Regretting a mistake I have made?

Question

Recently, I turned down a job offer that meant more money (25-30%) and a promotion. I turned it down partly because it sounded like more hours (I have small kids) and I already have a good job. I understand all this, however, it is eating me inside and am regretting it. The company has moved on and hired someone else. I feel like I may not get another such opportunity. How do you get over something like this?

Answer 1

Continue to search for other opportunities that will fit your situation. By being pro-active in this matter you'll feel like you are taking action and not just sitting back and letting it eat you up inside.

Answer 2

Do not beat yourself up over this decision. It may have turned out to the be the best choice you have made in your life thus far. My last place of employment I had been working as an independent HR consultant for over a year. In February of last year they offered me the opportunity to join there executive staff for quite a bit of money. Although I am a single mother of a toddler I had my reservations about accepting. No specific reason mind you. I just didn't have a good feeling about it. After speaking to a few friends I went against my better judgement and accepted. Everything was great in the beginning, but it was alot of work and I barely saw my son. As in all organizations management does change and the CEO hired this individual whom I knew would be nothing but trouble (I personally interviewed him and could not convince the CEO not to bring him in.) Sure enough the first thing on this persons agenda was let me get rid of the threat. Me. He not only succeeded, but I am engrossed in a very nasty legal battle with them now and have been unable to secure employment due to the recommendation this person is giving me. Obviously not good enough he got me fired let me destroy her livelihood. Why is he doing this? I never did nothing to him. He is a low life bully who takes pleasure in hurting people. Something I realized within 5 minutes into the interview. Point is sometimes we make decisions that in the long run may turn out to be in our best interest. You have a job where I am sure you are well respected and liked. More money is nice especially if you have a family, but in the end it does not mean you will have job security. You made the right decision and I think it's great you chose your family obligations first. Remember the more money you make the more an employer expects from you. Your kids will remember what you did for them yesterday, today, and tomorrow. The employer will forget who you and any contributions you made within 24 hours you have left the organization.

Answer 3

You did the right thing. Everything happens for a reason! Your number one priority should be your kids! Now, some people might disagree, and say that you have to make money to support your family. BUT if you were not home as much and did not get to spend time with your family and take care of them then what kind of life is that. Something else will come along... You never know, they might have brought you in, then you were the low man on the totum poll and then you were let go... At least you know your job, and are doing well at it. Keep your head up you made the right choice. There is something better coming your way!

Answer 4

Your family is more important. I think you made the right decision. If you were offered such a job then obviously you have qualities that employers are looking for. I am sure there will be future opportunities. If they hired someone else, then there is nothing you can do. Move on and enjoy your present job and family. Good luck!

Answer 5

You want the extra money but the same hours and schedule you have right now. There is a good reason that you didn't take that job. Don't second guess yourself, your family is the most important thing. You can get over this by thinking about all the time you have to spend with your kids.

Answer 6

It's very normal to have second thoughts on your decision. But, you need to focus on what's more important to you. If money was your priority, I think you have accepted that offer already. So, you are getting what you want here: more time with your family. You only live once, so do not spent most of it making money. ;)

If I were you, I would have made the same decision as well.

Answer 7

You have to tell yourself that you made the right decision. If it turns out that you could have done better by making a different decision, so what? You have to go on the information you have at the time you MAKE the dicision. You made it to spend more time with your children. You can't get that time back if you spend it on a job. I know it all too well.

Life is all about choices. Congratulations on making that one right.

Answer 8

You have to go with your initial gut feeling why you turned it down and move on. You have to believe another opportunity will present itself when you are ready and the kids are older. Concentrate on what you are doing now and do a good job.

Answer 9

i feel like you made your choice on how you felt at that time. so don't beat yourself up about it. now use the extra time on your kids like you were expecting to do. you only live once on earth like this, so go head and be a good dad. believe me your kids will love the time you spend with them. it doesn't have to be a good vacation. just a fun day at the park could do a lot more than you know.

Answer 10

you need to have faith in yourself and your decision..i to in the past have turned down work which may have ment more money but also more time away from my children..they are only young once and in todays world they will not remeber the money you made but they will remember the time you spent with them..you will have many years once your kids are older to prusue better job oppurtunties...you made a good decision to spend more time with your family when it counts the most.