2007-05-02 05:23:27 · 69 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Walk away.
2007-05-02 05:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbi 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Listen - Listening to your speaker during a heated argument is one of the most challenging things you'll ever do. Especially when you believe the information is inaccurate or the speaker is speaking to you in a vindictive voice tone. Clear your mind of all distractions and concentrate on information that you don't already have. Nod your head occasionally to affirm that you are listening. And, always place your need to understand, before your desire to be understood.
Avoid Adding Fuel to the Fire - Eliminate making statements such as: "I'm sorry, but what you're saying makes absolutely no sense at all." Or, "If you would just calm down for a minute, maybe I could explain..." Statements like these only intensify the core of frustration or anger. Instead, go "old school." Bite your tongue when you find yourself tempted to say anything that may be perceived to be condescending.
Flip the Script - OK. This technique requires skills. If your speaker is livid and "lashing out irrationally," he's reacting from the right side (the emotional side) of his brain. Aim to alter his emotional state and get him to the other side, as smoothly and quickly as possible. To do this successfully, you must interrupt his current focus and pattern of communication. First, say his name. Then, immediately ask for clarification. People instinctively respond from a slightly calmer emotional state when they hear their own names. Then, with composure, speak numerically.
2007-05-02 05:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by imissrascal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What my momma always say(Especially if both r heated)..... Tell the person that ur about to get in the argument with that u need 2 take a walk 2 cool off then when YOU get back HOPEFULLY things r cool enough 2 just TALK(NOT ARGUE) about the situation!!!
2007-05-02 05:31:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ms A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First calm down, take a deep breath then listen to what the other has to say. If you feel that you are right then try not to raise your voice. If it escalates, then take a time out then talk about it later some more. Sometimes it's just impossible to avoid if neither of you agree to one thing.
2007-05-02 05:28:50 · answer #4 · answered by aj_squaredaway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when a situation comes up and you disagree depending on how important the matter is to you the best thing to do is state you opinion and mention that this is you opinion and your intitled to it.If the matter is not important sometimes there is no reason to have a arguement just let people think what they need to think good luck
2007-05-02 05:29:52 · answer #5 · answered by angelintown2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the argument or day.
If I feel like crap and dont wanna, I hide.
Otherwise, I get out the good ol' Louisville slugger and try to convince the idiot that wants to argue that it really isnt a good time to disagree with me!
2007-05-02 05:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by witchette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't use words that will escalate the situation. I was just watching an episode of King of Queens last night that talked about this. It was so funny. Glenn is their neighbor who also happens to be a relationship therapist. Doug is saying to Glenn that he was mad at Carrie for buying the wrong kind of frosting and that he really hated it...
Carrie: If you hated it so much, why don't you explain to Glenn how you cut your tongue on the can!!
Doug: She's not following the rules!
Carrie: Oh stop sucking up to him you fudge eating moron!!
Doug: ooh Those are escalator words!!
Carrie: Oh, those are escalator words are they....I'm sorry.......Fat Sask, ya Fat Beaver Tooth, Package Donkey !!!!
Doug: Oh yea, well I got two words for you.....Bo and Tox!!!!
LOL, it was really funny.
2007-05-02 05:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by c_o_l_e_82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wait for them to stop yelling and me and then leave when they´re done, because walking away pre-maturely would only make the other person even madder and me trying to give out my point of view never usually helps either...so i just let them unload and then get away as fast as i can....
2007-05-02 05:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by Jaded 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like to avoid arguements. But, when there is crying going on, someone is manipulating me, so I walk away for a while.
2007-05-02 05:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always get my problems out when they happen. That way it doesn't blow up into something way bigger later. I will take a dozen small arguments over 1 BIG one any day.
2007-05-02 05:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by Mike T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I stop talking. To anyone. I kinda know when I am in a argumentative kinda mood.
2007-05-02 06:05:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋