My husband and I are having our first baby. Our shower will be girls only, but my husband will be there with me opening presents and hanging out.
We were inviting all our female friends, and our immediate female family members. I wasn't sure if I am supposed to send his step-grandma and step-cousins an invite too. They live 2 hours away and we rarely see them, I barely know them and I don't know if they expect an invite since its a "mother's" baby shower and won't really be focused on my husband. (I didn't invite them to my bridal shower because it was focused on me.)
What do you think? I don't know baby shower etiquette! Thanks!
2007-05-02 09:18:53 · 11 answers · asked by PrettyWifey 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My mom is throwing the shower for us, but I need to make the list for her. I am not throwing a shower for myself.
2007-05-02 09:24:58 · update #1
The focus will actually be the baby who is part of the extended family so whether you know them or not it is best to invite. They can always elect not to come. Better to invite than leave someone out and cause hurt feelings, etc.
2007-05-02 09:25:19 · answer #1 · answered by #2 in the oven 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband are not close to these people, then it would be ok to not send them an invite.
They may feel uncomfortable getting invited to a baby shower of someone they hardly know, anyways.
However, if you feel that it may hurt some feelings in his family, then maybe just consider inviting them... it will be up to them to either come or just send a gift.
You could also ask his mom to help you with invites.
2007-05-02 09:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband shouldn't be there for the whole shower. He could make an appearance at the end.
Yes, extend an invitation to the other side of the family; it would be only polite. Oh, I just finished reading the whole thing. You SHOULD have invited them to the bridal shower, too. That was rude to not have done so.
2007-05-02 10:11:25 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Its hard because you don't want to offend anyone. If your husband isn't close to them and they weren't invited to the bridal shower I would say not to invite them. It might not hurt to ask other "step" family members what they think. Good Luck.
2007-05-02 09:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whether you want the there or not. If you do then send them an invitation and whether they go or not is up to them. If you don't want them there then don't send them an invite. Like you said, the baby shower is focused on you (and the baby of course :)) if you're not comfortable with them there then they don't need to be there, it's up to you.
Have fun at your baby shower and congrats on the baby!
2007-05-02 09:30:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
invite them, u may not know them but your husband does. the baby shower is about the baby and not u.
they were probably offended that they weren't invited to your bridal shower.
2007-05-02 09:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is in friendly terms with his step mom, and his mom is ok with the step mom coming, why not. The baby shower is NOT about you, it's about the baby, also HIS baby!
2007-05-02 09:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by marisanj 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yes i had a baby shower for my daughter and invited her motherinlaw,sisterinlaw and grandmainlaw also to both baby showers actually! it was fun! its all about the baby which is loved and important to both sides of the family! congratulations! good luck.
2007-05-02 09:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by dixie58 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, by all means invite his relatives. If they cannot come then they will send a gift.
2007-05-02 09:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should invite them.. of course they know its about you and the baby. if they want to come they will, if not they wont.
2007-05-02 09:25:35 · answer #10 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋