2007-05-02 03:18:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You can run all you want, but you cannot outrun yourself.
You can only play pretend, but you will never love a woman. You can take viagra to be with her, but it'll be shallow, and empty.
Embrace yourself, accept yourself, it may be hard, but it gets better as you get older, and it's not that bad.
You should accept it instead of taking the easy road out.
But aside from that, you may wish to get some therapy, right now, I know being gay and young can be really hard, especially if you cannot accept it. You're at a far higher risk of depression, and that's not fair to you, or anyone around you. Get someone to talk to, you deserve at least that.
I wish I could help you in some other way I really do, I know how painful coming to terms with it can be.
2007-05-02 05:36:12 · answer #1 · answered by Luis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you stop the sun from rising in the morning or setting in the evening , no . dont struggle with what that is inherently you . im a male to female transsexual and ther was a time i tryed to be the man and thought i wanted to be a man and even when i watched porno the female role just seemed really yucky to me . then i stopped the struggle and just accepted whom i was and everything made sense then . what i thought i wouldnt like was always what was meant to be . today i only know the female role and would not have it any other way the other role long gone and more of a distant memory an unpleasent memory . much of the problem you stated probably just comes down to , you dont want to be percieved as gay by others . you can either live for them , or live for you , if you live for them you will be in constant turmoil all of your life . if you live for you there maybe problems to be met and mastered but in the end you will be happpier .
2007-05-02 04:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot stop being gay. Your choices are either suppressing it (& most likely being miserable) or accepting it & being authentic. It takes time for many of us. Ex-gay ministries fail miserably...one of the leaders in such a group was fired after being found in a gay bar. Reading the "right" books, the Bible, praying, fasting, living heterosexually does not "cure" being gay. We don't need cured of anything. Your only other sane option would be to live a single lifestyle & be celibate...Take your time & do what is right for you. You know what it is in your heart...
2007-05-02 03:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by maeveangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with the flow, guy. You are who and what you are. You can't not be gay any more than you can stop being French or Italian. You're attracted to whoever you're attracted to. Just learn to deal with it. It's called playing with the hand you've been dealt, so to speak.
2007-05-02 04:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only way to stop being gay (i.e. to stop being sexually attracted to your own gender) is to die.
Accept who you are. Come out. You will find life is much better that way. You can't remotely expect a good life if you try to be someone you are not.
2007-05-02 03:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are born that way. You can't just stop being gay.
You can, however, chose to avoid having sex altogether (not an easy thing to do).
You can try to have sex with a female and you may even succeed once or twice (you could be BiSexual - or just thinking of a hot guy while going at her).
Just be yourself - you will be better off that way.
2007-05-02 03:23:56 · answer #6 · answered by nycguy10002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to 'not be gay'. I didn't want to be either. But the way I look at it is, would I rather be gay and happy, or pretend that I'm straight and be doing something that makes me unhappy and frankly, disgusts me?
2007-05-02 03:24:39 · answer #7 · answered by B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, you're gay. Deal with it. You can't change that any more than a duck can change himself into a chicken. Love yourself for who you are and remember that despite what anyone tells you there is NOTHING wrong with being gay.
2007-05-02 03:25:57 · answer #8 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can never stop being gay you can go out and have sex with women. get married to a women and live your life a lie. you can lie to everyone in your life, hell you can lie to yourself but guess what you are still gonna be gay, and you will never change it! you need to come to terms with yourself and be happy and until then you are gonna live a lie. i feel sorry for you and everyone who doesn't understand. you were born the way you are embrace it, love it, live it and just be happy being you
2007-05-02 04:00:04 · answer #9 · answered by Dysfunctional Princess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can contact Homosexuals Anonymous and get help. They provide safe and anonymous support for men suffering from same sex attractions. They treat homosexuality like any other sexual addiction and ( I'm told) with remarkable success. They can be found through your yahoo search engine. remember Nobody is born gay, and nobody has to be gay for life.
2007-05-02 08:28:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋