I just got married 3 months ago, and everything is going great. Well, the other day he went to the doctor for a checkup and the doctor told him he was overweight (which we already knew...but I don't mind) He came home and told me, and when I said "I like a guy who's big and cuddly," he said "Yeah, we've both gotten fat together." I was like "What do you mean?" but he was like "Well, you know that you've put on a lot of weight since the wedding too right?" But, I didn't know that! He apparently has noticed, so I'm wondering if he thinks I should lose weight, or if he's fine with me the way I am. Picture from only 1 week ago is in 360, tell me if you think I look overweight. Also, help me decipher what he meant please. Thanx!
2007-05-02 12:40:54 · 22 answers · asked by Kate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the poster that doesn't believe that it's me because it's "professionally lit", thank you. My husband is a photographer and he just took that last week...thank you for noticing how great the picture looks, right? He is a really great photographer, great quality. And yes that is me, and no I am not 21...try not to judge people by appearances next time. Oh, and thanks for that compliment about me looking like a model!
Of course, I do understand where you are coming from, there a lot of punky 12 year old's on here, posting gross questions etc. In fact you are probably one of those children yourself. You judge me by the way I look, I'll judge you by the way you type. Don't mess with me today, I'm crabby.
2007-05-03 09:49:56 · update #1
Well, maybe you DID put weight on - have you weighed yourself? Just because you've gained 5 lbs doesn't make you overweight - don't over-analyze it. My husband and I give each other a hard time about being "fat" all the time (I'm 135 lbs at 5'4", he's 250 lbs at 6'2"). It's not a big deal. No one's perfect. And yes, I have gained 10 lbs since we've met, and he's probably gained close to 40 lbs.
2007-05-02 13:03:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-05 06:24:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing is that you have to get on a scale and see if you have gained weight too. He may be mad that the doctor said he was overweight and taking it out on you, which would not be fair. It also could be a wake up call and both of you need to loose weight. At 360 he isn't overweight, he is obese. Don't fool yourselves, it will only get worse.
2007-05-02 12:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie - just as a guy's answer is always "you look fine in that dress" a woman's response is always "You are very handsome and I don't see that you are any different." Men are vain, too. Don't make light of being big, cuddly, or anything like that. The guys want to be muscular and goodlooking, so let him know that is the way you feel about him - and quit wondering about yourself.
2007-05-02 12:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by TLBFH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think ur fine! he's just saying that because he may feel bad that he knows medically that he's overweight. Im 5.6 and weight 140 I could say i'm chubby but if i hit 150-160 my doctor would tell me i'm overwieght so there;s a difference. you might have put a couple of lbs but i think he's only saying that to you to make you feel bad. Funny thing is that guys are really bad at letting us know how they trully feel and when they want to they have a really bad choice of words. o ur not fat ur fine he's the problem but if he sks u to join him going to the gym go for it (for support not becuase you need it) but don't tell him that besides you'll only look even better after a while anyway.
2007-05-02 12:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He means that you have added more weight since you two have been married. He wants you to look as good to him as you did when you got married.
He's upset that he is overweight. Go to the gym with him. Make it a couples thing. Do the workouts you want to do at the pace you want and let him do what he needs to do to loose weight.
2007-05-02 12:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by Rawbert 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen you don't look fat but have your husband start eating veggies being overweight leads to all kinds of health problems heart related and diabetes's
2007-05-02 12:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That photo looks professionally lit and it is of a skinny model who appears to be barely 21. I sincerely doubt that it's you.
Post a photo on your 360 of that same girl, in different clothes, holding a sign that reads, "Hey Answers!" and your story might start to be credible.
2007-05-02 15:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You look beautiful to me! I think he is just looking for an explanation. He wants to think that he's not the only one getting fat. I don't think he thinks you look ugly he just wants justification. Talk to him about it and suggest that the two of you start exercising together. Good Luck!
2007-05-02 12:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by katiej47 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He didn't mean any harm from that comment. He doesn't wanna feel it's all him, but you as well. A normal guy copout, Just tell him, you guys are both going to go on a diet. That'll give him some piece of mind about his fat-***
2007-05-02 12:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by Douglas G 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋