Should there be a separate school/college/world for sensitive people?

Question

Should there be a separate school/college/world for sensitive people?

I tend to get hurt a lot. I stay away from groups or people who look like they can emotionally hurt me. I don't trust people. Have I talked this 'issue' out with my friends and psychologist? Yes, I have. I don't want certain people to know me because then they can see my vulnerabilities. I love being social, but with people I'm comfortable around. People don't understand why I act the way I do, well, don't try to figure me out because I will never open up to you. Don't sit next to me, look at me, just go away. Think of me as if I am invisible. But, if I say hi, please don't ignore me. Sorry for all the times I sent the wrong signals or hurt you because I was afraid of getting hurt. Sorry, but this is who I am. If you can't understand that and I can't understand you, then we shall both part. Goodbye.

I feel like an outcaste whenever I'm put in a certain group with certain people. It feels uncomfortable.

Why do people call this a personality disorder? Ignorant human beings. Waste of my time.

I could be incredibly hurtful to people I hate just with my simple expressions.

Answer 1

I know how you feel.

You may want to read a book called The Highly Sensitive Person. Being an HSP is also about having sensory issues, but it sounds like you may be like that too.

I know I am.

Social anxiety seems to be an issue too. I understand, believe me.

You may be mildly autistic (I doubt it) or maybe you grew up isolated.

I used to not speak to people first either for those reasons, but you are right, most people take it as a slight.

But to answer your question, ah wouldn't that be nice.

But segregation is not the answer. We are all here for a REASON. And we sensitive folks are here to make the world a better place.

I know you suffer, but consider yourself to be a blessing to others.

And you may try speaking to people first even if they don't speak to you. My husband, who is outgoing, says that the point is to think about what YOU want to do and not worry about others.

I have found this to be valid and learn to shrug my shoulders and think oh well, if they don't speak back. But usually they DO. And if they get used to YOU doing it CONSISTENTLY they will too.

Just don't worry so much and go on your way.

Do talk to a counselor, psychologist, rabbi, minister, etc. about this.

Have a nice day.

Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

The thing is that even if you went to such a school, you'd still have these feelings. They stem from an insecurity you harbor and they won't just go away because you associate with other sensitive people. You have to work at it and learn to deal with it. That comes with age and giving yourself time and space. You may never master it completely but you'll get better at accepting it and working around it. Good luck.

Answer 4

So what does your psychologist say... You sound like you have a personality disorder... I dont know what to tell you. Im not a doctor. get more professional help.

Im VERY sensitive. Make that, very EMOTIONAL. If they made a school just for sensitive people... they would never make it in the real world. Should we just stick them all in abubble in the middle fo sea where they don't have to deal with anyone???

Learn to toughen up. Its hard out there. people out there have harder lives and go through crazier situations than you can imagine. Yet they make it through the day.

I dunno. Like i said get some more professional help.

Answer 5

yes or at least the cruel ones should wear a warning label.
I know what you mean... I wind up trying to be tough and ignore them while having my stomach torn in knots, or I just go into avoidance, dancing around issues.

Answer 6

you did talk with a therapist, and friends about your sensitivity. not a lot of people in the world care about others. you're lucky to have friends that listen to you. stay strong and remember that there will always be some people that care about you.

Answer 7

lol.....

isn't that discrimination? How about we accomodate them?

I don't think that you have a disorder or anything... but how is segregating yourself going to help?
Just try to grow a thick skin and try to de sensitize yourself so that you find a way to cope in regular/mean society.

Answer 8

I think that is a good idea I do not like crowds of people I do not know I understand how you feel . ya some times just do not bug me but they never get it

Answer 9

I totally understand you. Trust isn't whats abused and lost, its whats earned.