Why does everyone think their spouse is cheating on them?

Question

This place has more drama queens then the audience of "Dr. Phil"

Answer 1

I've read a lot of questions on here that "Is he or she cheating on me".....here's my opininon. If I have to A). analyze my relationship, B).compete for attention or C). worry about it and be afraid to ask, I would want out of the relationship. I won't compete for someone's attention and if I have to keep asking myself, "what does this mean, why does he do this," etc...and be able to communicate with him, then I'd rather be alone. It's too draining for any of these situations to take place. Ladies: If your spouse/signicant other wants to be with you and cares about you, they will MOVE MOUNTAINS for you. It's just the way it is. I've dated a lot and I'm in a wonderful relationship now and he's done just that for us to be together due to conflicting schedules. I'v never been given the chance to analyze or question things. =) That's how it SHOULD BE. Drama queens: Get over it and move on.

Answer 2

No not everyone is.. A Large number of people are these days… for what ever excuse is handy. Unless of course it’s an open relationship. Look around you how common is this???

Yes I’m sure there are drama queens but for the most part NO… people are looking for advice outside of their spear. It’s not easy letting close friends or family know what is going on... Sometimes its best to ask an outsider get other views and angles. Because if you are wrong or wish to patch things up... The people around you will never look at your partner the same.

Look at the reasons why… Their other half is doing things out of the NORM like… working late, not coming home after a night out, lame excuses for not being back, not answering cell phone calls…. Treating you different, accusing YOU of cheating and so forth……It’s out of the NORM. Of course people will jump to conclusions because it’s NOT THE ONLY TIME something odd has happened lately.
How many people these days check each others cell phones, computer tracking, just trying to find out what the hell is going on? They don’t want to be the last person to know. There are reasons why people feel it. Normally they are NOT WRONG.

People work hard to keep things good at home.. Now picture yourself bending over backwards only to get a slap in the face a couple of years down the road. Its hurtful, embarrassing, humiliating and you feel less like a person. It really can do a number on you.

Answer 3

If you are going to stay in a relationship simply so no one else can have them, that is the wrong reason to be in a relationship. And just because you stay doesn't mean no one else will actually not have them. And a lot of times it's better for kids when the parents break up so there isn't any more fighting. A lot of times the people that break up shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. And other times things just don't work out, but I can bet that it has a lot to do with toxic thinking. If a relationship is bad, it's healthier mentally to be alone, or move on to a relationship that could possibly be healthy.

Answer 4

"Everyone" is a broad term, but statistically speaking cheating is happening at an alarming rate. Technology has made it an easy option. I am writing a freelance article and have been doing research by visiting adult chat sites, most everyone in there is married, men and women, and they are looking to hook up and have someone, or several someones, on the side. I've met some real winners, married only one year, two years, three years, 5-10 years, 20 years, and so on- you name it they are there. They chat when they are home alone and the wife is out, they chat from work, they chat on lunch breaks, when the wife is sleeping, they even chat when their young kids are in the same room. They exchange steamy e-mails throughout the day from their own e-mail, or a private account they have set up, they are talking on cell phones or on the phone at work, they are arranging to meet on business trips. They are lawyers, doctors, stock brokers, architects, cops, teachers- all occupations, walks of life, young and old.

People are talking about it and questioning it now more than ever because it is happening. It's not drama it's reality, a serious issue about commitment that needs to be addressed.

Answer 5

I've wondered the same thing. This site is full of these types of questions. I think we have an epidemic of insecure women out there. It's almost like some women spend time "hunting" for this, almost expecting it. Cheating does happen.It's an awful thing and I'm sorry anyone has to ever go through it. Cheating only helps create these insecurities. I have a feeling that many people that "think" their pardner is cheating, has been cheated on before. It destroys trust in a person. If people would spend more time getting to know a potential spouse and staying plugged into the relationship, we'd see less cheating and insecurity.

Answer 6

**I agree...which is why I'm still single, and have never been married.

.I don't plan on getting married either, I mean sure it's nice to have that kind of security and all...but with all the high divorce rates and what not, to me it's not even worth the trouble.

~I'd rather have the luxury of being single (yeah it has it's down sides, b/c you don't always have someone around) but I'd rather it be that way...and if something doesn't work out with a guy, then I can break up with him. Where as opposed to a marriage you have to file paperwork and hire lawyers, and spend lots of money sometimes.

.And yes...I've noticed quite a lot of men and women who have been complaining of cheating spouses etc.
.To me that's a warning sign to stay away from marriage.

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Answer 7

Most of the time if someone has reason to doubt their mate, thet probably are doing exactly what is suspected. This is especially true with men. Personal opinion based on past experience. How do you just assume that everyone who suspects and voices it here is a drama queen?

Answer 8

well it is pushed at us from every angle, TV music computer real life. If it happens to someone down the street who's to say it isn't happening to us. Its an issue that scares us and hits close to home, and if you look at the divorce rate, somebody isn't always keeping their jeans on now are they? It happens, its how to prevent it that we should be trying to figure out.

Answer 9

Because a lot of people do....and when you see it all around you its easy to lose faith.

My BF's guy friends all have 2 year + Girlfriends. But when the GFs do not come along, they all behave likes dogs even in front of me.

One guys GF works nights and he is definitely not faithful.....

Answer 10

I never thought my spouse was cheating on me until he had suspicious behavior. Actually, I married him because I thought he would be the LAST person on earth who would cheat...but, I was wrong.

After a few months of odd behavior, I spied on his emails and caught him.

I have heard the phrase, "There are men who cheat, and men who are dead." I believe it.