A partner in our agency came out recently. I overheard some grumblings about, "Why do "those people" have to always shove it in our faces." Fortunately, my newly outed lesbian co-worker explained that the reason she came out was not to "Flaunt her sexuality" but it simply made life easier because we ALL flaunt our sexuality. We tease singles or try to set them up on dates. We display our husbands and wives' photos. She has to deal with being set up on blind dates (with men), or being asked what did she and her husband (she wears a gold band on her ring finger) are doing this weekend or asked questions people would ask a straight woman. When she tries to side step questions it is perceived as being secretive and unsociable. When she just comes out, she is accused of "flaunting it" when all she really wants is the
same comfort level we ALL give each other regarding our personal lives. I have to admit she certainly changed my view about "coming out".
What about you?
2007-05-02 04:31:28 · 10 answers · asked by jessicabjoseph 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I actually counted the number of times my husband and I flaunt our sexuality and I realised we do it ALL THE TIME without realizing it.
I realized perhaps gay couples are really just into each other and making honest displays of affection like holding hands or having arm around each other and not really thinking about what OTHER people think.
Yet some think they are doing it JUST TO OFFEND THEM. Funny huh?
2007-05-02 04:34:08 · update #1
Because they're homophobic. Because people are told homosexuality is wrong. They don't like it, they don't accept it and therefore they will find whatever reason to rag on a gay person, even if they're being hypocritical. It's just the time we live in unfortunately.
2007-05-02 04:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by Trish C 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Qualifier: I'm straight.
People are people. If you give some people $100, they might ask why it isn't $200. You just can't please some people no matter what you do. There also an awful lot of prejudice against gay people, and that has something to do with it. I just learned that there was gossip about me in a city... one-thousand miles away - like they would know the intimate details of my life from there! Love it or hate it, some people are just mean spirited no matter what you do. They probably had miserable childhoods, so I just laugh it off and ignore them unless they are physically threatening me.
2007-05-02 04:39:37 · answer #2 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Lesbian's explanation was very good. I'm glad someone was there to set things straight; too often they aren't.
The vast majority of the time gay and lesbian folks go out of their way to avoid public displays of affection. We were at a wedding for one of the Sensei's at our dojo, with a lesbian couple that are good friends (and students of the sensei getting married). Everyone knows and accepts they are a couple, yet one of them didn't want to get out and dance with their partner when the dancing started. Finally, my wife (straight as the come), started dancing with the one that wasn't afraid. That broke the ice and they started dancing together.
2007-05-02 04:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do not care how they gown, besides the indisputable fact that it annoys me that each intense gay guy/woman I really have encountered in my existence are merely obnoxious and stressful. I do ask your self why they can't merely tone down their personality because it really is considered as a mirrored image on their sexual orientation in this society. I regularly overhear the intense gay adult males communicate about how and who they have had sex with and etc. that is merely as stressful as listening to a immediately guy communicate about how that they had sex with and made out with. that is like showboating and that is stressful. I already get adequate in-your-face immediately nonsense and that i do not favor anymore from them!
2016-12-05 05:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by klingelhoefer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All that you say is true..now add to this mix the fact that these people have been repressed for many years, have hidden in a very small closet...once the hinges break free, there is a tendency to shout it from the roof tops for a while, for the release is cathartic. This soon fades into acceptance and matter of fact. The need to tell everyone disappears soon enough. It really is no big deal. As for those who resent this 'shoving in our faces,' I say to them, get over yourself...big deal.
2007-05-02 04:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say good for her. Good that she came out of the closet and good that she stood up for herself and gave reasons for her coming out.
Yet there are those like Melanie G who feel that by coming out we talk about nothing but sex. I wonder just what her husband talks about on Monday at the water cooler. Or if her daughter acts and dresses seductively on Friday night at the bar. Her MIND has been perverted by Satan.
As for the 'gay days' at various theme parks, every day is 'traditional family day' at these parks.
2007-05-02 06:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by jasgallo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not homophobic - I have gay friends. Two are like sons to me and one is like a brother - but they don't fill me in on the details of their sex lives and I have no desire to know. I believe a sexual relationship is meant to be an INTIMATE, HOLY relationship created by God to take place between a husband and wife. Sex has been perverted by Satan. Frankly, the point is, I don't CARE about anyone else's sexual preference or practices. It's none of MY business. My husband and I don't go around telling everybody what happens behind our bedroom doors and we would just appreciate the same courtesy and respect from others. So why do gays feel the need to tell everybody they're gay? WHO REALLY CARES and WHY DOES IT MATTER? Does their sexual preference change who they are in their hearts as a person? I doubt it. So again, I ask - why does it matter?
Why do certain theme parks have a "gay day" and not a "traditional family day"? That IS shoving it in people's faces, and it's discriminatory. Why can't we just celebrate people in general and walk in love instead of judgment?
2007-05-02 04:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 6⤋
A lot of people are uncomfortable with homosexuality, so anytime someone is openly gay, they think that it's being "shoved in (their) faces".
2007-05-02 04:48:19 · answer #8 · answered by tangerine 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to adjust to behavior by homo sapiens with advanced intelligence who lower their IQ to the degree that rival the behavior of the animal kingdom. Can't see it.
2007-05-02 04:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by Nobody 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sigh.. thats because people like that are selfish, they think everything is about them, they think straight people like themselves are the only ones allowed relationships, sad tbh.
2007-05-02 04:38:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋