at age 4 of cancer...She took care of him and her husband worked...but had to block it out ...temporary...in order to be able to work..and to tell people that would ask...How's little Johnny doing?'''...he would just say..."Oh, he's doing the best that he can"....(they got the hint)...ANYWAY, a year after he died...the mom felt the marriage was over...and filed for divorce...NOW I CAN UNDERSTAND THAT...BECAUSE OF THE STRESS THE MOM WAS UNDER CARING FOR A CHILD IN A NO-WIN SITUATION...But at the funeral home people were criticizing....and after she left...which i am glad she did not hear it....but they were still critizing her for leaving...why is it their business what she does????
2007-05-02 04:48:45 · 16 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Aw, that is just one of the saddest things I've ever heard! I'm really sorry for their loss and their pain.
My ex husband lost his first child at 9 months of age...the mother of his baby left my ex because she just couldn't deal with being around him anymore. The baby looked too much like the father and I can totally understand this happening.
I cannot believe how judgemental people can be sometimes, especially over something this heart-wrenching. This poor woman (and her husband) are going through something I pray to my God that I never experience...and for people to criticise her for ending her marriage is just the cruelest form of judgement I've ever heard.
This is no one's business. If I knew this woman and overheard such rot, I would blow my top.
Now I need a kleenex. I will remember this mummy in my prayers.
2007-05-02 04:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm so sorry for your friend, I cannot imagine anything worse than losing a child. And, sadly, the loss of a child frequently does cause a marriage to break up, and I'm surprized the people at the funeral home (of all places) were judgemental of her, this woman is burying her CHILD, and they're critisizing her on her marriage. I'm very glad she didn't hear it from them, and you're absolutely right, it is NONE of their business what happens in her marriage. All she needs is support and comfort, not judgemental people in her life. I'm glad she has you at least.
2007-05-02 04:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like to gossip and but in just to cause problems and to me it is sad. but they are bored with their lives they have to and want to interfere with others. When a child is sick it is VERY hard on families and unfortunately alot of times ends a marraige. Those people dont realize what both parents have gone through so they shouldnt judge the Mom. That Mom will be greiving the rest of her life. I feel for both parents for the loss of a child is the hardest thing a person can bare. Be there for your friend, especially during holidays and birthdays, she will need a friend like you.
Gossip and critizing someone is a fact of life, and like I said they are probably bored with their own lives they want to judge others. Hopefully the Mom can ignore it and go on with her life. People are people!
2007-05-02 04:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by helen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say the worst pain you can experience is the death of your child, especially when they are that young. I think it puts a lot of stress on marriages about who's fault, or did they do enough, about how the two spouses are reacting, etc. Marriages often break up over deaths of children. I don't think that is anyone's business but the family involved.
2007-05-02 04:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by hellolacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not their business. It's very common for a couple to divorce after the loss of a child. I don't know how people could be so insensitive. I just wonder how many of them have lost a child and were able to relate to her pain. My guess would be very few.
2007-05-02 04:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because the people of today's world are cruel. Instead of consoling the mother at her loss, they criticize her for it. Most people don't realize how much pain a mother has when they lose a child, and at such a young age.
2007-05-02 04:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by Dallas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not they dont live her life they dont pay her bills. Sounds like a bunch of 2 faced people that love to gossip, how sad they picked her childs funeral to do that. People that live in glass houses shouldnt throw stones. If these people were friends of mine I'd reconsider having such nasty mean 2 faced morons as my friends.
2007-05-02 04:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those people had no business to criticize anyone.
They deal with death on a regular basis and may have become desensitized to human drama.
And it being a child too.......
What a loss. A child, a marriage.
That combination drove my ex to drink and even after 13 years of his baby's death, he still finds it hard to cope.
2007-05-02 04:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister in law lost her son to.People were the same way toward her.To me it looked as though her husband was blaming her and she was blaming him.I have know en 5 couples that have lost children and everyone of them was that way and all of them ended up in divorce.It really is a sad thing.There is nothing you can do that I know of.Just show her a lot of love and let her know you are there for her if she needs you.then be there. Lots of luck and love.I'am truly sorry to hear about her son.This shouldn't happen to anyone.
2007-05-02 05:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by I'm Jerry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not any ones business...There could have very well been other factors for her leaving him, but again it's between the two who were involved in the marriage.
2007-05-02 05:02:25 · answer #10 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋