how do i tell my mom that i am no longer a virgin?

Question

i lost it 2 months ago and i think im pregnant and im 16 :(

i was using protection and i have been tested 4 stds/hiv the sttd test was clean and well hiv hasnt came back yet

my dad is dead

i did the pregnancy test and it was positive

Answer 1

why arent you responsible enough to use protection???
she WONT be happy, but now, you NEED her
tell her
NOW

if you WERE using protection, then its not likely you are pregnant
take a home test

since the test was positive, tell your mom Immediately! you NEED her... let her know you NEED her... good luck

Answer 2

If you tell her that you think you are pregnant then she'll figure out the first part.
If you start the other way around then she might be hopeful that you arent' pregnant. Just get to the punchline.

If you can't talk to your mom then you must talk to another trusted person in your life. You need help.

PS
Oh, if the pregnancy test came back positive then you best not dance around anymore and share this with your mom right away. I hope that you don't have HIV. You have an awful lot on your plate.
Now maybe you understand why your mother didn't want you dating that guy, this heartache surely wasn't worth it.

Answer 3

I agree with everyone who believes that you need to do a pregnancy test first. If it is positive, you will need to sit down with your mom SOON and tell her what's up. She probably will be mad at first, but if you are afraid to tell her, its because you know she cares about you and loves you, and I'm sure that she will support you after she gets over the shock. If your test is negative, you need to be careful sweetheart. ALWAYS use a condom. I'm 20 years old, and have been on birth control since I was 15 and I will still not sleep with a guy without using a condom, its not worth the risk of getting pregnant or and std/hiv. You may still have to sit down with your mom and tell her that you are growing up and even though you are not having sex yet (yeah, you might have to lie) that you would like to see a gyno and are thinking about going on the pill, just to be safe. I think your mom will be a little surprised, but also impressed by you being smart enough to know that you need the protection. You also should see the gyno just to check things out and make sure you do not have any std's, since you are so young and sexually active. Also, about the pregnancy thing, you might just be freaking out because you had sex. If you did use a condom, you are probably ok, but are just stressing yourself out and making yourself believe that you are pregnant (been there, done that!!). Get the test, talk to your mom, see your gyno, get condoms and birth control. Good luck honey!!!

Answer 4

About a month ago I found out my daughter who is 15 was no longer a virgin. I figured 1. I could kill the boy (and go to jail!) or 2. I could approach my daughter and ask her. I opted #2 and she answered honestly. Then I put her on birth control. Just tell her - if you come to her and sit down with her, regardless of how lose her canon blows, you told her. She may flip a lid, expect that, she has a right - you are her baby after all. But she won't stop loving you - I love my daughter dearly - and after all, we are talking sex here.. it's not like we never had sex! It's not drugs, it's not alcohol abuse, it's just sex. Yes, I wanted her to walk down the isle and be a virgin on her wedding night. Ok, it didn't happen that way - and life goes on. Hopefully, you are not pregnant, but honey if you are, she'll cope with that too. Just tell her and good luck, I'll be praying for you both. Remember, she won't be angry forever. I'm over it now! :)

Answer 5

I think you should find out if you're pregnant right away. If you can drive (or have a friend that can), go to a clinic to get a free test. The health department in your area should offer them. While you're there, you should ask about laws in your state on your rights, and find out ab out birth control options. This way, when you go to your mom, you're armed with information. No need to give her a heart attack if you're not really pregnant; you can simply ask for help getting birth control. If you are, you'll know and be able to say for certain. I hope that your mom is supportive and helpful to you either way. Good luck! You have a lot of important decisions to make.

Answer 6

If you are pregnant, eventually you and your mother must face that fact. Although pregnacy can change your life, it should not change the love your mother has for you. Often times parents may think their children have gone bad and feel the need to reprimand. You must say to yourself (and believe) you are not a bad person for this. You have become older and no longer a child. You are in a transition from girl to a woman... a natural part of life. In this stage of thier life, teenagers are often in that state of confusion (childhood vs adulthood). What is important though is that your mistake should not be unforgiven. Communicate that to her somehow. If your mother loves you, she will relize that you deserve her love and right now you need more her more emotionally than ever. Think about your future... you may have to stop school for sometime, but that does not mean you can't achieve the things you want to in life later on. College will always be in your future when the time is right for you.

Answer 7

Being a virgin no longer is the least of your worries.

Ask your mother to sit down because you need to talk to her a moment. Tell her you think you are pregnant and why, missed period etc. She will probably arrange to go get a home pregnancy test kit to be sure.

If you are pregnant you must decide what to do. You have three choices abortion, adoption or keeping.

Answer 8

Ask her to go out to dinner or lunch with you. She won't be able to create a scene and yell in a restaurant (unless she's not all that couth), and you'll be forced to discuss it calmly together.

Don't allow yourself to get too emotional. It's okay to tell her you're scared, but you need to show maturity right now.

Also, go into the lunch with a plan. What do you want? How do you want your mom to help you? What are your next-steps? She'll be less likely to freak out if you have a plan like this. Think about it - if you say "Mom, I think I'm pregnant", and then just wait for her to say something, she's going to freak out. If you say "Mom, I think I'm pregnant. I have been doing some reading online, and I think I should do this and this. I need you to support me by doing this, this and this.", she's going to be focusing at least part of her brain on the plan.

Also be prepared with answers to the questions. Who, When, Where, didn't you use protection, and all of those. Don't answer her rhetorical questions, either. If she says "Is this how I raised you to act", don't respond. It starts a different fight that you don’t need to be focusing on. Tell her that you don’t want to fight with her – what’s done is done, and you need her support. She can be disappointed in you later. If she wants to get emotional and yell, don’t be baited into yelling back. Remind her: “Mom, I came to you for help, and you’re not helping right now. If you don’t want to help me, I will go and speak to a school councilor. You can yell at me later.”

Good luck!

Answer 9

You need to sit her down and talk to her about it. I'm guessing you had unprotected sex if you think your pregnant. You need to be on birth control now. You should have thought of the consequeces of having unprotected sex before you did it. If your not gonna get birth control have your partner wear a condom. My cousin is 16 and pregnant and she doesnt even know who the father is. She has no idea how hard its gonna be on her. Be careful next time! Good luck with everything

Answer 10

Before you do anything you should do a test. If it's negative you may not have to tell her. Why weren't you using a condom? Being pregnant may be the least of your worries if you caught an STI/HIV.

Answer 11

no matter wat happens she is still your mother
respect her
sit down n talk to her about everything
u are not going to wait until yur stomach gets bigger n bigger rite? that time yur mom will get hurt even more okay...
she is still your mom n i blieve she loves you,
and to me i think she's the only 1 that can help you to solve your problems
you are still young k, be strong
u cant do anything now but to give birth
dont do stupid things, each seconds the child heart beats together with u gurl...
and why do u do the hiv test too?