My man loves porn. But it's not just the movies...it's mostly about the women. He looks up particular porn stars that he wants to see and I even caught him looking at teen porn. (He will be 28 this summer.) And he loves female body builders that pose nude! Now Im to the point where I feel like he might be comparing me to these whores(physically) and so I don't like him looking at me naked anymore. I feel like if he's horny, he should just go get some oil and go get on his computer. lol What does he need me for? To fantasize that Im someone else? Are my feelings justifyable or am I just insecure?
2007-05-02 13:32:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He stays up all night sometimes...looking at porn instead of being in bed with me and I'm not an ugly woman! lol Quite attractive if I may say so myself. lol
2007-05-02 13:35:08 · update #1
You know what's funny, if he's not watching porn on the net, he's playing Warcraft. So basically, 90% of his time at home is on the computer.
2007-05-02 13:51:48 · update #2
Lots of things in marriage are ok - but in moderation. It shouldn't be taking up so much of your time. I think he needs to slow down and refocus his attention on you.
2007-05-02 13:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-19 17:00:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to feel the way you do. Your man is addicted to porn. Do you know that he can be arrested and thrown in jail for viewing teen porn websites? He needs to seek professional help about these fantasies he is having. Staying up all night long and viewing porn on the computer is wrong. Do you know if he uses his credit card to access certain sites and goes to a job interview, he will not be hired?Because certain interviewers looks at his credit ratings on his report. Think about it, what if you all wanted to buy a house and he has this discrepancy on his report. This is embarrassing as well as detrimental. Talk to him either he gets help or the BOOT.
2007-05-02 13:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by stepintostep 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We it isn't good for him or his sex life that is sad sweetie he has an addiction tell him you don't like it personally porn is just disgusting I watched it once and I didn't want to see it then but peer pressure from my stupid cousin just got to me I was also curious with me being so young but anyways it is nasty SORRY tell him he will never get those girls anyway haha no but seriously and don't think you aren't beautiful just because he isn't paying any attention to you he will want it sometimes and when he does go get on the computer and act stupid SMILE it might work I'm a teen and my husband bet not watch NO porn and let me find out pray for your husband
2007-05-02 14:02:31 · answer #4 · answered by Ablebaby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're insecure.
He's spending too much time in fantasy.
Your response encourages him to spend more time in fantasy.
His response makes you back off more.
Your relationship is spinning away. One of you needs to step up and put an end to it. If he were asking, I'd tell him to cut the porn, completely. I don't morally object to porn, but he's letting it take over his life.
But he isn't asking. You are. You need to stop comparing yourself to those women, and drag your man off to bed for some porno style sex of your own. I'll tell you right now what he likes better about those women. They aren't shy, they're always available, and they are enthusiastic. Appearance is the least of the issues. Drag that man off to bed and nail him silly. Repeatedly. Daily. And ask him to lay off the porn and, if he's feeling horny, or lonely to come bend you over instead.
2007-05-02 14:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is ok.......no buts. I spend a lot of time lookin at porn and my wife doesn't seem to mind. Even got some different porn with the same girl in it. Its not that hes attracted to her but theres not tons of famous porn stars to choose from those girls are in lots of different movies. and 90% of porn is labled teen or amateur but they're not its just a title. They girls are legal its just marketing cuz it appeals to older guys to have a younger girl thats all. Most of the girls in those teen titled movies are famous porn stars that have been in the business a long time. so chill........its not like hes gonna ever hook up with one of them. Its make believe. Plus if he checking out female body builders then you don't have much to worry about.
2007-05-02 14:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, men looking at their favorite stars don't compare them with their wives. You can get that thought out of the way. He doesn't fantasize you are someone else. Someone else is someone else, get that?
But he is addicted to the whole porn thing. If he strays further into child pornography, he might be arrested and both your life ruined.
2007-05-02 14:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please listen to me on this one. My lover is a porn fanatic. He stays up all night clicking away at the mouse from porn site to porn site. He rents porn, buys porn and beats it to porn every morning I have to work. But the truth is he was like this when I met him, so he hasn't changed and it's not fair for me to want him too. I actually enjoy watching it with him. I'm too secure in my body to care about these other women. Think about it like this, can you seriously be jealous of a chick on a screen...you are here in the flesh!! I bet it will turn him on even more if you gain an interest!!
2007-05-02 13:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by cutie_pie28 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your man may be addicted to porn. I don't think i need to explain why. You are justified, but i think that he is a lost cause. Porn is good and all, but you cant get lost in it. Stop comparing yourself and try to love your man. Thats all i know to say.
2007-05-02 13:45:28 · answer #9 · answered by lowe442 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something is definitely wrong with your husband .It isn't normal
for a married man to spend all night even if it is once in a while watching porn all night specially when he has a pretty wife in bed waiting for him. I feel for you,get your self a subscription to playgirl and see how is likes you looking at nude men.
2007-05-02 13:44:18 · answer #10 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋