I have no children so that's not a factor. Is it worth changing back, or should I just leave it?
2007-05-02 05:45:15 · 18 answers · asked by Roland'sMommy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Personally, I couldn't wait to change my name back. It was like getting a chance to start over again! The only downfall was that my co-workers became awful nosey and gossiped about my personal business, making assumptions when they had no right.... but I figured - 'eff em.
I felt great making the change and being 'me' again. I had no kids and it was a short marriage, but after being together 7 years I couldn't wait to shed that skin!
Good Luck in whatever you choose.
2007-05-02 05:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by persh0512 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and change it back. Why would you want to keep the old energy and a constant reminder of something that no longer exists?
I took my maiden name back and boy, was he insulted. The cheapest way to take your name back is to include it in the divorce agreement. Otherwise, you need a separate legal document re-establishing your old name.
Congratulations on your new life!
2007-05-02 05:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your decision. My married name was worse than my maiden name, and after 20 years of marriage, I decided to take my maiden name back.
It's a very freeing experience. It seems like I reverted back to the person I was before I was married. It's not like I was trying to erase the marriage, because I have 3 kids and they're a constant reminder, but I feel like my identity has been restored.
2007-05-02 05:53:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on you. There's not that much to changing it back. It's just put in the divorce decree that you are returning to your former name, you mail a copy to the SSN adminisration, and take it with you to the Dept of Transportation, and wha-la....your old name is on your stuff again. But if you want to keep it, no big deal. My theory is...it's just a name either way, but if you'd like to carry a family name now that opportunity presents itself, that's cool too.
2007-05-02 05:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you. My mother was married for 24 years, so everyone knows her by her married name and it would be more complicated to change her name back. My bf's mother kept hers the same to, I think because she likes her married last name (plus she is still holding on to the thought of her husband lol). But if you haven't been married that long, it may not be that hard to have people relearn your last name.
2007-05-02 05:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by hellolacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are no children involved, I would take my maiden name back. The connection between myself and my married last name no longer exists.
2007-05-02 05:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you and what you feel is convenient to you. Myself, when I divorced my ex I had children and left it as their last name. Then I remarried. If you don't have any children then I don't see a reason to keep your exes last name. Ultimately, it's your decision.
2007-05-02 05:59:24 · answer #7 · answered by fallenangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had no children together so I changed it back. Made my father and brother extremely happy since they were so ticked off at my ex.
Basically it's your own personal choice.
2007-05-02 05:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by Luv2RIDE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I changed mine back immediately, I did not even wait for my divorce to come through.
2007-05-02 06:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want it just requires a signature to make that decision. If the guy was a jerk I would go back to my maiden name.
2007-05-02 05:50:12 · answer #10 · answered by sissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋