If a person can be bi then they should just be straight. I'm gay. I've tried guys and felt nothing because it does'nt interest me. Trying something does'nt make you bi. Trying it and LOVING it is what makes you bi. So if you can enjoy both why not just be with the more accepted one. I used to wish I could enjoy a man. Life would be easier but I just don't get turned on by them. Is'nt being bi just being greedy. Pick a side.
2007-05-02 09:00:08 · 28 answers · asked by denise804 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't think it's being greedy. It's not like the bisexual people in the world are hogging all of the men AND women! You make it sound horrible. If you don't like both- that's fine, but some people do. I'm sure you don't like it when people harass you about your sexuality, so why be so negative about someone else's?
2007-05-02 09:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
i agree with you. how can you be attracted to both sex? you are either a or man lover or a woman lover. I recently became involved with a gay-bi whatever man. The thing is, he is always trying to convince me he is straight, saying he hates fags etc...is it me? or is it him? he cheats with ugly fat stupid women, and emails and text
the men.i do not understand, his name is Eric Swearingen, maybe you know him?
2014-04-24 22:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by Denise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're beginning to question your own sexuality. You perhaps wish you had the luxary to choose to be with a guy and love it...you perhaps feel that those who choose to be bi are just making it worse for you, because they can pass as "Acceptable"...Being acceptable is not the issue here, you are both the same...like blacks, women, and other minorities are currently in the same boat. Fighting to show that what they ARE is absolutely human and thus they should be equal.
I do find it weird that a lesbian would question why a bi, choose to be bi...you should know better! But i guess we all question somewhere down the line...
2007-05-02 18:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anthony L 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, people pretending to be bi to be "cool" or w/e their reason is wrong. Many people [mainly girls] pretend to be bisexual to get guy's attention or because it's "hot." They're pathetic in my opinion.
Being bisexual does not make you greedy, and you're born that way. I'm bisexual but I'm a loyal, dedicated person and if I'm in a relationship with one gender I wouldn't just go messing around with the other, that's cheating. I'm physically attracted to both males and females, and I can hold a long-term relationship with either. I can see my life partner as a male or a female, and not just because of the sex.
If someone is dedicated to one person and doesn't mess around with others [no matter what gender] then how is that being greedy?
...and it sounds like you're a bit confused too my dear, being gay doesn't just mean you like the sex, it means you can have strong feelings for someone of the same gender as well. Have you ever tried actually being with a female instead of just sleeping with them?
2007-05-02 16:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
I really don't care about what is "more accepted!" Bisexuals don't get to choose who or what they find attractive any more than you do! And bisexuals are only greedy if they cheat or don't commit. I believe that once a bisexual gets married, then they have picked a side! I agree that trying both doesn't make you bisexual - it's how you live. I'm not bisexual - I am a lesbian and I did not choose being gay - NATURE did that for me. But I would NOT have nature make me straight or even bisexual even if I could because neither appeal to me and I love who I am.
2007-05-02 16:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
i don't see it that way. I have been 97 pounds as long as i can remember i am now 29. I was completely straight for 28 years of my life. I was always looking at girls and always had female friends that we didn't mind taking our cloths off in front of each other but we never touched each other.
I got a best friend that's now my girl. i have known her for 6 years and fell in love with her in 03 so why wait til 06 to say something. Because of that very question. I was wondering if i was greedy, I knew gay people weren't going to like me for it and neither would straight people. You know what though when i did tell her and our relationship formed i started gaining weight, i'm happy, i'm finally content with who i am.
(Here's another example so you can see in a "normal life" situation the rules still apply)I am also korean/black. although tiger woods isn't korean he's asian/black and it's kinda the same argument. "Tiger you're black get over it" but he's not just black he's also asian why should he have to deny half of himself just because society say's he's black. He doesn't and so black people are mad at him for not admitting to being one of them completely and the white people are mad at him because they feel they have an n on the field beating them.
Moral of the story: No one is ever goign to be happy with everything you do. the only person that you can live for is you and the only person that can make you happy is you.
In one year of being in my relationship with my girlfriend i have gained 10 pounds. i am now 106. It sounds funny cause i'm still small but i'm happy and my body is showing me that. No amount of criticizm will change how i feel and for the first time in my life i'm in love with someone.If i had only slept with men my whole life i may have never found the love of my life. To be honest i fell in love with her 3 years before we ever slept together so i know it's not just some experiment. I went over in my head all the reason's for us not to be together and there are alot but love means more than what a person looks like it's how they make you feel.
2007-05-02 17:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by kaluah96 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am a married Bi female...I married a wonderful man 11 years ago and wouldnt trade him for anything. He knows me, understands me and accepts me for who Iam.. The Bi female he married. I consider myself bi because of the attraction that I feel towards men and women alike. I dont feel there is anything wrong with being attracted to PEOPLE in general. I would never cheat on him w/ either. We have considered the thought of a 3 some and I would be more than Happy to share that experience with him if the time arises. You fit right in with all the other small minded people...that would tell you to be straight. MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!!! Maybe it stems from your feeling you cant have one or the other. NUFF SAID
2007-05-02 16:24:50 · answer #7 · answered by Babydoll 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Well what difference does it make? Why would a bisexual want to be with just the more accepted one, when it is obvious they enjoy the company of both!? Love is love in any form and if a person wants to be bi, I say let them? Who cares.
2007-05-02 16:34:10 · answer #8 · answered by Captian 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First of all, being bi is NOT being greedy. I'm bi an I find that a very offensive.
I believe that anyone should be with who they want to. Love is love and gender shouldn't matter so why should I care about not being accepted if I'm with a woman. If I love a woman then I'll be with her and if I love a man I'll be with him. I don't care if I'm accepted or not just as long as I'm happy. So no I won't pick a side and how dare you tell me that I should!
2007-05-02 16:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by emilia 2 · 5⤊ 3⤋
No. I don't think it's greedy.
Greedy would suggest that you want to be with a woman and a man at the same time. I don't believe that's what bisexual means. You might have a desire for both sexes, but it doesn't mean that you want to be involved with both people at the same time. That's just cheating.
P.S. who cares about what's accepted. In this world, you gotta Do You!!!
2007-05-02 16:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by coweryshells 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋