I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, and he has a very low sex drive, causing me to repress mine. Lately I've been having fantasies that are... more or less disturbing, I feel disgusting for having them and they're so not me! and I'm wondering if its a result of neglecting my needs and desires... Can anyone shed any light on this?
2007-05-02 08:02:23 · 6 answers · asked by Confused 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I think so indeed! In my younger years I was pretty much a wall flower and not knowledgeable in the areas of intimacy what so ever and could really care less one way or the other.
With age (and the right person) I learned and experienced a lot. I had a wonderful life until my boyfriend and I broke up 6 months ago and over the last few weeks I have really begun to miss what we had. I find myself fantasizing as well and I too feel disgusted with myself and guilty to the point I sought counseling. I was told it is normal human behavior but i think my Christian roots argue otherwise.
I couldn't say one way or the other if it is due to sexual repression or just a high sex drive. Just realize that you are not in the boat alone on this and I am glad someone had the foresight to ask this question as I was too embarrassed to. :0D
2007-05-02 08:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Carl Jung might say so.... As I understand his theories, the repressed stuff becomes part of our "shadow self" and in turn we encounter it, among other ways, in our dreams and fantasies. The Shadow is considered by some as our dark side, but others see it as amoral. It is the instinctual, primitive part of our psyche that does not limit itself by the expectations and conventions of society.
However, the best answer to your concerns.... a) Have a talk with your boyfriend (to discuss your needs and desires) or b) get a new one. Who knows, he may really be up for the challenge.
(Hmmm.... A woman who's sex drive is higher than her man's.... All of us men should have such a problem.)
2007-05-02 15:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Shaman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably more a result of your resentment of your boyfriend failing to satisfy you and hostility toward him. That isn't a good situation.
2007-05-02 15:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How bad are they ? As long as you dont act out on them then i think it's okay but just be careful with what you do, maybe you and your boyfriend should talk about it
2007-05-02 15:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by Dia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres the light, get a new boyfriend. maybe you havent enticed him with your body-sometimes guys gotta learn where things fit into place. its not taught in school.
2007-05-02 15:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope but Rapist!
2007-05-02 15:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋