I'm a young woman (21), and I'm not just some shallow chick who cant articulate my thoughts and feelings into words- except when it comes to this. Why can't I give a seriuosly "deep" answer to why I love him? We met Aug '06 and became a couple that Oct. He said it first, but I felt it in my heart before that- I just didnt want to jump the gun or scare him off. I know I love his personality, laugh, company, smile, touch, drive etc... and I know that isnt all, but I just can't explain it. I just "feel" it, and thats enough for me. What do you think of this? (fyi- I'm not questioning our relationship)
2007-05-02 09:17:35 · 11 answers · asked by his love 4 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
ABSOLUTELY! I WAS MARRIED W/2 SMALL CHILDREN FOR 13 YEARS. STARTED A NEW JOB, MET A MAN FOR ABOUT 10 MINUTES THERE, (HE WAS ALSO MARRIED AND 10 YEARS OLDER THAN ME). THAT NITE I WENT HOME AND TOLD MY HUSBAND I WANTED OUT. IT WAS A TOTAL SHOCK, EVEN TO ME. MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY THOUGHT I HAD GONE PSYCHO BECAUSE I HAD A REALLY GOOD HUSBAND AND OUR MARRIAGE WAS NEVER TROUBLED AT ALL. BUT I CAN TELL YOU THIS GIRL, THE VERY SECOND I LAID EYES ON THAT MAN, A COMPLETE STRANGER, NOT GOOD LOOKING, VERY MUCH ON A DIFFERENT LEVEL FROM MY FAMILY...COUNTRY BUMPKIN VS. CITY SLICKER...ETC..THAT DAY SOMETHING CAME ALIVE IN ME, I TOOK MY BABIES AND MOVED TO AN APT., LEFT THEIR SANDBOX, SWINGSET, FATHER, PETS, EVERYTHING!!!! I WAS UN-STOPPABLE, (CRAZY)! NEXT THING I KNEW, HE LEFT HIS WIFE, HUGE FAMILY UPSET, HUGE!!! WE HAVE NOW BEEN MARRIED 16 YEARS NEXT WEEK AND CAN NEVER GET ENOUGH OF EACH OTHER! HOW DID I KNOW? I CAN'T ANSWER THAT, I JUST FELT SOMETHING HUGE AND TAHT WAS IT. WE HAVE IT ALL HONEY, LOVE, ROMANCE, FRIENDSHIP, LOTS OF FUN AND LAUGHTER, AND...PASSION...OF A KIND I NEVER KNEW EXISTED!! IT JUST KEEPS GETTING BETTER AND GOING WAAAAY TOO FAST! DO PRAY FOR HIM AS HE IS CURRENTLY DEPLOYED TO IRAQ BY THE US DEPT. OF STATE. HE'S BEEN THERE 26 MONTHS AND HOPEFULLY HOME FOR GOOD IN SEPT. THIS YEAR! GOOD LUCK AND GO FOR IT BUT MAKE SURE HE FEELS THE SAME AND NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS!
2007-05-02 09:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by cdstallcup1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I really hope he isn't expecting a definitive answer. That would make me worry about your relationship. Love can not be defined and is just something you can't articulate. Be careful, I do understand. And I think all do, but if they need an answer, they are not right and it will hurt you. If this is just for your own peace of mind, then just believe in what you feel and know it is right.
2007-05-02 09:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't put it into words either ... my "Ex" always asked, but always rejected any reason. I don't think he himself believed in love and trying to force me into articulating this. I still can't.
I have been studying love (solo) in hopes to bring goodness into my life. Here's some quotes you may love and take to heart:
* If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
* Spread love everywhere you go: first of all in your own house. Give love to your children, to your wife or husband, to a next door neighbor... Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God's kindness; kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile, kindness in your warm greeting.
* I have found the paradox that if I love until it hurts, then there is no hurt, but only more love.
* "The success of love is in the loving - it is not in the result of loving. Of course it is natural in love to want the best for the other person, but whether it turns out that way or not does not determine the value of what we have done."
* Love is a fruit in season at all times, and within reach of every hand.
* Men do no great things, only small things with great love.
* The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.
2007-05-02 10:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love and and other strong emotions are based on the deep values that have been set in you starting at day 1
Yes you can name those values if you ask yourself the right questions and answer them honestly, not what you wish were true, but what actually is true.
It does serve you best in reality to do this. Can you change those values, so you can love another type? Probably not unless something very extreme happens to you that causes changes in you.
2007-05-02 09:35:45 · answer #4 · answered by Real Friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always know but you dont know you know until it is told to you. You might ask and people will tell you but you may say, "obviously that but how ,why?" The answer is usually obvious. We often find out what we used to love when it no longer is expressed. You dont know what you've got til its gone. So dont ask anymore questions just enjoy it. Accept it and make it last.
2007-05-02 11:12:04 · answer #5 · answered by ramie box 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need to be able to define it in words to prove that you love him. Sometimes it's unexplainable because it's so surreal and love unlike any other. Congrats, that kind of love is hard to find, don't jinx yourself now!
2007-05-02 09:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Future Mrs. Hamlet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe. um like yea. u might not like get ready for that. just wait. wait a couple years. on new years say what u should say to get all gushy. then sooner or later. yea.
2007-05-02 09:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by galaal13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't put it into words, it's lust. If you can, it ought to be things like admiration, respect, passion, trust, common religions, politics, wish to please and be pleased, comfort, contentment, and extreme anxiety to contemplate life without him...
2007-05-02 10:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's Love........not everything needs to be known....or
defined....
sounds good to me...
2007-05-02 09:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by stumped 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's the meeting of two souls.
2007-05-02 09:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by punkbun03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋