I want to have a baby but I am still in College!! PLEASE HELP?

Question

Ok, so I am 18 years old, just finsihing up my 1st year of college! I plan on going to Grad school for physical thearpy. I am in a serious relationship with my boyfriend of 3 years nd am currently living with him, in our apartment. I have dreams of being pregnant almost every night. And believe me I really want to have a baby, but i am afraid it will mess up my carrer... What do you think? Is there anything I can do to get my mind off of it? Should I have a baby? Is it possible to continue school with a child? Please help!

Answer 1

Your young.
wait until you finish school, it is so much easier to have a child when you are financially stable... and already have your career. I understand that you want a child, I was the same way... but then when i found out I was like OMG what am i gonna dooo? Just think about it....

Answer 2

ok. I went to college and to me when get in your upper level classes they are more time consuming and stressful. That is the last thing you want is to have a child and manage school at the same time. Also having a baby is very expensive. So unless your rich and dont need to work to make ends meet then I would wait. I tell you this out of experience and I say that waiting until your schooling is done would be better. Whats a few more years really. Plus you should enjoy this time and relax before you have to go out and get a real job. Having a baby would take up what little time you have and you would be worried all the time because of money. So you would basically be juggling baby, school and work. Why make your life difficult when you can have it all in a few year instead of right now in the middle of school. Think about it. Its a choice that when you go there, there is no turning back. P.S. Pregnancy isnt all that fun to go though always and less stress is best for baby.

Answer 3

WAIT WAIT WAIT!
You are sooo young and have so much to do still. It's wonderful that you are in a committed relationship, but there' s no need to rush.

You, your significant other and your future child will benefit from you finishing school and getting a great job so much more! Also you have life lessons that still need to be learned.

I'm now 29 and pregnant with my first. There is no way I could have done everything I did up to now with a baby. I am so grateful for the experiences I had and the life I lived, so now I can raise my children and provide for them, and not feel like I missed out on anything!

Be smart, think of your future not what you think you want right now.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

You are still not ready for the responsibility of a child.
Having a child requires not only the dreams but the means to take care of it... If you don't have a proper education you cannot get a proper job... And this may cause friction between you and your boyfriend sooner or later...
Finish up your studies, get a job, if not a career and then plan for a kid once you are earning enough to feed another mouth.
Getting dreams doesn't mean you have to get a child...
You could spend time in parks or do some social service with orphans, in hospitals or maternity homes and in schools so that you could be closer to children and get a clearer picture of what is in store for you in it...

Answer 5

well i am a 27 year old with 4 kids and i did it! i was pregant when i was 17 and i had him when i was 18. it was hard to go to school and work and have my son with me. but i did do it. but if you are almost done i really think you should just complete your college first then have a baby. because having a baby it is hard and it drains alot of your funds... i speak with experience. if i could turn back time i would go back to school and get a better education. i only have my grade 12. down here all you will end up with is a factory job or a telemarketeer. so do your education first then have a baby. wouldn't you want the best for your child....

Answer 6

It just boils down to planning. And how your bf feels about it. First and foremost, no babies until you're married, OK? And what's your bf's motivation for marrying you if he can sleep with you with no obligations?

After you get into a stable (married) relationship, then it's just a matter of having enough money to pay for all the expenses that go with having (and raising) a child and what provision you can make for caring for the baby while you're in class and doing homework. If you have a good reliable arrangement for that, then you can manage a baby and school like many others have. If not, then put it off until after you graduate, or forget about school and have all the babies you want.

But do the baby a favor and guarantee a responsible father first, OK? It's not all about what YOU want.

Answer 7

First you should focus more on marriage. And think of the child- it would be coming into an unstable situation. Parents that are only boyfriend and girlfriend, and still in school. First get school and marriage done with, and then once you have a steady job and money saved up then that's the time to start thinking about kids. In the mean time, spend time babysitting and volunteering with activities that involve kids. And please, be wise! It sounds like you have a great career ahead of you, but raising a child right now just isn't the time!

Answer 8

Children need a stable and supportive family life with 2 parents who will love and respect them. If you can't offer that you aren't ready to have a baby. You aren't married, so you need to consider that your partner might not be ready to make that kind of family plan just yet. Careers are not the most important thing in life, but if you aren't ready to have the needs of another person be your concern, you shouldn't be having that baby until you are ready. These are all questions that you have to look inside yourself and discuss with your spouse before deciding.
If you just want to think of a way to get the idea out of your head. Ask to babysit someone else's infant or toddler for a day. Take them to the grocery store and out to dinner with you so you know what kind of trouble that can be. If that doesn't cure you of the desire to be a parent you could always become a volunteer working with children in the community until you are ready to have a child of your own.
Eighteen years old is pretty young and very young to be starting and raising a family. Wait until you have a few more years under your belt before you start making decisions that will affect you and your innocent child for the rest of your life.

Answer 9

A baby doesnt ruin anything it just puts a hold on things Im 19 and I have a 3 month old and I wouldnt trade him for anything in the world...But it does take up time and the first couple of months when the baby still wakes up in the middle of the night its gonna be harder on you for skool...and trust me the worst part is that you are going to want to spend the whole time wit them I work from 8-4 so i dont see my baby from 6 till 6 and I feel like im dying...If you guys have been togehter for 3 years just keep on with your relationship both of you finish your carrers and then take it from there...Its better to have a baby when you have a stable job...Get a puppy or something and spoil it to death to keep your mind off of it treat it like your baby...Good luck wish you the best

Answer 10

hey darlin,
i reckon you should wait a while cos baby's do cost alot of money, you wont have any time to yourself no more. Baby comes first not you. I reckon you should finish college and dont wreck your career, you wont regret it... a good age to have babys is between 22-25 and if you leave it later . your body is much older and your eggs are not as young as they used to be and say if you have a kid when your 30 .. it will be 20 when your 50 .. definitely stick with college and if u and ur boyfriend are still together when your 22-25 then think about it.....Even think about getting engaged and married before you have kids