For those of you that are happily married--when deciding to marry, were you COMPLETELY sure that he was "THE ONE" and if so, what made you so sure? Thanks!!!
2007-05-02 10:44:01 · 14 answers · asked by GG 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
(preferably those who go married later in life, like in there 30's)
2007-05-02 10:51:59 · update #1
Everything just fit. But I was 31 when I got married. i had been through several serious relationships that ended... and I learned a lot about what I wanted, what I didn't want... and when I met him, not only was he everything I knew I wanted, he was everything I never knew I needed. It just fit, it just worked. it wasn't sparkles and sunshine - it was reality. We knew there would be tough times and we knew we could get through those, adn we knew the good times would outweight everything else. We were ready to tackle the world together, good, bad and ugly... So it was time for us.
2007-05-02 10:48:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just knew that my husband was the one I was going to marry. My parents always told me that if you had to question the person you were with then more then likely he isn't the one that is ment to be around for a lifetime. Ask yourself some questions about the man your with: Does he treat you good? Would the man you want to marry do anything for you? An example of anything would be to give up an arm or leg for you. Do you feel like you can't live without the guy in your life? Hopefully this is the type of information that you wanted.
2007-05-02 17:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sabrina K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I decided to marry my husband, I was completely sure that he was the person I wanted to be with. I don't know what you mean by "the one" - this isn't my first marriage, and I was just as sure that I wanted to be with my ex-husband when we were getting married; I'm pretty sure that if he hadn't changed his mind after a few years, we would still be together now. I guess, the realization that there's no such thing as "THE one" makes me more confident in making a decision to marry a person I feel comfortable and compatible with. If I believed there was "THE one" to hold out for, it would have been much harder to decide if I should marry now, or hold out longer.
2007-05-02 17:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the day I got married I was 100% sure that I was making a HUGE mistake and that he was NOT the one I should have been marrying.
HOWEVER, 13 years later I know that I was crazy to think that I could have been with anyone else. He is the love of my life, also the a huge pain in my *** but he is my best friend and I love him as much as I hate him!
2007-05-02 17:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by The Voice Of Reason 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Imagine your life without him. Does it break your heart? My husband and I were living together for five years before we got married. I knew that he was the one because after 5 years, he still gave me that butterflies in the belly feeling. Whenever I planned out my future it always revolved around US not ME. I wanted to experience every part of my life with him, and our relationship was (and still is after nine years) in this awesome stage of being madly in love but being so completely comfortable with each other at the same time. If you feel like that about him, then I would say that he's the one for you.
2007-05-02 17:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by VW Girl :o) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't believe in "the one". For example, sometimes death takes a partner, or sometimes it just doesn't work out, but the heart has an amazing capability of bouncing back and loving again, and if there was only "one" for us, that could never be. If you're asking how do I know if I should marry him, then ask yourself if you see any red flags waving that make you kind of wary. If there are, PAY ATTENTION. If there aren't....then just take it slow, and see how it plays out, and don't be so concerned about if he's "the one". :)
2007-05-02 17:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me it was the way I felt when I looked into his eyes. I know that sounds corney but I could literally see us in 40 years retired and still happily married.
2007-05-02 17:50:03 · answer #7 · answered by #1 Lucy Fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was COMPLETELY SURE! We lived together for 2 months before we got married and we both respected each other --- appreciated each other and enjoyed being together. We've been happily married for 12 1/2 years.
2007-05-02 17:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by DEBBIE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As cheesey as it sounds..yes, I just knew he was "the one".
The only way I can explain it is simply this....I have never felt the way I feel about him with any other guy. There is something different and special about him..and I cant put my finger on what it is exactly and thats the beauty of it.
Now we are going to have a baby!! WHOO HOO!!
I LOVE MY HUBBY!! :)
2007-05-02 17:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2007-05-02 17:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by Dena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋