We a married couple considering swinging. Any pro's or con's. Please advise.?

Answer 1

Only pro's or con's I see in any such relationship is danger of any sexual transmitting disease & the worst scenario if it happens be HIV+ transmitting AIDS, that has no available treatment till now & sure death. Rest you both are married & educated people & know what to do. My personal advice will be to ignore such relationship for the purpose of your health.

Answer 2

I hope your marriage can last through this, most will break up sooner or later. Fantasy is one thing, but the reality is another. In order for this to work, neither one of you can become jealous. Be totally sure that each of you can handle your partner having sex with someone else. Imagine your partner giving / receiving oral sex for example, be clear on how you feel. Often one party ends up falling for someone and that's the end of your relationship. Establish a firm set of rules that each must abide by, eg no continued contact with someone outside of parties for example. Personally, I believe that if your marriage is that emotionless that you have no problem with your partner going elsewhere, your marriage is finished. But then again I am definitely no swinger, and never will be!! It may be for you, just make sure you can deal with any consequences BEFORE you experiment. My advice would be to TALK TALK TALK to each other about anything and everything about swinging so you are both certain this is what you both want, not just one person's fantasy.

Answer 3

Its a good experience spicing up ur marriage, id say go for it, just make sure you and ur husband have an open relationship, gotta make sure neither one of ull are the jealous type otherwise it will never work. U can start up by soft swapping and or watching another cpl and see if its what you want to do, if you get excited and feel that its wht you want, you can join or wait until u feel more comfortable with the situation...there is nothing wrong with being a swinger, just make sure and set some rules if you have any. Keep in mind that HONEST is the BEST POLICY!!!!.....My husband and i are swingers, have been for the past 3 years and a half and its all good....just make sure that its what you both want.

Good Luck and Enjoy :)

Answer 4

Only one constraint see that now a days sexually transmitted diseases are in the air.
otherwise i don't see any other constraint leave and let leave that is the only policy you should have. We all tie ourselves in relationship and norms of the society to such an extent that we our not able to get out of it and get frustrated with these said norms of our own and do not enjoy life as it has to be done . if you both have mutually decided and would like to go ahead then i don't think there is any problem only you shouldn't be lingering into that to such an extent that it could mess up your life. For that matter anything over done is a mess of life for eg: drinks, tobacco and any other habits if we know our limitation then nothing to worry the same way for this also you have to have your limitations and set times which should not be effecting your life in any manner be careful and go ahead

Answer 5

Ask yourselves why you are married. Is it a marriage of convenience or are you really wanting to be committed to each other in love? If it's true commitment then it seems you would want the absolute best for your spouse. If you want the absolute best for your spouse you would realize that all the dangers and traps of casual sexual relationships are probably not worth being exposed to it. If it's a marriage of convenience, you don't take things that seriously, and why even bother asking the question?

Answer 6

If ur bond is strong & u want to give new leaf of life to your relationship..u can do it. Only thing that matter in these kind of thing is faith..if u has this then world is urs. But don't make it a habbit. Do it discretly & preferably on vacations. Avoid doing in ur city & absolutly not with relatives or Neiaghbours. Do share ur experiences after sessions & use it to make life better..I think one swinging session can provide u with enough spices for 6 months or so..

Answer 7

Partner swinging: Mutually agreeing to take chances with ones sinful desires and indulging into it. Since, it's mutually agreed, there are no chances of divorces. Both can spice up their lives with needing legal partners.

So gradually, we are moving back in time, we have started behaving like animals in a sophisticated manner. That's sick. Only pervs would go for it.

All the best...

:-)

Answer 8

Please see the website below for more realistic and practical advice than you'll find here. It's a terrific message board with very friendly board members. They're very level-headed and helpful. Plus there's LOTS of good links and information there. On the site's navigation bar at the top, you'll see "Search". Search for pros and cons there and you'll get your answer. :)

Don't be discouraged by the scare tactics and guilt trips you'll see here. Apparently independent thought is a too scary a thing for many people to bear.

Good luck to you both!

Answer 9

As intuition said, please check-out The Swingers Board for some real, honest, and non-judgmental information about swinging. What I'm seeing here is for the most part simply opinion based on personal fears and insecurities as well as preprogrammed responses based on religious beliefs. I'm not seeing real, open-minded thought.

Answer 10

DON'T DO IT!!!!!! Trust me, it will kill your relationship!! I did the threesome thing and it was the worst thing I have ever done. It was months ago and it still hurts to know that the man I love had sex with another woman. If you and your husband want to spice things up a little bit, go to an adult store and buy some toys, games and what not. It will be something different. If you want to get the feeling of sleeping with someone else, role play or dress different(buy a wig). It is hard to let go of the feeling that you dont satisfy your spouse after he/she has been with another person. DONT DO IT!!!!