2007-05-02 10:17:48 · 18 answers · asked by tr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we jhave had trbl in the past but now he is having trbl trusting what i say he has access to everything we share a bank account and phone records and he still says that i am hiding something from him i try to prove it but i cant figure out a way that would make him happy anymore i dont know what to do about it because he is always telling me i am doing something wrong even if im not
2007-05-02 10:41:01 · update #1
Unless you have given him a reason to believe that you are you should not have to prove anything to him. The foundation to every good relationship is trust. Without trust you have nothing. It either seems to me as though he has some insecurity issues, or reason to believe something. No offense, but without knowing the situation I cannot assume anything. The only thing you can really do is be yourself and reassure him that you love him and he is the only man for you. You can't show him something that he doesn't believe himself. Sometimes people's minds are their own worst enemies. He needs to realize that if he continues to think or accuse you of this he will eventually push you away and then he will really lose you. Good luck and Take care. I am sorry I wasn't much help.
2007-05-02 10:25:22 · answer #1 · answered by angeleyes818 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he's bent on not trusting you, there's not much you can do. But there are some actual hard evidence things you can go over - emails, phone bills with lists of phone numbers, your bank account (because dating costs money), etc. Invite him to go through all of this, invite him to call your friends - just a simple "I have nothing to hide, so feel free to look."
2007-05-02 10:22:28 · answer #2 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of guys/woman tend to find it hard to trust there partner
mainly because they had a bad relationship or bad experience in the past, spending more time with your husband and showing affection and having a good talk about it should clear up everything.
I had this problem with me and my girlfriend but after a talk, it all turn't out very well and we couldn't be any happyier :)
Good luck and god bless
*rusty*
2007-05-02 10:26:11 · answer #3 · answered by rusty.c1ooo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to add more info here. Because, I can answer this question in several ways. But, what makes you ask this type of question.
Are you trying to get him to believe you or are you trying to hide something? See what I mean. Do you flirt with men or women or both? Have you started to dress more provocatively lately, when you didn't before? Are you paying more attention to something else and not to him? Or in other words, what has changed in your life that has caused him to doubt you.
2007-05-02 10:31:24 · answer #4 · answered by dakotaviper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very difficult to prove a negative... Everything depends on whether he suspects that you are cheating with a specific person or with different people. It may also be important whether you have cheated on him before and he knows.
Try talking to him and be honest...even if it doesn't work, it may be the only thing that you can do other than divorce.
2007-05-02 10:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind him that the burden of proof is on the prosecution. Sadly, some people have fixed ideas about what's going on, and will only listen to evidence that confirms their preconceived notions. If that is the case (that is, if your guy is basically paranoid and suspicious), the future looks grim. Try to find someone more trusting.
2007-05-02 10:24:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with daisy. Let him see your bank records, phone records, let him call and check out your stories, check you email. Let him do whatever he needs to until he is satisified that there is nothing that you are hiding. Then after hes all done tell him that you are very upset with him and dont appreciate the accusations.
2007-05-02 10:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a detailed accounting of how you spend your day. Keep no secrets about who you talk to on the telephone. Don't cultivate close friendships with other men. Touch base with him regularly. Emphasize to him the importance of your relationship. And ask him why he is so insecure and afraid. (Hopefully this isn't a power/manipulation thing with him.)
2007-05-02 10:24:10 · answer #8 · answered by Jack07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Live the kind of life you choose and live the truth of a non-cheating life. If he chooses to believe that you are cheating on him that is his problem. The truth is that no one can trust anyone more than they can trust themselves. What is HE up to??
2007-05-02 10:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to prove you are or drop it!!! Don't live like that, it's so controlling. I think being accused of cheating is abusive behaviour turned around to make it look like your fault. Don't take the blame...
2007-05-02 10:23:17 · answer #10 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋