What does this eventually lead to?(Lead the woman) how long should a woman take a man sweeping certain things under the rug and not stand up for her...should she stay with a man like this? Why would a man not stand up for his wife..
2007-05-02 03:51:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A man who does not stand up for himself would not stand up for his wife. I guess this treatment could lead a wife in three directions, in this order: 1. she could be hurt but try to guide her husband toward learning to stand up for himself...as in turn, it will lead to standing up for her; 2. she could seethe with anger and be a bitter person toward him and whoever he does not stand up for her about; 3. she could leave.
Another type of man would not stand up for his wife because he does not love her. But I think the above is what happens with most men.
I've seen many men stick by a woman who is always treating people the wrong way, oddly enough, so I know it can't be that men like to be only with nice women who try to do what's right.
2007-05-02 03:57:45 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be lot of different reasons, but if he couldn't stand up for her on anything including important issues, it's time to figure out why and if things didnt' get any better, it would be time to move on. When you're married, you are a team. You become one. There's no sense in being in a relationship with someone who won't or can't be there for you. I've been in a relationship now for nine months now, and he's stepped up to the plate each time that was needed. He's gained a ton of respect from my friends and family =) and I'm greatful for that.
2007-05-02 04:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man should stand up for his woman no matter what. Just like a child. You are supposed to love your child no matter what they do. We were in the river this weekend and this drunk guy splashed me. I didn't want to get wet. So i said can you please not splash me, I don't want to get wet. He sure i'm sorry i didn't mean to. Then he deliberatly splashed me again and my husband was like, hey she asked you nicely to stop slashing around her, can you listen. Anyway. Something as little as that my husband stands up for me. But when i am in the wrong he will tell me and he won't agree with me, or stand up for me. It really depends on the situation. If he is just an a** then leave him. Or tell him that if you wanted to live with an a** you would still be living with your mom and dad.
2007-05-02 04:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother and father both live with my husband and I because they of my father's health. My mother has always hated me and treated me so, just recently she actually attacked me, shocked me and was getting ready to punch me in the face when a friend visiting, saw it and stopped her. Since then when she does talk to me it is with constant verbal abuse. As my husband travels the world and is hardly ever home, I told him all about it and at first over the telephone he was angry and wanted they out. But when he got home, he treats and acts like nothing ever happened. Even help they fix their computer for 6 hours. He leaving again for another job, and I asked him to help me just have a sit down talk with them, and when they came home after being out running around all day with him leaving in the morning, he mentioned to them that he was leaving the next morning and they stood there talking to him of a little while, thanking him for everything. And nothing has ever been addressed about me and how I am being treated in my own home. I just don't know what to do?????
2015-04-25 01:21:48 · answer #4 · answered by Pam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men do not stand up for woman for one of two reasons - 1) What the woman is doing to get herself into a position where she needs defending is a cady, self centered, useless excuse - for example if she expects a man to fight because the guy SHE was flirting with has a girlfriend who caught her and put her in her place!
2)He does not have any respect for her values or beliefs AND in this instance you must be careful not to take your relationship to the next level because if he does not at least respect that you have these values (NOTE - does not have to agree with them) - then he never will.
2007-05-02 04:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by martiek7 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It would be my guess that the woman is wrong and thus the man is not going to cause himself further embarrassment by "standing up" for her. This is typically the case.
2007-05-02 03:55:09 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think if a husband is not willing to stand up for his wife it's because he doesn't believe in her...I also feel that's demoralizing... If your own spouse won't stand up for you then who do you have??? I would love to think my husband would support me even if I'm wrong or vice versa.....He should put me first or even make me feel like "I AM"
2007-05-02 04:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's afraid of someones reaction, but what he must realize is that there should be no one more important to him than his wife. He's vowed to make her most important and he needs to live up to what he promised her.
2007-05-02 03:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Dino 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's disrespectful and means he doesn't put her first. A husband should be the "protector" of his wife!
2007-05-02 04:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes a pu$sy
2007-05-02 04:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by million$? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋