Women, would you support a man who wants to be a homemaker?

Question

Ladies, what would you think of a man who wants to be a homemaker? I'm sure if something like Mr. Mom happened to you you could switch roles, but what if you met a man who said that he wanted to stay at home taking care of the chores and the kids while his wife went out to make the money. Would you be attracted to such a man? Would you think he has his priorities straight? Would his attitude be refreshingly liberating? Or would you think he was a lazy loafer with no drive?

No ulterior motives here. The thought just occurred that men unquestioningly without hesitation accept the responsibility to support a wife and family. I wonder what women feel about taking on that role.

Actually Funnel no. I do not think that a woman or a man is lazy for wanting to be a homemaker. I respect any person's desire to put their children first above their own desire to have a career. There is one girl I know that told me that she wants to be a homemaker and it completely shifted my opinion about her. I am now immensely attracted to her simply because she has her priorities in order.

And I'm a dude. Didn't you see the picture? And read my other posts.

Answer 1

I don't know if I'd be attracted but I'd SURELY respect the help I'd get around the house. It just shows that he understands what it's like for a woman and just wants to help which I totally respect. It's def. not being a lazy loafer because being a homemaker is just as hard as a regular job. There's so much responsibility and so much work that has to do be done around the house.

I agree, I think it's universally accepted that men do the work and the women take care of the house and kids. I think change is totally fine. I think that change is needed seeing how there are so many lazy guys out there thinking that they're so much more important in the world since they make the money. Let's see if they can actually cook or take care of the kids. It's definitely a challenge.

Answer 2

For many raising a family and taking of their husband is very important. Many women sacrifice a career to do this, not because they want to but because they care more about their children. If a woman wants to be a homemaker more power to her. Being a homemaker is not an easy job either, there are constant demands. They are not just sitting home and watching soaps all day.

Answer 3

I think its probably a matter of preference. Im male. I think most women would not be attracted. However, the part of your question that really caught my eye was "or would you think he's a lazy loafer with no drive?" Was that a little slip up that reveals how you truly feel about homemakers be they male or female? The # of hate answers would be record setting if a male posted a statement like that dont you think? A good woman that chooses to be a homemaker definately pulls her share of the load, trust me. Why should a male in that capacity be thought any less of? He would be tho. Just some food for thought Madame.

Answer 4

I think that's great, if that's what he really wants to do and would do a good job at it.

I took last summer off from school. Mom and Dad were both working so I had charge of the home. It's been fun. I've learned a lot and developed a very healthy respect for homemakers!

Answer 5

I think any mother will tell you -- there is NO laziness and loafing involved in staying home and raising children and taking care of the home. I don't have kids yet, but when I do, if my husband wants to be a stay at home dad, hallelujah. I think kids are MUCH better off being raised by a family member, especially a parent, whenever possible, and I'll be too busy doing my residency (God willing) etc. to do it myself. So in my opinion, God Bless Mr. Moms!!! (And high fives to all the Suzie Homemakers out there already... :) )

Answer 6

I wouldn't mind taking care of a man that wants to be a homemaker, (if I had a job that could support us comfortably) however my honey intentionally decided to be a Realtor so that he could have more time with the kids and to be able to watch them play there sports, which is something I admire sooooo much. He wants his kids so much that after his divorce with his first wife he fought to have them equally but would have preferred to have them full time. But like you said in a previous question these days it does take two jobs to live well. Men who want to take care of a family at home is not common but I think just as admirable. i am glad that you think that it is admirable for a woman. I get so mad when women or others look at me with confusion when I say I want to be a stay at home mom!! why they think that it is demeaning or something, it is hard work and for me raising my own kids is admirable and meaningful. Now days it is like if a woman wants to be a stay at home mom it is almost frowned upon, as if you never accomplished anything, what kind of S*h*i*T is that????

Answer 7

Here is a slightly different slant on Your question. As a Community Nurse I have to go into many of My client's homes. A good many of them are Men who have had to leave the workforce< due to injury, and are now performing household duties (cooking, cleaning, child care, etc.)whilst their Wife is at a paid position. Are these Men considered to be 'homemakers' or 'invalids'? Think about it for a minute. What is Their social status?

Answer 8

I would be more than happy to accept that role in a man. My husband is planning on taking that on in about a year and I couldn't be more happier. He will be retired and he has already said that he will have the house cleaned, play eighteen holes of golf and have dinner ready by the time I get home. What more could you ask for if you were a working woman. We still have three children living at home and my elderly father so it is not as if there are very few responsibilites. Not to mention all the landscaping and pool work as well. I am looking forward more to his retirement then he is. If I was younger I would also be okay with this option as well. I think it is great for a parent to be their with the children. That is why my husband and I always worked opposite shifts. Best of luck to you.

Answer 9

I have supported my partner many times when they wanted to pursue something different, go back to school, etc. and they've supported me to do the same things. I don't care who makes more money, as long as you respect each other, and appreciate each other, and each do what you want to do the most, that's what counts-that's what feminism is all about: each partner does what they like to do, not what they "should" do because of their gender. It's sexist to assume that only women can be good homemakers and parents. I don't think men should "help", they should be equal partners in the home and as parents, just like the woman should be an equal partner financially, whether the man or the woman is the one working (though let's be real, most families need both parents working).
Good luck!

Answer 10

Absolutely. I would support my husband if he wanted to stay at home and take care of stuff around the house, provided that we could live off my income alone (at this point we can't) and if he wanted to stay at home and take care of things there.
I know it is kind of the non-spoken belief that men go out and work to earn money, and the women take care of the kids and things at home. I grew up differently, with my father staying at home with me as a little kid and doing things around the house, while my mother went out to work everyday. My father had a job he could do from home, so he handled me and all the stuff around the house.

I wouldn't mind taking on the role of supporting the family in a financial sense, provided I worked in a job where the income was good enough that we only needed one income.