Our 9 months old is starting to crawl around the house and pull up. Sometimes he falls and bumps his head on the floor, sometimes he cries for a few seconds or 1 minute at the most. My husband is very worried about this. I think it is normal that he falls once in a while (2-3 times a day) and he doesn't seem very much hurt to me. I think the baby will learn balance so he won't hurt himself. There are no sharp corners around, I keep him from electrical chords and other hazards. I always keep an eye on him - but I can't always catch him when he falls!
My question is about my husband! How can I calm him down when he's worrying so much about the baby?
2007-05-02 05:14:50 · 10 answers · asked by Viv 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Normal I think. But keep an eye on him (your husband) if he keeps up that behavior for too long he'll turn your son into an overprotected sissy who can't deal with life and will forever being looking to daddy for help becuase he can't handle life.
2007-05-02 05:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by 47 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I'm a 35 yr old mom of twin 16 mo old boys who didn't weigh 7 lbs together at birth... and I have wood floors! Plus I did in vitro 5 times to have these babies so they were like little diamonds to us. (Not that everyone's child isn't as much a treasure to them... but you get my drift?) Anyway, when these guys started pulling up on things, and even worse, on each other... I could practically HEAR their sculls cracking lol... or so I thought. And I have the real wood floors... laid on cement, then sanded and poly'd. Not the click together kind that are a bit more forgiving. Even with area rugs I remember those thuds! BUT, before recovering all the floors in my new home with shag carpet, I discussed it with my pediatrician... and she reassured me these little heads were tough as nails. She was SO right. At 16 months I am amazed at what they run into, bump into, fall on, ram on purpose! Their favorite game is to head butt until someone just can't take it anymore. I guess it's a boy thing! Take him to the pediatrician with you and let him/her reassure your husband just how naturally tough your baby's little head is... along with all the other part of his little body! While your there get the warning signs of when you should be worried that a bump might have been too hard. But trust me, from experience, mine have had some hard thumps and I swear, at 16 months old... they smart enough to build a bridge across the ocean! Take a trip to Barnes and Noble and buy daddy a book... sounds like you are going to have to reassure your husband a lot! But those are usually the keepers! Good luck Momma!
2007-05-02 12:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by twincrazy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fight worry with facts! Get some information online at baby sites or from your doctor.
Helpful facts to look for that I have found:
1) Baby brains have extra cushioning around them so they are harder to damage with simple bumps. Baby brains are designed to withstand the inevitable bonks that come with shaky balance.
2) Danger signs of a really hard bump are inability to focus the eyes, passing out, disorientation, vomiting. If the baby can cry and cling to you they are probably okay. Even if they get a big goose egg on their forehead. If they exhibit any of the above signs better call the doctor.
Stuff like that. Give him specific things to look for if there's danger and he'll feel more assured.
2007-05-02 12:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by KC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cant stop him from worrying, he is going to do it regardless. It least he shows he cares some fathers could care less.
And to the first answer. You must not have kids, because they do fall a lot and hit their head. Small bumps and falls are normal. They are close to the ground so its not a long fall .
2007-05-02 12:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by Prissy_kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that he's worried, but falling is absolutely going to happen during this process. I mean, c'mon, ask your husband if he really expects your baby to just pull himself up and walk perfectly all of the sudden? As with everything else, walking is essentially trial and error. Your baby has to learn on his own, and he seems to be doing great! If your husband still won't hush, call your baby's pediatrician and ask him to explain it to him.
Remind your husband what it was like to learn to ride his bike. I'll bet ya he fell down a time or two...
2007-05-02 12:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by Miranda 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My son went through a phase of banging his head against walls, doors, etc and my partner was worried but it hasnt done him any harm and neither will little knocks and bumps. Its all part of finding things out, when your son falls and bangs his head, he is learning that those things hurt and when he's old enough to walk those memories will stick.
2007-05-02 12:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's sweet he's a softy.. but kids are gona fall bump heads, break bones, get skinned up on the knees and elbows.. it's part of being a kid. He will be fine, tell him to stop taking womens vitamins.
2007-05-02 12:19:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its nice to see a father caring so much! you dont see that often... babies do fall! they have a thicker skull then adults do thats why they can take a fall and cry for a sec and then go on with what they were doing! falling gives them practice and the ability to learn to stabalize themselves... its perfectlly normal... babies also learn fear when they fall it's good for them to have fears so they learn to be careful!
2007-05-02 12:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by Elle 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your kid sounds normal to me. Kids of that age are not known for balance and grace. That comes with age. Relax.
2007-05-02 12:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by marks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby's shouldn't be hitting their heads 2-3 times a day!
2007-05-02 12:18:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋