I am planning my bridal shower that will be for couples and I do not know if children should be invited. I have 2 younger sisters, 13 & 11, and many relatives have children between the ages of 5 & 13, should I allow them to come? If so, do I need to put anything extra on the invitation to make sure they know that children are invited?
2007-05-02 05:38:47 · 22 answers · asked by Bride915 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is totally a personal choice. There is no RIGHT or WRONG answer. Do what you feel is most comfortable, but be sure you are consistent. Don't let some kids come and others not. Be clear on instructions for the invitation.
2007-05-02 05:45:54 · answer #1 · answered by ciberpunk1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really don't believe that children, under 12, should be invited to a couples bridal shower. I know that it is difficult to get sitters all the time, but you have to think of the occasion. The conversation, even some of the games might be a bit much for the younger set. Not necessarily x-rated but a bit spicy maybe. This event is for two people about to begin the rest of their lives together, in every way!
If the younger ones do come, then another young person, maybe your 13 year old sister (who probably wants to be in on the shower festivities) could be designated as someone to take the younger children off in an area away from the adults and play games with them, give them snacks, etc. keep it light, enjoyable and stress free for the couple of the hour.
2007-05-02 05:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mahtwo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the shower. Some bridal showers end up turning into sort of a mini-bachelorette party. If it's going to be really wild and there's a chance that things may happen that may not be appropriate for kids, I would say no. But if it's just a small party where people bring gifts and have a good time, and if you're comfortable letting children come, go for it. I had all my friends' kids, along with most of my male friends, at my baby shower and we had a blast. I wouldn't put anything extra on the invitation - just address it to everyone who you want to be there. If the invitation also has the childrens' names on it, they'll know they are invited as well.
2007-05-02 05:49:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's entirely up to you. I went to a bridal shower where all the women and girls were invited to. It was great. The kids were off playing while the women did the gift stuff. For a couples shower both boys and girls should be invited. I think that's especially true given that you have two younger sisters who would probably love to be there. Just make sure that the shower is kept "clean".
2007-05-02 05:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by VW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally up to you, of course. Which would you prefer?
In everything related to my marriage, children were welcome. My husband & I felt that our marriage was not only about uniting ourselves, but about creating a new family within our two larger families. And, children are a very active part of 'family' for both of us. So, children were included at all times.
If you want the children to be invited to the shower (and wedding/reception), be sure to address the envelope to 'Mr & Mrs Smith and Family'. That lets the recipient know that their family is invited. If you don't want children included, you should be able to just address the envelope to 'Mr & Mrs Smith'. Some people are still confused on that, though, so, to make sure you can simply add an 'Adults Only, Please' line to the invitation itself.
2007-05-02 06:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by Maureen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be much more enjoyable if children were not invited. Many times at a couples bridal shower there are a few gag gifts which would not be appropriate for children.
This is basically an adult function and should be kept at an adult level.
2007-05-02 05:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if the people whom you are inviting for the most part have children they should be allowed to come. But if they come what will be doing will there activities for them? But if you don't want them there you need to say that in the invitations.
2007-05-02 05:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by beatyful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a really cool idea. Children get left out of these things a lot. I attended a wedding where children weren't allowed! I think if you are okay with it, and want to do it, then sure they can be invited! Their parents will probably feel relieved too to tell the truth. Just put a note on the invitation saying, "Rugrats welcome." :)
2007-05-02 05:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a kid (around the age of your lil sisters) I have gone to bridal showers (though they were just ladies showers). I say, if you are doing a couples shower, it is probably easier for the couples to bring their children if they have them. You also probably don't have to make special accomodations for them either (though if you know someone who has little toys or games that might help).
2007-05-02 05:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by hellolacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say since you want to make it couples only and no kids; simply put down on the invitation "adults only'....have your younger sisters cared for maybe by a neighbor or someone; OR have them stay out of the way by letting them stay over at friends houses...
2007-05-02 05:43:32 · answer #10 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋