2007-05-02 10:20:36 · 20 answers · asked by J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry, you are in full control of your emotions and body, not your husband. YOU choose to let him get to you. YOU choose to be depressed. YOU choose to be crazy... IF you do not like it, then stop now...only you can stop, and you can. Stop with the depression, just don't allow yourself to go there. Look up, not down. Look forward, not behind. IF you cannot find happiness, then move on. No one can give you a magic pill for your problems, you have to cure them yourself. Get started today...as in NOW!
2007-05-02 10:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical Man.
Hon, try to do the things that make your day positive. Try to eat nutritious meals, look into taking a multi-vitamin, get outside with the kids a bit.
If they are small establish a routine of dinner, bath, and bed for the children. This allows the adults some down time at night. You can take a bath and go to bed early, or prepare for the next day. He can sit in his home and have some peace.
If he's really making you nuts, just give him some space for awhile. You read a book, or whatever you enjoy. At least you can do it in peace with the kids settled.
Don't have negative conversation with him. You can talk about positive things, but don't let him draw you into saying negative things.
Start asking him every day if there is anything you can do for him. It shows you consider his well being among all the other responsibilities you have. He may not say it, but he will appreciate this.
Then think about the things you admire about the man. Tell him. Not all at once, just every once in awhile say, "husband, no one fixes a tire like you do" or a faucet , or whatever he does well. Try to mention something daily.
Get some rest. Give it time. Become the woman he should respect.
2007-05-02 12:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you are feeling down. Sorry that your husband does not support you, he should. But make sure that you take the responsibility for yourself and your happiness. Maybe you need to see the doctor about some anti-depressants? Get some counseling or self-help books. Start doing things for yourself. Find a friend to rely on.
2007-05-02 10:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is when pramatism become a vital trait. Being pragmatic, is being able to let things go, not that you don't care but you move on, acknowledging the fact that there is a lot to do and live for. Your husband might porbably be tired of you not letting things go but try bringing to his knowledge that you have problem and you need his help as a husband to go through this before it gets worse. Good luck.
2007-05-02 10:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by Young King 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks he has to solve your problems like superman and he cant because no one can depression has a cycle it must go through. I get depressed, or I say overwhelmed. It is very frustrating to sit by and watch someone else suffer, he doesn't know how to help you, verbalize what help and support you need to help you through the rough patches. You both need patience and time to work together.
2007-05-02 10:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by SP Addict 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need medical attention if you are always sad and depressed. It might very well be that you react overly sensitive to issues because you are sad and depressed. Good Luck
2007-05-02 10:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by What Will The Spill Kill? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand your question, but if your sad and depressed, maybe you should talk to a pshyciatrist and see about an anti-depresent, and maybe if your husband is willing some marriage couseling would help.
2007-05-02 10:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by Kellie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is to stand by you.
Its not your husband's job to make you happy
No person or thing can MAKE someone else happy.
Happiness in an emotion and that is inside of each of us.
I'm happy because I choose to be happy.
You are sad and depressed because you choose to be.
Blaming others for your own actions of lack of actions is stupid.
Its your life not your husbands.
2007-05-02 10:27:54 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let him know that he isn't helping you by driving you crazy when your depressed. Tell him what you want him to do to make you feel better when your depressed. After that If he doesn't try to make you feel better then he doesn't really care aobut you
2007-05-02 10:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? I cant understand the question?
Your asking something like your husband dont do anything and hes making you crazy?
Knock him upside his head, and MAKE him do things for ya.
Remember you married him, and now your stuck with him.
2007-05-02 10:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by Moose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋