Would you personally be angry at this?

Question

My (now Ex) Fiancee told me she didn't want to see me ever again, On top of that she told me, "Oh,...by the way I aborted the baby." I didn't know she was pregnant. I loved her very much, and I never treated her badly. She stormed out of my live killing our baby, and I can't get a hold of her. I'm wondered if it was something I did? But I can't ask her, I mean she didn't even take the time to lie to me. I'm wonder how you would tackle something like this so I could move on?

Answer 1

even though you are very angry with her and very hurt this is something that will stick with you for some time i am afraid because you just found out you lost a baby in the process of her selfishness.......people like her will get whats coming to them the ole saying what goes around comes around is very true it might not happen to day or tomorrow but she will get hers and it will be worser than what she did to you.....some people have to learn the hard way and she sounds like she is very deceitful, selfish, inconsiderate, just down right dont give a d***........its nothing you did, its the person she is she is very selfish especially to do something like that to a baby....but then again she may have not even been pregnant and just told you that to hurt you that much more.....that is the kind of woman that gives good women a bad name.....all you can do is just move on and take your time in dating and have fun and just try to get through your ordeal i hate when people hurt someone that loves them for no apparent reason because they are selfish and stuff but you will eventually get through this it will just take time.....

Answer 2

Aborting a baby sounds like a hurtful probably untrue parting shot.. It was calculated to do the most damage with the fewest words...

Look back over your relationship with her.. For her to be able to use that devastating a shot didn't come out of the blue.. Over time you will see many things that happened in a different light..

Concentrate on the good.. You are no longer tied to someone who can be so callus and unkind.. You have the oppurtunity to move on with your life... You dodged a huge bullet by not becoming married to someone like her..

Time is the great healer... You may never know the exacts of what happened but as time passes and you rebuild your life the details will become less and less important...

Focus on your good fortune to have learned wht type of person she is before it was too late...

Answer 3

I don't think that you have any other choice but to be angry, hurt and confused! I'm wondering if you two had a great relationship, or if it was full of struggles? I don't understand why any woman would do something like that. Good men are hard to find, and it sounds like you are one. Maybe you should try to forgive, forget, and move on even though it may be one of the most difficult thing you ever have to do. I mean even if she wasn't pregnant and was just trying to hurt you by saying that, it obviously worked, and I don't think that anyone deserves to be treated like that. I'm sorry, I honestly wish I could help you more.

Answer 4

Find someone better, she's just wrong to do something like that, I don't agree with abortion at all, but she still should have told you that she was pregnant and not just and abort the baby and not include you at all. Then again, she may have made the whole thing up so she could have an excuse for you to leave. it's hard to say, but either way, someone like that is not even worth the effort

Answer 5

What happened to make her say that she never wanted to see you again? And can you even be positive that she was pregnant? Are you sure she wasn't just saying that to hurt you even more? Thats what it seems like she was doing.
I would let her cool down a bit. I can't imagine what happened to make her never want to see you again, but it must have been something she felt was drastic enough to make her want to leave. If she doesn't contact you, then you should try and get ahold of her, after all, if you did nothing wrong, then you really deserve an explanation.
If she continues to ignore you, as much as it will hurt you, you must move on.

Answer 6

See a therapist. She has issues. YOu did NOT do anything wrong. SHE kept information from you, she didn something without even consulting you, and maybe being pregnant scared the crap out of her. And now that she knows she dropped a bomb on you, she's running scared and avoiding you because she doesn't want to face the consequences.

Get some therapy for yourself, and give her time to be able to face you again, but realize that she may never have the maturity to face you.

Answer 7

Well, you look angry, and I'm sure she didn't just storm out over nothing. Then again, she could have lied about a baby just to get back at you for something. Find another girl.

Answer 8

Maybe she wasn't pregnant at all and just wanted to inflict as much pain as possible to get you. There's no telling. Either way, what's done is done, and the best thing you can do is let her move on with her life, and you move on with yours. Keep yourself busy. Goof off with friends. Go do things you've been putting off that you'd like to do because she would have nagged you. Keep putting one foot in front of the other until the bounce comes back into your step. You'll be okay. I promise.

Answer 9

How you ever got mixed up with something like this is unknown without having some idea as to what her frame of mind was sooner.
Of course she could be lying to you to hurt you. Is there another part to the story we're not hearing, there's usually two sides.

I would mark this down and forget it, put it behind you and start life over without her.

Answer 10

Well, sounds like she's a selfish b*tch! That was so wrong of her to do that and not even let you know she was pregnant. What kind of person is she? The best thing to do is just move on. You don't need to find out why she's a psycho and acted like that to you.