and harboring resentments toward you? Why not ask her how you can improve your relationship, then work on the sexual issues after that. After all, no one wants to have sex with a person they can't communicate with first.
2007-05-02 21:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real ? LOL
Hmmmmmmmm ,, she's a lucky wife and doesnt know it,,,, On second thought I feel sorry for her, She deserves a break today !!!!
Actually I think you need to throw away the Viagra,, and let the poor lady rest,,, She has done her share of that Iam sure,,,,
2007-05-02 21:11:15 · answer #10 · answered by Gringa_uno 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to ask how old are you? And what kind of loving are you expecting, emotional or sexual? Possibly age, sickness are playing a part in sexual dysfunction. Is cheating a possibility? When someone is cheating they usually withdraw, become cold and unaffectionate. Have you tried asking her what is the problem?
2007-05-02 20:53:34 · answer #11 · answered by hinkybell35 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋