i ve been married to my husband for 12yrs and my life has been a nightmare and i want to get away from him and find a better life, am 35yrs old and life has never been good, pls help!
2007-05-02 03:19:50 · 8 answers · asked by agatha stevens 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to put yourself first and seek some kind of outside help, maybe from a friend or family member to get out....How you lasted 12 years is beyond me, it's a long time to put up being abuse and living a nightmare...Usually we wake up from them, hopefully you have....
You deserve better and need better...Once you take that first step, things will start coming together, but, you have to begin to walk......Good Luck***
2007-05-02 03:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living with an abuser, you need to leave. There are shelters all over your town, no doubt. You need to find one. Ask at any church or government facility. What you don't need is another husband yet. You need to connect with yourself and what you can do on your own first. The reason you allowed the abuse to continue is that you have low self-esteem. People who feel confident don't let others abuse them. You need counseling for the low self-esteem and, once you feel confident in yourself, you can then go looking for a nicer man. Women's abuse shelters have a whole list of free counselors, by the way. Good luck!
2007-05-02 03:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really dont' need to jump into another marriage yet. It's time to get find a way out and file for divorce. There's no reason to stay married to someone who's abusive. If you can, start saving money and find a place to live etc...and file for divorce etc. We don't live in a perfect world, and what I've suggested may be impossible, but just remember...you always have options whatever they may be. Best wishes!
2007-05-02 03:43:03 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not go straight from one man to the next. you need some time to heal, or else you will keep choosing abusive men. The same thing happened to my mom. She was married to my drug addict father for 15 years. Then, when she was your age, she finaly left him for another man whom everyone thought was just perfect for her. He was a clean cut, church goer. He seemed so nice. They got married and he abused us all, he took all our money, ate all our food, and sat on his butt and said "God will provide". She had her two youngest children taken away because of him, He kicked me out on the streets when I was 17.
I was homeless for a while, because my mother just couldn't live alone. After she lost everything, she left him and lived in a house by herself for three months, then she moved in with and then married a redneck, mamas boy, alcoholic, hardass who has made her life hell ever since.
She is currently 51 years old, and trying to leave her third husband.
DO NOT go for another man. You have been hurt and damaged. You need time alone, you need time to heal. Move in with a family member and get a restraining order against your husband. call the cops and tell them whats going on. GO TO COUNSELING!
2007-05-02 03:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious..there are women help groups...check in phone book or online...or get the law involved...not searching for another man to marry you.
2007-05-02 03:29:46 · answer #5 · answered by ~Sheila~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can call me any time day or night. but we have to date first then the other
2007-05-02 03:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
E - Mail me we can talk!
2007-05-02 03:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by solow321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll ask my wife.
2007-05-02 03:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by db14 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋