My oldest daughter is 15, should I consider putting her on birth control on the chance she might have sex?

Question

Ok, A little FYI here... My daughter and I do have good communication. She is has had sex once in the past and told me about it. She hasn't mentioned the pill and has told me she plans to remain abstinent... BUT... I remember being a teen myself and things aren't always as easy to do as they are to say....

I would NEVER force her into taking the pill but I'm sure she would feel akward about asking me to be put on it.

I do trust her... but trust is not the issue here.

To the idiot who says marry her off... grow the F up.

Abstinence is a great idea and she knows I would prefer she not have sex or think about children until she is 35... but come on... be realistic!

Answer 1

I wish my mother did. We were and still aren't close at all, we never talked about that kind of stuff unfortunately...I had to grow up fast and at an early age. I would definitely talk to her first. Let her know how you feel about it. I strongly believe communication is the key! I love my son to death and wouldn't trade him for the world, but at the time I was still young. I was 19 when I got PG and 20 when I had him. To answer your question yes, even if she is or isn't having sex. It is going to happen eventually that is teenager life and just another bump in the road. Hope I helped a little!

Answer 2

No, I think from reading some of your other questions and answers I think that your daughter is probably well raised and would seek it out on her own if she needs it. I'd give her the info she needs, make sure she has an OBGYN (she should anyway if she's had sex even once) that she can call if she needs to, and be sure she uses other protection too to ward off STD's. May be have some condoms available to her if needed. Prolonged use of birthcontrol pills can cause issues later in life so pushing her to be on it isn't the best idea for her health and it may give her the impression that you don't trust her. The only other reason I can think of that she might want to be on it is if she has very irregular and painful periods, but otherwise I think it should be up to her....... until you find she's having lots of unprotected sex sometime - then I'd push for it more. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Only she and her doctor can decide whether or not to go on the pill. While it has benefits (less cramps, lighter periods) it can cause side effects in some people. And it doesn't protect against STDs.

I think the best you can do is educate her about all the available options, and give her some condoms (which are the best option until she is in a long term, monogamous relationship with no risk of STDs). If you give her all the information, she can make the right decision for her.

Answer 4

Since you can not actually put her on the pill, it is just a figure of speach, you will need to help her realize it would be a smart adult decision. Let her know young women need to protect themselves and take an active role in their reproductive health. You can not prevent her from having sex at all it is her decision and hers alone to make, but you can insure she is well informed and protected. You are on the right track and taking the only realistic approach possible. Although your daughter may obtain birth control on her own, by helping her it shows she can come to you with issues of young adult life.

Answer 5

Well, I would talk to her. Do you 2 have good communication these days? I know sometimes 15 year old dont want to talk but give it a try. Even if she doesnt want to talk then I would advise making her listen. tell her about waiting! tell her all the reasons to wait. I would also tell her about condoms but no the pill. The pill is not going to protect her from STD's!
Also-she is only 15. Is she going out with a guy? Do you know where they are going? keep close tabs on her, she is still very young.
good luck

Answer 6

I have a 17 year old daughter, and while I have talked with her about safe sex, condoms, AIDS, and yes, even abstinence, I have NOT gotten her birth control pills. I feel rather strongly that to do so sends a message that I condone sex outside of marriage, and I do not. However, it's your choice as a parent, but I would talk to your daughter about it first. She has a right to know if you're wanting to do this with her, after all, it's her body.

Answer 7

I've have female friends who started that early, and seemed to think it was a good idea. Not sure if puberty messes with the Pill though, but a doctor could resolve that question.

Add me to the Yes vote list

Answer 8

i put mine on them at 15.. not cause she was sexual but because if u think about how many times have u had sex that u didnt plan...lol its going to happen its life. it takes a few months for the pill to start working. so the sooner the better. i told her its better to safe then srry . and also told her the pill dont keep std`s away that she needed to use other protection. that 1 day she will have sex and she dont need a baby now.

Answer 9

yes. im 16 and my mom has been saying for a loong
time that she's gona put me on it. i wanted to because
i have had sex, but i complained about it to make it
not look obvious. she never took me, and i dont wana
go up to her and say "mom can u put me on the pill"
so i guess condems will do. but yes; thats a good idea

if she says shes not having sex, let her know it regulates
her periods and makes PMS alot easier. that might work
better than "i think youre having sex and youre going on the pill"


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Answer 10

Condoms injury, very actual...if that occurs, wager what...your gonna be a daddy!!! make optimistic your companion is on the pill, utilising a contraceptive foam, or yet another form of start administration. yet a condom is a could desire to whether she is on start administration, to guard from STD's.