Should spouses give space to each other?

Question

Must a husband or for that matter wife reveal all to his/her partner?

Answer 1

Providing space is important to make it work. But the basic thing is to be loyal to each other and desist from doing things that will jeopardise the married life. Unnecessary adventure is bad. Excessive discussion or teasing destroys peace. Some prudence must be exercised.

Answer 2

Some things a spouse doesn't want to know, if you have had sex before you got married to someone else this is something you might want to tell especially if you have never been tested for STD's, but chances are the details of previous encounters will just create problems.

If your wife ask you " does my rump look big in this outfit?"
Chances are she doesn't want the truth she wants you to say something like you look good in everything you wear. While I don't like lying any other answer may have you ending up on the couch and that isn't good either. So if you can come up with an answer that reassures her, but isn't a lie by all means use it.

Lies have a way of coming back to haunt you. So you should avoid lying. If you get stuck try to get her to understand that nothing good can come from answering the question.

While some secrets may be necessary to preserve happiness in the marriage, if secrets start piling up you could have a problem.

As far as space goes that is something only you can answer, some couples need each other continually, some need space.
Find out what your wife is comfortable with and figure out what you are comfortable with, and strive for the middle.

Answer 3

I agree that husbands and wives need their own space, their own friends, their own social network. But why would a spouse feel the need to keep things from their spouse? I'm not saying they have to tell everything, but why shouldn't they? I would think the only reason a spouse wouldn't want to be completely honest with his/her mate is if he/she had something to hide from him/her. Which is not healthy at ALL for a marriage. Husbands and wives should be able to tell each other anything. If you can't, something's wrong.

I agree with Katie, I wouldn't share something with my husband if it were told to me in confidence, and wouldn't expect him to share a confidence with me either. However, if someone does share a confidential matter with me, I'll frequently ask them if I can share it with my husband, to get his take on it, but I'll respect their decision if they ask that I don't do that.

Answer 4

Sometimes its good sometimes its bad. It all depends on the couple. Can one person except the truth and facts about your past? That is if it is what you are talking about. I believe that all marriages should reveal all, except when it comes to suprise for the other. it's what keeps your marriage open and trustful. I have revealed all to my husband though, yes, there are a few things that I am not ready to reveal to hiim. I should be, but I've been building myself up to it. There mostly things about our past together and what nots. And I know there are things that my husband has not told me.. because he has told me that! Its not much less trust but it takes time to reveal something that a person is afriad of.. meaning your afraid you might hurt the other or think something bad will come of it or if that person will think badly of you. Like I said to pretty much sum it up, it depends on how good of a relationship you have and what type of person you are!

Answer 5

Yes a husband and wife should be able to share everything. There should be no secrets between them. I mean, they don't gotta tell eachother EVERY little thing, but nothing should be hidden. As far as space goes, I think its ok if one or the other or both needs a little breather every now and then

Answer 6

When you live with someone, sleep in the same bed, eat the same food, clean up after each other, see each other in the shower or other private times, some times you just need space. We see so much of each other that some times you just need to hold some things back. Feel like you have reatined some of your self.

Answer 7

Yes, of course spouses must give space to each other and respect each other's privacy. No, I don't "reveal all" to my spouse, nor do I expect him to do so.

Answer 8

Space is good, secrets are bad!

Space is needed in every relationship. If you were up one anothers butt's 24/7 it would be a bad thing. There would be irritation, annoyance and fighting.

Secrets kept always end up coming out and always end up hurting. Better to tell the truth up front to save on hurt feelings!

Answer 9

I don't think you should have any secrets with each other, that's never a good thing. If they find out your secrets sometime in the future, they're only going to wonder what else you've been hiding from them.
I think you should have lives outside each other, but should always be open about everything.

Answer 10

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when white wings of death scatter your days.
Aye, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

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