How can i move out? im 16 and my boyfriend is 16, We have a baby togehter, Please help!?

Question

Ok well, I'm 16 & my boyfriend is 16. We have a baby together, she's 5 months old. My mom & dad are getting back together, They both make really good money, My mom is movin back to Texas, & we are currently living in Florida. My life is here, Him & I have raised our daughter wonderfuly so far. I don't want to leave him here, He hates it here. His mom treats him like crap, She hates me, She tortures him emotionally, He feels as if im the only one that loves him and is there for him. Okay, I can't leave him here in Florida to rot, I want him with us, My parents said is was A okay. They were going to help us get our GED's. He alraedy has a Job in Texas for sure. My parents were going to help us get a place to live. Be a family. But his mom is the only one stopping us. What should i do? He can't be here, He will lose it and end up hurting himself badly. And i just can't leave him, He feels as if my family is all he has. And for us to just leave him. What should i do? I want him to be w/ me

Answer 1

You can't raise this kid on your own. Do the right thing and give the kid up for adoption.

Answer 2

You have to think about it this way. You may end up being a single mother if his tumors are life threating. This is not fair for the baby because they may be with out a father.It sounds like a self-fish reason to have a child on your boy friends part. Also not to mention the money it cost to raise a child. I had my daughter at 18 and now I am 20 and it is very hard. Here are my MONTHLY expenses so you can get an idea on how much it costs. Diapers - $15 Wipes - $15 Food - $400 Rent - $880 Utilities - $70 Internet - $35 Phone - $35 Cell Phone - $170 (I have two phones) Transportation -$150 (Gas and Bus Fare) Something special for my daughter - $20 Toliet Paper - $15 Shampoo, Ect - $30 Cleaning Supplies - $20 I always buy what is on sale and this is what I end up spending. I also must buy clothing for her every 3 months of so because they grow so fast and I do by used and spend $100 every 3 months. When she was just born we had to buy everything from a crib to a car seat which was almost $1,000 spent.

Answer 3

reading through the bill someone posted, there are a couple ways to do it legally. his mom doesn't sound like she wants him to go, so i doubt she would sign a form, but you can try it. you may be able to get her to sign a form allowing him to marry you, which automatically emancipates him. if you don't tell her that, and she agrees to let him marry you, then he gets emancipated. she may get pissed but once she signs the form there is nothing she can do, not even sue.
i'm not a lawyer, but this part sounds interesting:
"A minor parent of a child is not considered emancipated except to seek a child support proceeding for the child; consent to the child’s medical care; consent to the minor pregnant mother’s own medical care for her pregnancy; and consent to the child’s adoption."
i don't know if that first sentence, dealing with child support, means supporting the child or finding child care. if it means supporting the child, and he has a good reason to move for the good of the child, then he may be allowed to do that. i would bring this to your parents so they can look into it with a lawyer or someone.
the final option, if he is being abused, is he could report his mom to CPS. as long as you have good evidence (maybe he could use a tap recorder or video camera to catch her) than they will remove him from her custody. that might get sticky, because i'm not sure what they're next legal move would be, either. i don't know if they're allowed to give your parents custody, though you certainly have a strong case. again, this is something your parents should go over with a lawyer.

i'm really proud of both of you. its great seeing two young parents who love each other so much and want the best for each other and their baby. i'm also glad your parents are very supportive. keep working at it, and i hope and will pray for the best for you guys.

Answer 4

It does not technically matter that your bf is not 18. Maturity levels do not depend on the number of days, people have been in the world. It is essential, that you both leave, or you both stay. Remain together and be a family. You can make it through all the hard times, if you truly love each other.
Since you have extremely supportive parents, ask them if it would be ok for you to stay with your bf until he is 18.
If that is impossible or not an option, then check and see if your state allows parents, regardless of age, to be considered adults. If so, then he is free to make desicions regarding his family. God Bless all three of you!!!!!

Answer 5

Unless his parents sign a form allowing your family to become his guardians really not much he can do unless he petitions the courts for emancipation.Emancipation of a minor” generally refers to the process of freeing a minor (person under age 18) from parental control. It means that the parent is no longer legally responsible for the acts of the child. It can allow the child to set up his/her own living arrangement. The term may also refer to freeing the earnings/income of a child from the control of a parent.

I wish you all the luck in the world with your baby and I hope that you and your bf beat all the odds being thrown at you for being "teen parents" and you do get your GED's. Look on the internet for Emancipation Laws for the state of Flordia. By the way all 16 yr old boys feel their parents hate them, and dont let him use the line he'll hurt himself to make you feel gulity

Answer 6

He can go to court and try to become an emancipated minor. It's basically a way to "divorce" your parents. Or maybe he could "divorce" his parents and have your parents named as his temporary guardians. I know if he crosses state lines with your family without his parent's consent then your parents could actually be charged with a crime, so be careful, make sure it's all done legally. Contact an attorney for help and information. Most communities have low cost or even free legal advice. Good Luck.

Answer 7

Well, he could just leave, and don't tell her where you or your parents are going. That way she has no way of tracking him down. When he's 18, then he could let her know where he is without police looking for a runaway. If you two don't want to go that route, you and your family can look into minor emancipation. It's a "divorce", so to speak, from his parents. I live in CA, so I have no clue what the laws or requirements or cost are for Florida, so please look up your own state requirements. This way, she cannot go to the police and report him as a runaway. I've had to choose between my family; I know it's tough, but you two can do it. Good luck!

Answer 8

well, although im sure he loves his mother very much, the day he had a baby with you is the day you guys became a family and you and your baby should be first. i'm sure his mom is upset, but you have to do what is best for the 3 of you and if moving to texas will help your family progress than do it. don't let him stay behing if you know he is unhappy. a family should always stick together.

Answer 9

Your number 1 priority is your daughter. You need to go with your parents. If your boyfriend's mother won't let him go, don't force the issue as she can have your parents put in jail for harboring a juvenile runaway. Go with your parents. Take care of your daughter and each of your get your education. When your boyfriend is 18, he can get a full time job. If he is still interested in making a family with you then you can marry and move in together and work hard for your daughter. Military families are apart for long lengths of time and are STILL able to keep families intact. Try to be a little adult about this decision. You can't support your child and neither can he.

If (as is usually the case) he is no longer interested in tying himself down at 18, you can file for child support and start working on yourself and your child's welfare and best interests. Good luck and stay on birth control.

Answer 10

If your boyfriend has a GUARANTEED job in TX, AND your parents are willing to support him indefinitely, AND your parents are also willing to help you get your GEDs, then look into having him declared an emancipated minor. That is a legal procedure to have someone who is under 18 declared a legal adult.

However, since he doesn't have the job yet, they may not be willing to let that happen, so before you try that, have your mother get in touch with his mother and see if she can convince her to let him come. She may not be willing, but it's smarter to try to settle things in a friendly manner before going to such drastic measures, and your mother is more likely to be able to reach his mother than you are.

Answer 11

Sounds like a very difficult situation.

If he has to stay behind, and if he is unstable enough to do something to himself, you need to have your parents talk to his mother about this. You need to do what is right for you and your baby first and foremost. It is wonderful that you have supportive parents and I am sure they wouldn't have a problem talking to his parent(s). He needs counseling if he is depressed or suicidal...and he needs to be strong on his own before entering a long term relationship. You are both very young and you need to make sure no matter what you do that you are looking out for yourself and your baby before anyone else. If he loves you and if you care for him, you will make sure he gets counseling so that you aren't in a co-dependent relationship....because that certainly is not healthy in any way....especially long term.